You know, as an African American woman, I am sick to death of hearing about how 'scared' whites and 'others' are, of Black people. The white men I encounter on elevators trying to make 'small talk' with me certainly aren't 'scared' (their advances are promptly rebuffed). The white women I see hanging all over Black men certainly aren't 'scared'. You all are so scared, except when you're trying to get a piece of ass. Disgusting, I tell you.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, No one is required to speak to anyone. If you wish to greet someone, you simply greet them, and move on. Honestly, why are you making a racial issue of something as unimportant as who speaks first? You must be bored; tell your supervisor to give you some more work to do.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, The first thing you would do is NOT refer to him or her as 'colored'. You might get popped in the chops for that one. Black people do not like or appreciate being called 'colored'. Try black or African American. And you talk to African-American people the same way you talk to anyone else. We are no less or better than other people. Now I understand why I don't have any white friends, nor do I have a desire to have any. For a race that claims to be superior, some of you are incredibly stupid.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Lynn H., I agree wholeheartedly. For ages, the physical characteristics that black women possess have been frowned upon and considered unacceptable and unattractive - until someone of a different ethnicity shows up with African-American physical characteristics. For example, white women with flat azzes have been purchasing underwear with azz pads and/or hips on the downlow (in secret) for years, while at the same time scoffing at the azzes of black women (remember the opening of Sir Mix A Lot's 'Baby Got Back' video?). While white women were ruining their skin by roasting under the hot sun, in an attempt to 'get a little color', they were scorning the dark skin of Black women. While they were sitting in dermatologists' offices having their lips injected with collagen, they were scorning the lips of black women. And, after the big Bo Derek '10 look', white women flocked to salons to imitate the look, all while deeming the African-inspired hairstyles of black women as 'unacceptable'. What an irony: White folks could wear our traditional styles and be acceptable, but black women, the descendents of Africans, could not.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Years ago I wore braided extensions, and I didn't have your experience. I bought good-quality hair (perhaps you did not) and had it braided at the top hair braiding salon in New York. They looked and felt wonderful. These days, I wear my own, natural hair. As for guys getting close and snuggling, well, that isn't exactly what's on my mind when it comes to hair care. I prefer people not to touch my hair. It's a bit annoying and intrusive.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I don't believe people of ANY other ethnic culture respect black men and women. They don't want to 'date' us in the conventional sense - they want to screw us, bed us down. I would never date a white man. The history between black women and white men in this country is too dirty, too ugly, too hateful. The thought of a white man on top of me, having a 'master/slave' fantasy, repulses me. So I'll stick with black men.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, To approach ANY woman drunk, is an insult. No woman with any self esteem whatsoever, would even give a man like that the time of day. The very fact that some White Men feel it's okay to approach us drunk, says alot about how they feel about Black women. Which is why I heed my mama's advice, to this day...stay away from White men, because they do not have good intentions towards Black women. And Mama was absolutely right.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I've had bad experiences with just about every foreign Black in this country...Haitians, Jamaicans, Africans...but especially with Haitians. So while I won't disrespect Haitians (or any other group, for that matter), I'm not exactly looking to be 'pals' with them, either.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, White men have never looked at WHITE women as 'equals', so you KNOW that they're not looking at us as 'equals', but rather, as the 'dark meat' that most secretly want to screw. And they've always seen Black women as some 'exotic animal'; not as women with hearts, souls and minds. We are like animals to them. And the movie Monster's Ball just served to perpetuate the ugly stereotypes about Black women. White men have a very ugly reputation of sexually brutalizing Black women in the past, during slavery, Reconstruction, Jim Crow and the Civil Rights movement. I believed that propensity has been passed along from generation to generation. And as a Black woman I do not, nor will I ever trust, White men. Because I, and many other Black women (and Black men) know what evil lurks in their hearts.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Seamus is right on point. Most White men, young or old, are not interested in dating Black women, or getting to know us, as women. Their primary interest is sexual. So, to all Black women who might be 'flattered' from the attention a White man might pay you, take heed: he only wants what is between your legs. But then, what else would expect from a group of men who feel they're 'superior', anyway? And keep this in mind...one human being cannot truly love another human being, when he feels superior over another. So watch out, my sistas!
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Speaking of Monsters Ball, I've noticed that White men, drunk or sober, have become alot more aggressive as respects approaching Black women. I find it offensive. I also found that scene between Halle Berry and Billy Bob Thorton equally offensive. So to White men...all Black women are not whores, and we are not here as your 'sexual experiments'. And I won't speak for other Black women but for myself I say, back off...I am off limits to you. Don't even think about approaching me, because I'll cut you to shreds...verbally, that is.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Just about every ethnic group that has come here has treated African Americans poorly. And Muslims are no exception. Whenever an injustice was committed against a black person, I didn't see any 'ethnic' people rallying with us. In the aftermath of 9/11, when Muslims were treated badly, unfairly labeled as terrorists and criminals, my thoughts were, 'Well, now you know how my people feel.' Now they, too, know the humiliation of being labeled 'less than' just because of their color or your religion. My empathy lies with my own people, who are still being treated 'less than.' So sorry, I'm all out of empathy for others.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I live in New York, and the rudest people here are White women. Recently, twice in one week, I had confrontations with two rude women. One stepped on my foot on the subway three times without apologizing, until I threatened to kick the crap out of her; then she apologized and stopped. The other woman didn't want to wait her turn boarding an esculator so she kept trying to nudge me to the side so she could get on. When I threatened kick her butt, she backed off. And last year I had to threaten to yank a White woman's hair out by the roots, because she insisted on swinging it in my face. White women's attitude is that they don't have to extend the most basic courtesies to other ethnic groups. I find that unacceptable.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, AIDS, unwanted pregancies and broken hearts are just three good reasons. I think men who go around having sex with women indiscriminately are nasty - as nasty as women who do the same.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Just who are you to tell black people to 'get over' anything? For your information, I am an African American .. an American black of African descent. I expect to be referred to as such. I really think white people dangerously cross the line when it comes to telling us what we can and cannot call ourselves. You really need to mind your own damn business.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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