I’m 36 and just broke up after three months with a very sweet 20-year-old, Michele, who was simply too young for me. Though we were intimate, Michele and I are parting amicably and never considered the relationship that serious. Her mother, Linda, is 37, divorced and as sweet as her daughter. I know Linda is very attracted to me, and though I think we’d make a great couple, we haven’t said anything yet to Michele. (Michele and I would have split even if Linda wasn’t in the picture.) Michele is a free spirit, but I’m not sure if she would resent me dating Linda or be happy we are together. Is it wrong for me to pursue Linda now that my relationship with Michele is over?
Doug25625, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jacksonville, State : FL Country : United States, Occupation : Restaurant Owner, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 8091
If you have any respect for Michele you should cool it with her mother. Since you say that Linda is “as sweet as her daughter” and “we haven’t said anything yet to Michele,” it makes me wonder how far you have already gone with Linda. It also sounds like Linda is as selfish as you seem to be.
MarshaG, Gender : Female, Age : 48, City : Mountain View, State : AR Country : United States
Have you ever heard the term ‘MOTHER******’?
Gary, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 47, City : Houston, State : TX Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class
The fact that you and Michele were intimate makes this an easy question to answer: Yes. It is wrong for you to pursue her mother. The relationship you had with Michele could and probably will rear its ugly head at some point along the way in the relationship, and it’s not worth the pain, awkwardness or possible distrust. At least go away for a couple of years, and if you still feel compelled to contact Michele’s mom, go for it. In the meantime, you should probably stick with women your own age.
Dorothy, Gender : F, City : Phoenix, State : AZ Country : United States
Only if Michele is OK with it. I would not pursue it if she is opposed. You didn’t say in your posting how Michele took the breakup. She may have a big problem with it if she was much more serious about you than you were about her.
Cathy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 49, City : Clarksdale, State : MS Country : United States, Occupation : Bank Courier, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class
My sister is 21 and is dating a man that is 37. They are deeply in love, but if for some reason they broke up I know that my sister would not allow him to ever date my mom. Everyone in my family would be uncomfortable with this situation, and I know my mom would never do it out of respect for my sister. If you decide to date your ex-girfriend’s mom, I advise you to take precaution. Since you were intimate with Michele, my bet is that things would become very awkward over time if not right away.
Allie, City : Fargo, State : ND Country : United States
Assuming you are serious about Linda, if it ever got to the marriage stage you would have had sex with your step-daughter, which is a little disturbing, not to mention uncomfortable for everyone involved. Simply the fact they are related can be compared with dating siblings…you just don’t go there. Not only will someone end up resenting you, but you might destroy their relationship, too
jemma19686, City : adelaide, State : NA Country : Australia
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