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White women aren’t ‘clutching their purses’ when they’re bedding down with black men, so honestly, how ‘scared’ can they be?
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,African-American men suffer greatly from this insecurity. In our community, more and more African-American women are graduating from college, and parlaying that education into fine careers. Many African-American women are also experiencing the ‘American Dream’: they are buying their own homes. However, while African-American women are reaping the benefits of a good college education, the numbers of African-American men enrolling in college is rapidly dwindling. And for the few who attend, the majority drop out before completion. This causes some African-American men to take less than well-paying jobs; others turn to crime and end up in prison. In fact, there are more African-American men in prison than there are in college. This is why African-American men are especially intimidated by successful African-American women.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It is ridiculous to blame McDonald’s and other fast-food places for children’s obesity. Parents are responsible for what their children are eating. And I understand that the McDonald’s lawsuit was thrown out. Good!
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don’t hate Britney…what I hate is the way the music industry hands out recording contracts to no-talent bimbos, while the REAL talented voices get no recognition. If Britney had a voice like Whitney’s, or Christina’s, or Pink’s, or Mary J Blige, she’d be perfect. Simply and gently put…Britney cannot sing a note…a cat in heat has a better voice than Britney.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Let’s be real…in this country, Black life is not nearly as valued as White life. If the shooters had been Black, White America would have had yet another reason to justify it’s distain and loathing of Black people. And if the victims had attended a predominately Black school, the sadness, shock and outrage would not have been nearly as great. Take the drug epidemic during the 80’s…when news correspondents were on the air, talking about the ‘new’ drug epidemic and how it was affecting America’s teens, I had to laugh and shake my head, because they were talking about America’s WHITE teens…drugs had plagued only certain Black communities, White folks did not care. But when they discovered that their ‘perfect’ children were coming into those drug infested communities to buy drugs, and when drugs eventually began to flood THEIR communities, there was this sudden outcry for something to be done, hence this silly ‘War on Drugs’.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Jake S, you said: ‘By the way, the oft-quoted mantra of, ‘Strong Black Woman’ is interpreted by many black males as being a female with a standoffish attitude, coupled with the inablity to compromise.’ Now, think about this…could it be that Black men… …fueled by their own feelings of inadequacy and inferiority, their inability to reach the pinnacles of success that their white male counterparts have reached, their inability or lack of desire to build a strong nation of Black people, via marrying the mothers of their children and loving and raising their children (you are aware that nationally, between 65-70% of Black children are raised in single parent households), because of the ever increasing gap between EDUCATED, GAINFULLY EMPLOYED BLACK WOMEN and UNEDUCATED CHRONICALLY EMPLOYED/UNDEREMPLOYED BLACK MEN, that more and more Black women are purchasing their own homes and other properties, without the Black Man’s assistance, and that while more and more Black women attend and graduate college, more and more Black men are filling our nations prisons… …have something to do with this callous, ugly sentiment many brothas like yourself have about Black women? I ask because, I know many Black men…and the ones who are successful, who’ve worked hard to educate themselves and find meaningful, well paying jobs, who own their own homes, who live the American Dream, don’t whine about Black women and spew negativity about us, as nearly as much as the broke and busted Black man who has nothing to show for his life. Just curious…
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You made the comment that you’ve dated all races of women…sounds more like you’ve slept around with all races of women, rather than just dated. So my question to you would be, why are you sticking your penis into so many women? Seems to me that you don’t care much about your sexual health (and please don’t give me the b.s. about wearing condoms — they break). The question you should be asking yourself is, why are you such a male whore?
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am one of many African-American women who have decided to ‘go natural.’ I have been wearing braids and have not relaxed my hair in eight months. I will continue to wear braids for another 14 months, and I will wear twists. If I really like them, I will let them ‘lock.’ I encourage other sisters to get on the ‘natural bandwagon’ – it’s wonderful not to have to worry about rain, wind, humidity and fast-moving buses and trucks ruining relaxed hairdos. What a feeling of freedom I have now. I will never relax my hair again!
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Another black male who won’t address the six points I stated in my response to Winston, i.e. the disrespect, drugs & alcohol, abandoned children, hate for successful black women, etc. Black males won’t admit that they are largely responsible for our frustration. And, yes, we are frustrated-we have no tolerance for ‘shucking & jiving’ and irresponsible behavior-we’ve had it! If black males were loving, caring, supportive & responsible & accountable, most of us would be quite happy and content. We are the only group of ethnic women who seem to be in very short supply of this type of man. Many of us feel hurt, used, put upon, and unprotected-we practically exist in this world with no male counterpart-we are totally alone. Finally, Vincent B., admit that you prefer women with white skin, thin lips, straight hair, thin noses and who are passive and that you don’t like women with dark skin, full lips, kinky hair, broad noses and who are a force to be reckoned with, and who are, in reality, the true success stories in our race.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Maybe black girls and women are difficult because of black men’s:
1) Lack of care, respect and concern for our physical, mental and emotional well-being (physical, verbal and sexual abuse).
2) Lack of consideration for our communities, urinating in hallways, disposing of empty 40-ounce bottles of beer on the street, loitering and being a general nuisance to the rest of the neighbors.
3) Lack of concern for the lives of black children, fathering children and abandoning them, selling drugs to our children, allowing others to come into our neighborhoods and sell alcohol and cigarettes to our children.
4) Lack of appreciation for our strive for excellence – black men respond with jealousy and envy when we become educated and dramatically increase our salaries.
5) Lack of appreciation for our physical beauty, though this is nothing new – black men have always preferred white women over us.
6) Lack of appreciation for the way we’ve loved and defended black men, fought every struggle with you, from slavery to the present, and took up the slack financially. We didn’t have the luxury of staying at home with our children; we were busy taking care of white folks’ children so we could earn a living and keep food on the table.User Detail :
Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,There are no African-American female homemakers because, quite simply, African-American males do not want the responsibility of a wife and/or children. My married sister-friends take their little babies and toddlers (not yet of school age, mind you), in the worst weather conditions, to daycare centers and babysitters. Their husbands own cars, and you’d think they’d be concerned enough to either a) give their cars to their wives to make their travel with young ones less hectic or b) buy their wives a used car, at least, to make their lives a little easier. But these ‘brothers’ are more interested in their wives bringing in more money. They didn’t even allow their wives the ‘luxury’ of one year of bonding with their babies. My God, I was better off as a single parent (my dad took care of me and my son until he was two, and helped me through college). My mother didn’t work until I was 10 and my sister was seven. And my mother left work early every day to pick us up and bring us home. Brothers, if you can’t take care of your family, at least until the kids start school (which is around 3 or 4 years old) then you don’t deserve a wife and children. Simple as that.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,To Sam of Chicago: The ‘wounds of slavery and Jim Crow’ are no excuse for the dismal treatment that many of my friends and I have received from black men – we don’t deserve it. We have always loved and supported black men through the best and worst of times. I am a good woman, conservative in manner and dress, who is respectful and thoughtful of others, and I instill these and other good values in my six-year-old son, who is my world and No. 1 priority.
Here is a sample of the hostility I receive from black men: Degrading comments about my body (I dress conservatively – some friends say too conservatively), offers to ‘stop and talk,’ and when I don’t respond the way they feel I should, they become insulting, invading my personal space by pressing their leg against mine on public transportation, etc. It’s bad enough these things happen to me, but I become extremely resentful when it’s done in front of my little boy; he certainly doesn’t deserve this. I have not attempted friendships and, especially, ‘relationships,’ with black men since my son was born. I believe the hostility black men display toward black women is extremely dangerous to my son, and to me. As his mom, it is my responsibility to protect him from anything and anyone who could cause him harm. I realize my decision is extreme, but I feel that me and my little boy are better off.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
