[RhondaOutlaw]

Another black male who won't address the six points I stated in my response to Winston, i.e. the disrespect, drugs & alcohol, abandoned children, hate for successful black women, etc. Black males won't admit that they are largely responsible for our frustration. And, yes, we are frustrated-we have no tolerance for 'shucking & jiving' and irresponsible behavior-we've had it! If black males were loving, caring, supportive & responsible & accountable, most of us would be quite happy and content. We are the only group of ethnic women who seem to be in very short supply of this type of man. Many of us feel hurt, used, put upon, and unprotected-we practically exist in this world with no male counterpart-we are totally alone. Finally, Vincent B., admit that you prefer women with white skin, thin lips, straight hair, thin noses and who are passive and that you don't like women with dark skin, full lips, kinky hair, broad noses and who are a force to be reckoned with, and who are, in reality, the true success stories in our race.

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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[RhondaOutlaw]

Maybe black girls and women are difficult because of black men's:
1) Lack of care, respect and concern for our physical, mental and emotional well-being (physical, verbal and sexual abuse).
2) Lack of consideration for our communities, urinating in hallways, disposing of empty 40-ounce bottles of beer on the street, loitering and being a general nuisance to the rest of the neighbors.
3) Lack of concern for the lives of black children, fathering children and abandoning them, selling drugs to our children, allowing others to come into our neighborhoods and sell alcohol and cigarettes to our children.
4) Lack of appreciation for our strive for excellence - black men respond with jealousy and envy when we become educated and dramatically increase our salaries.
5) Lack of appreciation for our physical beauty, though this is nothing new - black men have always preferred white women over us.
6) Lack of appreciation for the way we've loved and defended black men, fought every struggle with you, from slavery to the present, and took up the slack financially. We didn't have the luxury of staying at home with our children; we were busy taking care of white folks' children so we could earn a living and keep food on the table.

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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[RhondaOutlaw]

There are no African-American female homemakers because, quite simply, African-American males do not want the responsibility of a wife and/or children. My married sister-friends take their little babies and toddlers (not yet of school age, mind you), in the worst weather conditions, to daycare centers and babysitters. Their husbands own cars, and you'd think they'd be concerned enough to either a) give their cars to their wives to make their travel with young ones less hectic or b) buy their wives a used car, at least, to make their lives a little easier. But these 'brothers' are more interested in their wives bringing in more money. They didn't even allow their wives the 'luxury' of one year of bonding with their babies. My God, I was better off as a single parent (my dad took care of me and my son until he was two, and helped me through college). My mother didn't work until I was 10 and my sister was seven. And my mother left work early every day to pick us up and bring us home. Brothers, if you can't take care of your family, at least until the kids start school (which is around 3 or 4 years old) then you don't deserve a wife and children. Simple as that.

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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[RhondaOutlaw]

To Sam of Chicago: The 'wounds of slavery and Jim Crow' are no excuse for the dismal treatment that many of my friends and I have received from black men - we don't deserve it. We have always loved and supported black men through the best and worst of times. I am a good woman, conservative in manner and dress, who is respectful and thoughtful of others, and I instill these and other good values in my six-year-old son, who is my world and No. 1 priority.

Here is a sample of the hostility I receive from black men: Degrading comments about my body (I dress conservatively - some friends say too conservatively), offers to 'stop and talk,' and when I don't respond the way they feel I should, they become insulting, invading my personal space by pressing their leg against mine on public transportation, etc. It's bad enough these things happen to me, but I become extremely resentful when it's done in front of my little boy; he certainly doesn't deserve this. I have not attempted friendships and, especially, 'relationships,' with black men since my son was born. I believe the hostility black men display toward black women is extremely dangerous to my son, and to me. As his mom, it is my responsibility to protect him from anything and anyone who could cause him harm. I realize my decision is extreme, but I feel that me and my little boy are better off.

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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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