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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, I won't go into why you might be attracted to the Gothic image; that is something you will have to figure out. And I know this doesn't sound too cool, but instead of getting your parents over to your side, why don't you compromise and go with just black clothing? When Goth first appeared, it was an intense look, but it did appeal to a lot of people (mostly older teens and young adults in larger cities like London, Los Angeles, etc.) So, instead of doing the hair, the make-up and the jewelry thing, most of us just started wearing black street clothing. You know, normal shirts, with normal pants, but all black. Although I am now 45, I still prefer to go out in all black. What is also cool is to go with different colors, but all along the dark, Gothic line - like dark reds with black, dark blue and black. It all speaks to the energy of a Gothic mind. In your mind, don't associate your desire to look Gothic with trying to shock. Use it to express your nonconforming individuality. Seriously, who wants to look and dress like everyone else? That's just boring.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Do the same thing enlightened white people do: realize you are prejudiced and change your thoughts to reflect that all people are human and no one is better or less than anyone else. A person's thoughts and actions define them, not their skin tone.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Please do yourself and those around you a favor and get an education. I understand the anger you feel as a minority, but your mind could be put to better use if you stepped out of the conspiracy theory world and learned something about the world, biology, history, etc. Then, if you could pass on what you learn to those around you, just think of the world you might help create. I apologize if I seem harsh, but 30 years-plus into this pandemic to hear a young person spout what you did is too much.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, I have known several different people from those different cultures, and I almost chuckled to myself because I used to be just like you. Now, however, I can tell a Korean from a Japanese person with the best of them. And yet I cannot clearly give you any physical characteristics that would define a person, because culture also plays a part in one's appearance. You will just have to get out and make some new friends from those cultures, and you, too, will be knowledgeable after some time.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Why don't you find out and report back to us? If they are flirting, take them up on it and find out if it is flattery, lust or love. You will only know life by living it. Good luck.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Unlike your religious preference, homosexuality is not a choice. I know you like to think it is, as this allows you your prejudice to go unchecked. Your lack of knowlegde of genetics is apparent by your comment, so I won't even address this ignorance. I tire of non-gay people stating as fact that homosexuality is a choice. Did you choose your straightness? And do you constantly remind yourself not to look at guys and desire them? No, because you are constantly reminding yourself of your dogma (religious belief) and how to be a bigot.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, It all depends. I am a bigger guy; sometimes I bump, and sometimes I get bumped, regardless of age, sex and race. It can be an aggressive or self-centered thing. You being smaller are an easy prey. It may also be disrespect. Although guys pretend to be dense, they know who and when they want to give sh*t to someone.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, I live in New York, and only black men get my instincts up. A lot of the time, it is their manners (or lack of) that scares me. Or they are poorly dressed, have bad hygiene or engage in aggressive talk. To be honest, I have only received crap on the streets from black guys, be it aggressive begging or just anger. So it is a self-preservation thing, i..e. just be ready, because you just never know what to expect.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, I don't know if it is so much that people are ashamed as they just don't know the signs. Some of us have become so caught up in a negative cycle that we just assume 'that is the way we feel.'
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, Read a New York City newspaper.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, I am considered a sexy/attractive male and get attention from others all the time. The difference is women are much more subtle about it. They can say so much more with a sustained look and smile than a man who is making gutteral noises. Cat-calling and making sounds is usually done to impress other males in the vicinity. The male feels it shows his sexual prowess. I don't think it has a thing to do with the woman involved. Being rude to someone is a put-down, not a compliment.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, To Monique: Prove to me it was a choice I made. And while you are at it, please tell me about the time and place you made the choice to be straight. And don't waste my time with scripture. I want to know how you know it is a choice.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, This has been a message I have tried to get across through questions and answers on Y? Forum: everyone has difficulties in life. Just because I am white doesn't mean people are nice to me. I am greeted by disgruntled people all the time. At work, I am constantly trying to keep my job from overachievers who want everything. I meet mean people from my own race, your race and every other race. A difference I do note is that white people don't blame someone else, because they realize life is sometimes a pile of crap and just move on. It seems from your question that you just want a monopoly on suffering. Well, if that is what you want, go look for it. I, on the other had, keep my head down, take care of the people I love, keep my job so I can pay my way through this life and in my spare time try to have safe fun. So I caution you on your 'racist' view that ALL white people have to do is get up and think about what minority to oppress.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, I have wondered the same thing. I am a gay white male and don't get it. I think it is like any form of racism or prejudice. My theory goes like this: if you are self-serving (greedy) and believe there is just so much of the world to go around, you will structure conflict and reasons to deny others out of this limited existence. This need to slander, rate and process in an emotionally detached manner other people, customs or ideas reflects more on the amount of fear that one will not have enough in this lifetime. And unfortunately, gay white males are not the only minority that practices racism. It could also be that they face so much prejudice that they wish to pass it on. Another less-than-lofty thought process for any minority group.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States, 
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