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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,The biggest difference I see is that the people are married. In the black culture, I don't believe people marry as much, so it is just refered to as murder. Whites, I believe, have a more conservative sense of family, so when that relationship is abused, it shocks more, hence the headlines. Don't worry, no one group has a 'heads-up' on the murder market.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,I am going to appeal to your Native American heritage when I say that most people see more than just a physical image when we look at others. We don't always discuss it, but we know in general if a friend feels well or not, if someone is generally happy, mean, nice, etc. So I suspect that you are depressed, and instead of spending your attention on the whys of that, you are going off into an area not in your best interests. When you feel well on the inside, the outside has no choice but to reflect it. Unfortunately, the reverse is true. So please don't spend time/energy on trying to overcome an internal issue with an external solution. It will not work. Be nice to yourself and take the time to learn more about yourself. I suspect that one day soon you will notice that the looks you receive are not regarding your depression, but probably some positive attribute of yours.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,It isn't that we don't know these things. For me, it is rather the fact that the shipping of slaves from African occurred almost 200 years ago. I am sure it was terrible, but I notice that instead of moving forward, there seems to be this desire to relish in the misery. Being a gay person, I too know something about bigotry and being denied God, relationships and a fulfilling life. But I try my best to keep my head high and live my life. Don't get me wrong, I speak about the injustices my people experience. I believe the Jewish people have done a good job of moving forward after the Holocaust, yet never letting us forget what can happen. That only occurred 60 years ago. They have since started Israel, where many have relocated to make it a powerful country. With respect to researching one's roots, isn't that more of a reflection on the cultures in Africa than the current state of affairs in America? In Europe, they have been recording births, deaths and families for century upon century. Why African cultures didn't is a question you will have to ask of them.If I may, there is one question I have always wanted to ask. If so many Americans of African descent are so unhappy here, have they ever thought of relocating to Africa? And if they have, why haven't they? I know the cultures would be very differnt, but over there, there would be like people, and the good could be taken from here (i.e. education, business skills, arts)while leaving the racist bad behind.
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Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,I never had a choice; it was just who I was. Thank you for asking - so many heterosexuals assume the answer is 'chosen.'User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,Let me offer you some advice. I doubt you will like it, because I didn't like it when I first heard it, and I am trying to put it in place for subsequent relationships. The advice is: Don't have any expectations. The Buddhists say that expectation is the source of pain. Try to just enjoy the time you have in the moment. If you go too far from the moment, you will find that between your baggage and his, there will be no one to porter them for you, and your relationship will not be so grand. So please, enjoy your relationship while you have it. By staying in this moment, if you are strong enough, you can turn this moment into forever.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,Maybe you should look more closely at your life. Are you fulfilled or are you just getting by? There is this unspoken energy in this country to just fit in. Get a job, regardless of whether you like it, pay your bills, go through the motions of buying the crap you think you need or are told you need, and ultimately, find someone else with whom to spend your remaining days. Just maybe you are someone who requires more out of life. Do you have any hobbies, dreams of creativity or anything else you are suppressing? Spend some time trying not to fit in, but rather create, and see if happiness doesn't come from that. Please be forewarned - the creative path is not supported well by our culture, and sometimes it may seem as if creative people are more persecuted than the average Joe/Josephine. I have always felt a low level of depression in my life, and not until I started to develop creatively did I find some peace. Best of luck. You are a young man with quite a bit of time ahead of you. Don't squander it by just being 'here.'User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,If you look up the term "monogamy," among its varied definitions, one is 'having only one partner at a time.' I suspect that in the relationships you have had to date, there was some time when you two were only seeing each other. In response to your question, I suspect if you discuss each other's views of relationships prior to adding intense emotions, you might avoid a painful realization in the future. As you are 17, you will gain more experience with which to view your involvements and how to maintain respect and integrity for yourself.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,Being a gay male with a lot of experience with lesbians, I have never seen one wear any Winnie the Pooh clothing, accessory, etc.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,Maybe it is only your Christian perception that homosexuality is a lower behavior form. Maybe it is higher than you can understand.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,Your question is as similar as my asking, 'If Christians are enlightened, why are they so ignorant.' Do you see the parallels. I hope so. IF you would take the time to research, scientific information, not Christian biased information, you would find that homosexuality is experienced in most mammalian forms. As a Gay person, I find your question very much laden with a predisposition towards putting me down than trying to answer a valid question you might have. I just hope Y-Forum will give my answer the same light of day they gave your question.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,I think a person's response to illness is probably related to their connection to this life. Their connection might be reflective of the type of life they have lived. If one's life has been relatively easy, with friends, family, security, happiness, etc., then when confronted by a threat one would be distraught. Whereas, if one has experienced mostly pain, suffering, and loss, then the prospect of leaving this place might not be such a bad idea.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,I have lived in both places and have heard the same conversations on both sides of the country. I would just like to offer that what you expect to see, you will see. I have wonderful friends in California, and the same here in New York. The two areas are completely different with respect to energies, topographies and people. But both have nice people and mean people. I would also like to know why this question was allowed out there on Y? Forum. It is not a question, but rather a prejudicially laden statement. I thought the forum wasn't about that.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,For me, it was an intense feeling, both mental and physical, of wanting to be close to certain people, and those people were of the same sex. I found females attractive and appreciated the friendships we had, but the attraction toward guys was such a unique feeling that I realized I also wanted to be with them physically. I wish you the best as you grow through your understanding of yourself. Always be true to yourself and you will find your way.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,You are not alone. A lot of men have this problem. It has to do with stress. You are unable to relax the mechanism through which your urine flows. I find for myself, it is the prospect of peeing on demand that causes the problem. When it occurs, it usually involves large lines in restrooms, no privacy and a self-imposed need to conclude my business quickly. All of these factors conspire against me and as such I cannot readily pee. I have used biofeedback to relax the process, and this helps immensely. Bottom line: It usually isn't a hugh problem, just irritating.User Detail :
Name : Matthew, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 45, City : New York, State : NY Country : United States,
