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If you’re sure it’s not in a sexual way, and the child is developing in all other matters in a “normal” manner (meaning he’s not acting out sexually, he’s developing appropriate boundaries with respect to issues like modesty, independence, self-esteem, etc.), and she’s not exposing him to her sexual activity (with self or others), then I’d say you’re over-reacting. There are entire cultures where the communal bed is kept for the entire life of a child until they get married and move into their own home. Why does the mother refuse to put the bed together? Does she not have the tools or the time? Does she not have the room to put it up? Would she allow someone else (like you, maybe) to put the bed together?
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,It’s eating unhealthy all the time that is the problem. It’s lack of exercise all the time that’s the problem. Giving kids candy one night out of the year isn’t going to hurt them in the long run. Kids go out on Halloween for the candy, not for apples or some other non-edible treat. But you can always pass out healthy treats, like yogurt covered raisins or peanuts. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Some elderly people become very saddened by their loss of independence. Some become afraid and that fear may manifest as anger and resentment at younger people who can still do what they can no longer do. But my parents are both 70 and I’m 49. My dad recently game out to help me remodel my bathroom. I couldn’t keep up with the man. He was walking through the lumber store with a 4’x8′ piece of 3/4″ plywood in his hands all by himself! By keeping as active as he does, I think he keeps his independence longer. I work in a nursing home. Many of the residents I care for have lost the ability to do anything for themselves. And some of them are grateful when you help them, others are resentful and still others have no idea what’s going on. Some do nothing all day but eat and sit in their wh
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,but perhaps the best option would be to volunteer somewhere that interests you. That way, you’ll know that you’re meeting someone who shares at least one of your interests. There’s all kinds of places you can volunteer, even if you live out in the country. Church/synagogue/temple activities can be a good place to meet people. Join a gym or a take up something like tang soo do or another martial art. Take continuing education (credit or non-credit) courses at your local community college. Or even sign up to teach a continuning education non-credit class either at your local community college or through your local high school or even your church. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,In this country, we have a very puritanical view of alcohol (among other things.) We don’t teach our children to drink responsibly. We make drinking this “reward” you get when you reach 21. And we regale them (maybe through our talking to friends when they’re in the room) about how much fun we had when drinking and all the situations we got ourselves into and we’re laughing about it and they see that and think “That’s a good thing if they’re laughing about it. I want to do it.” But they can’t. Because they’re only 14 or 15. They see their parents/aunts/uncles/cousins/family friends getting drunk at family gatherings but they’re not allowed. Kids, when they’re forbidden to do something, seem to go out of their way to do whatever it is they were told they can’t do. My oldest son went t
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,It may help get thoughts organized. Talking to a third party might help you see that there are other ways of looking at things than the way you were looking at them. It may give them ideas on how to approach their spouse. To find out if their parents had the same kind of problem and if so, what they did about it? Some people have issues with confrontation. It’s very difficult for them to say to their spouse, “We have to talk.” Sometimes they need that third party to help them figure out how to do just that. If you’re the spouse of someone who does this, it’s kind of ironic that you posted this question rather than ask your spouse why he/she does it.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,you don’t. Osteoporosis is a painful disease that causes bones to become very brittle. She may be afraid that if she remains sexually active, she may end up with a broken bone or something along those lines. Then she’d have to go to the hospital and it would be embarrassing to explain how she broke her hip or her leg or a rib….And that fear may be contributing to her low sex drive. She needs to talk to her doctor about the risks of remaining sexually active and to see if there’s anything she can do to minimize the risks of breaking a bone. But in the end, if she doesn’t want to make love anymore, you have to accept that or move on. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,First, why does he want you to sleep with a black man? Second, what will it do to your marriage if you do it? Third, how will you deal with the issue of jealousy? Fourth, is this a one-time thing or will it be ongoing? If a one-time thing, what happens if you enjoy it too much to “give it up”? Fifth, how will you find this black man? How will you protect yourself from STDs? What if HE becomes emotionally attached to you and/or your husband? Sixth, what if your husband wants to join in? How will that affect his sense of who he is or your feelings about him? Seventh, does “casual sex” fit into your ideas about what a marriage constitutes? How will you redefine your marriage with respect to casual sex? Eighth, what if the black man you find isn’t as “large” as your reali
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,There is an emotional and physical benefit to being a virgin until one meets the person one wants to spend the rest of his/her life with. On an emotional level, it’s one hell of a gift to be able to say and/or hear, “You’re the only one who I’ve ever let touch me like this.” On a physical level, a woman’s chance of getting cervical cancer increases if she has more than five sexual partners in her entire lifetime. There’s the risk of STDs, unplanned pregnancies (which carry their own inherent risks), UTIs, etc. There’s also the ego/false pride thing of being someone’s first if you set out to be the first knowing the other person is a virgin. IOW, if your intent is simply to be the first because you can, it’s an ego/false pride issue on YOUR part. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,In Asian cultures, particulary, the elderly are given a great deal of respect. Also in the Native American culture (both North and South of the border), the elderly are greatly respected. In America, the elderly have become like so much else in our lives: disposable. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,They’re ways in which the subconscious works out who it is, what it wants in life, etc. The subconscious is experimenting with the body in which it finds itself living this life. It’s exploring and discovering. It’s answering questions that most of us are afraid to even admit we want answered. Questions like, “What would it be like if…?” or “Would I like it if…” Sexual arousal, especially for men, is more a matter of touching the right spots on a physical level. Even for some women this is the case. That’s why so many victims of rape feel ashamed: because they experienced an orgasm while being raped! The body responds to touch even in some cases when the mind is repulsed at the thought. This is especially true for teenage boys who have about 100 times the normal levels of testostero
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,“No BJs?” which focuses on YOU not getting oral sex and her not giving it rather than her not receiving it. There are other women out there who do not like to give and/or receive oral sex. The reasons are many. For some, it’s an overly sensitive gag reflex. For others, it’s the hygiene issue. For others, it’s the taste. For others, it’s the pubic hair. For others, it’s the physical sensations: they don’t like how it feels. But quite often, the issue is much deeper and may require therapy. Often times, victims of incest/child sexual abuse don’t like to give/receive oral sex because it causes them to flashback to the abuse they underwent. Don’t assume that because your wife has never mentioned it that she never experienced it. Many survivors don’t even start to deal with the issues of the
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Why are so many parents selfish and try to get out of paying child support, making the child suffer because they don’t like the kids’ other parent anymore? If the person being required to pay child support is the biological or adoptive father of a child, then they have a legal responsibility to pay for half the expenses of raising that child because they supplied half the genetic make-up of that child. My ex still technically owes me about $7000 in back child support. He’d get laid off at the end of every summer and would not try to get a job over the winter so he could keep up with his payments. He paid NOTHING of their extracirricular activities, NOTHING for their school clothes, etc. What I got a month barely covered their food, the gas for running them all over the place, and oth
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Adoption through a state agency is expensive, time-consuming and overly restrictive. Private adoptions are risky. Too many adoptions (and one is too many, although there have been many more) do not place the interest of the child above that of the birth parents and a birth parent who never knew that a child existed can lay claim to that child and rip that child away from the adoptive parents, regardless of what consequences it has on the child. Another adoption myth is that there are a lot of babies to adopt. There aren’t– unless you’re willing to take a baby with health problems (including being born with an addiction) or who is not white or who is not a newborn. And when you get into white families adopting minority children you come up against some stiff opposition from some mino
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Gay guys are not the only ones who engage in anal sex. In a recent article I read, anal sex is becoming much more popular among teens who don’t consider it “real” sex and therefore still say they’re virgins even if they’ve had anal sex with a lot of people. They also have the mistaken idea that you can’t get pregnant if you have anal sex, so they have anal sex when they don’t have access to birth control. Anal sex is quite popular among heterosexuals as well as gay men. Even lesbians engage in anal sex. My point is that you don’t have to ask just gay men. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
