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And there are no “roles”. We simply do things we’re best at and divvy up the rest. I happen to be better at things like home/auto repair than she is, so that usually falls to me. I hate shopping, especially for Christmas or birthdays– I hate the malls. She loves it so she goes. But the rest of the chores, we divvy up. Love and Light
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,1. It could be tongue in cheek: they may be subtly knocking the stereotype of the Jewish mother so often seen on TV exhorting her son/daughter to find a “nice Jewish girl/boy” to settle down with. 2. Jewish is both an ethnicity and religion. While you don’t often hear “nice Baptist boy”, you will hear “Nice white boy” or “nice black girl” etc. 3. The people using the phrases are falling into the speaking patterns that so many of us have that we’re not even conscious of having.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Rudeness is a form of disrespect. Disrespect is a lack of love/empathy for one’s fellow human beings. Sometimes, people with a lot of money or with a lot of education seem to think they are “better” than others. But “more” does not always make something “better”. However, when one believes they’re better than another, it’s often easy to treat others with disrespect.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I think we all have certain abilities that, if we don’t make use of them, we lose. I think this extends to things like psychics and artists, etc. Some of us might have to work harder at certain things to “get it right” but I think we can all make use of those abilites if we work on using them. That said, I think that “gaydar” is one of those natural talents that some people find easier to use than others. However, I don’t know if most people know what “gaydar” is. I know I certainly didn’t recognize what it was when I was growing up.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,My parents are Catholic and I’m one of seven kids. But Catholics have a form of birth control called natural birth control (or the rhythm method.) Essentially, it involves the woman figuring out when she is ovulating by taking her temperature, noting any vaginal discharge and the color of it, etc. She keeps track of this information and that allows her to know when she is fertile, which is really only a few days during the course of a month and is right around the time she ovulates. During those days, the couple simply does not have sex and therefore there is very little chance that she’ll get pregnant at other times of the month.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Somewhere along the line, you’re going to experience what all teenagers experience (barring medical problems): puberty. That’s when hormones take over, especially in males. And then all the talk is going to be about who he or she likes, who is going out, who broke up, etc. It all has to do with the beliefs subtly taught by American society to all the kids born or growing up here. 1. That in order to be happy, you have to have a partner. 2. That you’re not “complete” until you’ve found your “better half”. 3. That if you wait too long to find that person, you may never find them and die a lonely old man or woman.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Your orientation shouldn’t be up for discussion in the classroom just as a heterosexual’s orientation shouldn’t be up for discussion in the classroom either. Orientation is an issue that has no business in the classroom except from an educational point of view: ie, there are various orientations, here’s what they are. But a teacher’s personal life should remain outside the classroom. With that said, however, there is a growing trend by some of the more fundamentalist Christians to ban gay teachers from elementary schools. This is due to their belief that being gay is a choice and that exposing young children to those who are openly gay may “convert” them to what they consider a sinful “lifestyle”. (I’ve yet to have someone be able to define a gay or heterosexual lifestyle…) There is a
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Unfortunately, you’re trying to combat both a stereotype and what is common experience for many girls: nice guys only are nice until they get into your pants. Then they won’t give you the time of day. At your age, most guys are in the midst of puberty where hormones are raging and testosterone levels are a LOT higher than they are normally in males. Which means that most guys ARE thinking about sex a lot. I read about a study once that said the average guy thinks about sex seven times in five minutes if I remember the numbers correctly. When women hear things like that, and then have guys “talk” to their boobs instead of looking them in the eyes, it’s not really hard to understand why many girls would think that guys are only out for sex, is it?
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I don’t agree that ALL gay men are nicer than straight men or that all straight men are like you described since that hasn’t been my experience. But having said that, the entire process of coming out involves a lot of self-introspection. It involves getting to know oneself and getting in touch with one’s emotions. Which makes one a bit more sensitive to the feelings/needs of others. Additionally, having been scorned by society in general, gays (both male and female) tend to be a bit more tolerant of others. Then, of course, there’s the fact that a gay man is not trying to get you into bed, which means they can be “real” when dealing with you instead of trying to impress you with the hopes of bedding you. Love and Light
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,An individual who is transgendered is born the “wrong” gender. Let’s say that someone is born in a male body but identifies as female. Let’s say that they are also attracted only to men. Whether or not they ever have gender reassignment surgery to physically become a female, they are heterosexual because they’ve always been female on the inside and have always been attracted to men, which is what a heterosexual is. Conversely, let’s say there’s someone who is born a male but identifies as a female and is attracted only to women. Whether or not that invididual ever has surgery to physically becomes a female, she is a lesbian because she identifies as a female and is attracted only to women.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,There are always going to be people who hold prejudices against others for no logical reason and in spite of logic that says they should be allies. There really is no answer to this question unless you can figure out why people are prejudiced.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Who you have sex with doesn’t determine your orientation and this is a perfect example of that. Sexual arousal is a matter of touching the right spots to get the reaction you want. Women who are raped may have an orgasm. Children who are sexually abused may have an orgasm. That doesn’t mean they wanted to be raped or abused. The body’s responses are “hard-wired” and can be triggered by touch even when the mind doesn’t find the one doing the touching to be sexually attractive. And of course there’s the whole fantasy issue. He could have been fantasizing that his wife was a male when he wanted to become aroused. Love and Light
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I think it has to do with the fact that many straight males share a couple common fantasies: one is having sex with more than one woman at the same time and the other is watching two women have sex with each other. I tend to think they don’t feel their masuclinity is threatened by lesbians or their orientation questioned by being around/near lesbians. Love and Light
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,She may have claustrophobia and focusing on something allows her to control the fear she has in small, enclosed places. She may also be really shy or self-conscious and unable/unwilling to make eye-contact or get into conversations with others that sometimes get started in elecators. She may not be staring at anyone’s waist but simply staring at nothing in particular, it just may appear she’s staring at the waist. And maybe she picks women to start at because men make her uncomfortable, perhaps because she was a victim of violence or abuse or rape at the hands of a man. My point is that simply because she APPEARS to be staring at women’s waists does NOT mean she’s a lesbian or that she’s psychotic/crazy. There may be a perfectly logical explanation for her behavior if you toss out all the
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Alina: You have hit the nail right on the head. There IS no threat. Just a lot of fear-mongering by some powerful religious figures who want everyone to have to live according to their beliefs. Whether or not society ever recognizes gay marriages across the US, gays are nonetheless getting married in religious ceremonies, some of them are having children and raising those children to be productive members of society just like any straight parents. The threat does not exist. Love and Light
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
