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  • in reply to: Do you read while you’re… #43840

    Kristina
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    I have never heard the stereotype that women are less likely to read when on the toilet. In fact, my boyfriend and I are always making jokes about what is appropriate 'toilet reading'. So, yes, some women do read while on the toilet. With me, I will usually do this if I have to do more than just urinate.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Black males intimidated by me? #15840

    Kristina
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    Frankly, I can not stand the stereotype of 'ghetto' black women, and I would not want to be with a man who would want me to act that way. I am a black woman who has always had a shy and introverted personality. Ignorant people who define their blackness from the latest rap video, or other media that degrades our race, may say that this type of personality is more 'white' then 'black.' If a black male thinks this way, and the 'ghetto' image is what floats his boat, then he will be turned off to a more 'submissive' woman. This may not be the only reason why the black men aren't approaching you though. What is your body type? Black men are more attracted to meatier girls -- if you are skinny with no curves, black men may be less apt to approach. White men on the other hand like this type of body, and thus will be more likely to approach you. Also keep in mind that some men in general, especially young ones just want sex. An aggressive 'ghetto' girl may seem to be easy prey for this type of man, whereas a quiet girl may not. Anyway, don't worry about it. Just because black men aren't approaching you doesn't mean you must be anti-black, or not 'with it' in terms of black culture, as some of these other responses may suggest. Blackness is not defined by whether you are quiet or not --- some people are just made this way, and they shouldn't have to feel forced to change to show racial solidarity. The bottom line is men have to accept you for you -- you shouldn't have to put on a facade to get their affections. And if white men seem to be more attracted to you as you naturally are, then for pete's sakes go for the white men. Men are men, no matter what color they happen to be.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Riches to Rags #40539

    Kristina
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    Although I would not classify my parents as being extremely wealthy, we did live nicely. Our neighborhood was located in one of the most expensive communities in our area. I also had many privileges not available to most children (especially African Americans), such as going on cruises, attending private schools and basically getting whatever clothes, toys and whatnot I wanted. I didn't have a need for anything.

    However, my family environment (especially in my teenage years) was very dysfunctional. With my father being alcoholic, controlling and emotionally abusive, I had no problems leaving when I got of age. Many people couldn't understand this. They would see my house and assume I was happy, but I wasn't. I wanted to have freedom and was willing to do whatever I needed to obtain it. This meant doing what your post said: taking a 'lower-class' job and 'suffering' through my own bills, and so on. I wanted to establish a sense of independence.

    So for me, I WOULD take whatever job available to support myself. I have no qualms in taking, let's say, a janitorial or fast-food job to make ends met. Money is money, and one should not feel a certain type of industry is degrading, especially when it is used as a stepping stone to something better.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Like ‘black’ culture, hate ‘black’ people #34699

    Kristina
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    First, the ideals of capitalism, democracy, technology and freedom were not created by white culture alone. All people (including blacks) around the globe have fought, lost their lives, risked alienation, etc., to help bring these ideologies into being to help their society function better. Perhaps if you took an African-American studies class that discussed the advances in technology and the arts (literature, plays, etc.), you would learn of the thousands of blacks who have contributed in these areanas. Stop assuming that white equals freedom, because white culture has been responsible for some of the most evil things done against humanity.

    Second, just because a society doesn't have technology doesn't mean it is inferior to a white or 'Westernized' society that does. These people have no desire for technology in their culture because they are more concerned about the spiritual elements of life than having power and money. And many of them have knowledge about life that Western people don't have. For example, in my Spanish class, I learned of a so-called 'primitive' tribe that lives more than 80 years with no 'Western' medicine -- they rely purely on their environment and diet to help promote such a long life. Their quality of life is generally better as well.

    Lastly, as far as the African thing: Why should blacks go back to Africa and live there? Why don't you go back to Europe? The majority were born here and think of themselves as Americans, not foreigners, and they have every right to feel that way. They complain about the racist elements of white culture because they have a right. They are the only group that is automatically assumed to be something derogatory just because of their physical features, by every race on this earth. You don't like to hear them 'complain' because you are too set in believing your own stereotypes about them. Not all of us, including the young ones, are ghetto, hood-rat thugs who want to take advantage of others.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Black women/Asian women dating white men #27303

    Kristina
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    I agree with what you're saying. Why is this the case? Well, there are so many reasons, but one of the biggest ones is racism, with internalized racism in the Asian community, and the 'expected' anti-black racism of the white community. In the Asian community, with many Asians white is simply viewed as better. If you have a white mate on your arm that is a step-up then even having an Asian mate on your arm. The issue is compounded because (from what I've read about this issue on various Asian websites)some Asian women feel that white men are less sexist then Asian men. Having a Korean man on my arm, however, I am inclined to disagree; they see what they want to see to continue doing as they do. As far as racism in the white community against blacks, black women have never throughout history been portrayed as the woman you marry. During the slave era black women were raped so much, she was just 'tossed' aside, as some sex toy you can use on occassion, but you can never love, or commit to her. I believe some white men that date Asian women are in this category-- they would use a black woman for sex, but nothing more --- the Asian woman is better 'wifey' material. Others, though are generally more open-minded about interracial dating in general. I've been in some forums where white men said they dated all races of women, including black. With these type, who will not let racism interefere with committing with ANY woman, they usually don't approach black women because it is known most black women want black men.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Women and their long showers #34287

    Kristina
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    Gosh, this is a very unique question to me, because I never thought I took too 'long' in the shower. I found that I would spend less time in the shower than in the bathtub. For me, taking a bath or a shower is extremely relaxing -- sometimes I do it just to relieve stress, not necessarily to just promote good hygeine (this is especially the case for baths). If I'm bathing, I might be in the tub almost an hour, relaxing as if it were a spa, with the bubbles on, the candles lit, and music playing. So with me and other women, it's a matter of relaxation and self-reflection -- we can get in-tuned with our thoughts better during a long bath or even a shower.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Double standards for Amrican Indians? #15947

    Kristina
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    Where is the sympathy for the black boy beaten by the cops in California among many white Americans? A great number of blacks do not justify what happened to him, but whites do. And I believe this siuation is no different for what happened to the Navajo nation. Your cultural perception of what is 'wrong' is different than other peoples' cultural perceptions. And worse, if you grapple with subtle racism, you may feel a sense of empathy with your own race that you might not feel with other groups. I am not saying this is a white thing; every racial group is guilty of this at some level. Anyway, I don't know the specific details of Native American culture, but I do know they are more spiritual and connected with things of nature than mainstream American society. Perhaps within their culture the solution to getting out of such a situation (being lost in the forest)should not have been starting a fire if the person didn't know how to correctly use it. And with the history white people have had with Native Americans, I can understand from their position why they would be more harsh. How can they really tell from their perspective if this woman started the fire intentionally or for help? Perhaps they can be more forgiving of their own race starting the fire, because they feel deep down inside that even with this action, the person is not a threat. With a white person starting the fire, they may feel differently, and not really trust her explanation. Of course, psychologically this situation could also be a sense of racial justice, like the O.J. Simpson trial was for many African Americans. The white woman in this case would be to them as Mark Furman was to blacks: a representation of all the racism and cruelty of the acts the white race has committed against them. She may have been unfairly judged by her race because of this, because her case may be the only way for a moment that justice could be sought for the bad things white America has done to the Navajo - or other Native American tribes, for that matter.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Psychological differences in race #42326

    Kristina
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    I know some may be offended at this post, but I find his 'generalizations' match my observations of different ethnicities, especially in regard to blacks and whites. With Asian Americans, I cannot fully say, because American-born ones (in my opinion) seem to exhibit white cultural behaviors and habits, although ones who are true to their heritage do possess a persona unique to their community (as with any ethnic group).

    Anyway, as far as blacks, I can say as a black woman that we are a more 'laid-back' and 'relaxed' group. The element of spirituality evident in the black community has allowed it to relish whatever it could in the harsh life fate had given it in previous eras. However, just because many blacks enjoy themselves more doesn't mean we aren't as intellectual as whites or Asians. This is where the racism comes into play, I think. We don't want to always be viewed as the 'entertainer.' There is more to us than rap music, acting or whatever. We have minds like everyone else that can go as far as the stars, just like all human brains of average intelligence.

    Why things are this way has to do with culture. Genetics has nothing to do with it, because if this were the case, people could not adapt at all to other people's cultures.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Reply To: Black men and oral sex #43839

    Kristina
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    I am shocked Y? Forum would allow such a post. But anyway, black men are the ones with the worst hygiene. I have been on the bus many times, and the smell that emits from some of them is horrendous. Black men are so obessed with what's between their legs that most of them fail to care about anything else. And with most black women going to college and getting better jobs then black men (60 percent of the student body of most black colleges is black women) they are forced to attain decent hygiene.

    Black men don't like to do oral on black women because they feel it is degrading, and they don't care about a black woman's sexual satisfaction. If a black man does it on a white woman, it's because he feels he has something better and he has to do what he must to keep her. I find, though, that the type of black man who doesn't do oral won't do it on any woman, regardless of race.

    Oh yes, and non-blacks who date black women DO do oral on black women, with no hesitation. This is one of the reasons a black woman will date a non-black quicker than her own kind.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Hiring diversity ad nauseum? #14147

    Kristina
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    Your post is a perfect example of how in the United States today subtle racism is encouraged. No. 1, why should you care if minorities are getting hired more than whites? If you view them as human beings first and not people who happened to have different physical features than you, it shouldn't matter. There shouldn't even be a thought to 'disporportion' in comparison to how many white males are hired. Minorities are no less deserving of a position in Corporate America than any white man.

    Second, you seem to not be very realistic. Most companies in the United States are predominantly white because our country is predominantly white. And companies that are more lenient to hiring more minorities usually find non-white human beings that are of high quality. For example, Asian Americans are entering Corporate America in higher numbers, but their intelligence and work ethic are often higher than many white males. This is also the case for African Americans seeking jobs in Corporate America. The media wants to stereotype blacks as getting certain jobs because of their skin color, but it isn't true. Check out the resume of a minority employee (especially a black person) in Corporate America, and you most likely will see outstanding credentials. Affirmative action helps get many (especially blacks) through the door for an interview, but their own merits get them hired. Those who think differently struggle with subtle racism and cannot judge a minority in an honest light because they are clouded by their own misguided perceptions.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: OK to masturbate thinking of an aunt? #16804

    Kristina
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    I don't agree with what most have said in response to this. If you're having sexual thoughts about a relative, it is wrong, plain and simple. It would be one thing if your mind accidently succumbed for a moment to biology because you feel she is beautiful, but to actually continue thinking about her in that way and even use it to relieve your sexual tensions is not good. If your feelings have become that intense, it is safe to say that it is more than a physiological thing -- you are attracted to a relative, and you need to seek help for this. There are millions of attractive people in this world that your mind could be focused on while you are doing that -- your aunt should NOT be one of them.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: White people sitting on their flat butts #14091

    Kristina
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    After reading some of the other responses to this post, I think Lisa was unfairly accused of trying to start trouble because she stated a fact of U.S. history that some just deny. The truth is many whites did own blacks as slaves to avoid doing arduous labor. So this statement I do not have a problem with. However, one cannot say they developed flat bottoms solely on this premise. The size of one's bottom is due to genes and racial 'evolution.' U.S. blacks have been a suffering and starving people, so their bodies began to store extra fat wherever it could to help protect itself during tough times. Notice how I said U.S. blacks. I have noticed that African blacks seem to be skinnier than black Americans. Their bottoms still seem to be bigger than the average white person's, but they are definitely smaller than African Americans. So diet is also a factor to keep in mind.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: What’s with blacks and grape soda? #23967

    Kristina
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    I think your generalizations are causing you to notice black customers in your restaurant too closely. A lot of blacks, whites, Asians, whoever like 'fruity' sodas and drinks. If you go to a Korean store, for instance, you will see a whole bunch of fruity beverages on sale. And I ask, what is wrong with that? As far as Kool-Aid, I believe this is a drink of choice for people who are poor or stingy. It is very cheap, it tastes better than plain water and it will give people a boost of Vitamin C.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Family hates Arabs #42448

    Kristina
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    The Al Qaeda network responsible for the Sept. 11 attacks was an extremist group no different from David Koresh or other cults. The majority of Muslims and Arab people do not prescribe to these beliefs, and condemn those who do. I don't know why, when somebody is white and does something bad, people don't start judging and hating all white people. But when the person is non-white, everyone is ready to start hating all individuals in that race.

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    Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 
    in reply to: Dating in black and white #39028

    Kristina
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    Well, I would have to say yes and no to your question. You see, it is possible to be attracted to the differences evident in races (I myself have had this). However, very rarely is the black race idealized as being beautiful. Yes, we do have a few like Halle Berry, or Vanessa Williams, but even these women almost always prescribe to a whiter standard of beauty than black. How many black women in the media that are portrayed as beautiful will have very dark skin, hair in a natural style, and a thick 36-30-42, 145-pound body frame, typical of an average-sized African American woman? Therefore for these reasons, black men are often geared to want white women before their own, especially the successful black men. To them, the white woman because of how she has been idealized in the media is a status symbol. The thought of also having light-skinned children with curly hair may also be a factor for them, especially if they have been teased all their lives for being dark. On the other hand though, some may date white women the same reason why black women date white men; they feel they are treated better by the other group. Others may do it because there may be few blacks around in the areas they live at; whites are the only choices for mating & dating. I myself though don't care about black men dating white women, as I have had plenty of men of all races attracted to me to worry about what one group is doing. I think more black women should take this attitude.

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