[Kristina]

You are confusing religion with piety. It is true that more blacks are part of an organized religion, but when it comes to practicing it, they are just like everyone else. Just because a black person (or anyone else) says they are a Christian doesn't mean that they are church-goers, and follow every single thing in that religion. Now to answer the question as to why more blacks are associated with an organized religion is simple. For African Americans, Christianity (and to later on Islam) gave them hope despite the segregation, racism, and oppression they had to encounter. It was the only time they could for once be promised a good life, and maybe see the ones doing them wrong (white people) suffer for their sins. It may have also stemmed too from their previous African culture, because Africans have more of an affinity with the supernatural.

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[Kristina]

It is a practice that is done in most of Africa, India, and the Middle East. Why? It is because in those cultures, a woman must get a husband to survive. I mean, since she can't work, she must have a husband to support her. And to them, a woman is undesirable if she is not a virgin before she's married. So the female circumcision supposedly eliminates the woman's desires thus keeping her a virgin until marriage. It also helps to ensure that she doesn't have an affair with another man. And yes, the practice is still done today, unfortunately. However, the issue is starting to come to light to humanitarian groups, and thus trying to be stopped. Also, some areas of those countries that are more Westernized and urban do not encourage the practice.

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[Kristina]

It is true: black men are more attracted to a 'meatier' woman. Although I can't say the mainstream want someone who is downright overweight, black men do like women with bigger breasts, hips, thighs and especially buttocks. In other words, they like the Marilyn Monroe body style. A woman like this is considered thick (in a good way) or 'phat.' A skinny black woman may have to even consider dating white men, because the black men may not be as attracted to her.

White men, on the other hand, seem to be attracted to a thinner body. This phenomeon is recent, and in my opininon seems to reflect certain class levels and religions. Lower class Southern whites may accept a 'thicker' body quicker than an educated, upper-class white. The latter would want a skinnier body because that is what is considered beautiful in the media's eyes. Upper-class whites seem to strive more for perfection, and this influences their dating choices.

What I would say, though, is to try to be yourself and not worry about what the mainstream thinks. I am a black woman with the 'thick' frame. My weight has ranged from 122-172 lbs., and yet I have had men of all races attracted to me at all weights, even white men. So although the features considered 'ideal' may get a man to look at you, personality will get him to stay. It may be hard to believe, but the way you look at yourself is the way others look at you.

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[Kristina]

I'm sorry, I'm a black woman, and I do not agree with that statement at all. Black woman's features are NOT the standard of beauty... to me white features are. When you look on television, the 'Blonde Bombshell' image still is considered more attractive -- a woman with white skin, blue eyes, blond hair, and a thin body with big breasts. What may be mistaken as a desire for 'black' features in beauty is probably more 'feminine' characteristics. Black women for instance have bigger breasts than white or Asian women, but just because a white or Asian woman gets implants doesn't mean they are trying to look more 'black.' This is the same with the a woman's bottom. There are probably exceptions to the rule, such as non-black women seeking full lips, but generally and unfortunately, the white features will be more favored for what is considered beautiful in the media and to a lesser extent in society.

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[Kristina]

In my high school, it was not cool to be dumb. In fact, the 'in crowd' were people who were very smart. One of the criteria to be in there was to be intelligent. Even if you weren't in that group, you got some respect if you were able to be in the honors classes and attain a decent GPA. Mind you, I went to a private Christian school, so the environment and goals were different Plus, I think the because the parents had to pay for their kids' schooling, they got on them more to get good grades. That's why my high school 'culture' encouraged it. Still, though, there were the bullies (who in this case were really smart) who controlled everything and everybody. Basically to be 'all-of-that,' you had to kiss somebody's behind. I think in general, in the high school environment, if you refuse to stick to the 'norm,' you will be made fun of. This could be through grades, how you dress, or whatever it is. I myself was considered very smart in my high school, but I still wasn't accepted fully because I am an introvert who wasn't going to worship somebody to get their friendship. Although real life is more accepting of 'nerdiness,' even then being different can cause someone to be an outcast. I think that's what the issue is, overall. It is something you must try to ignore, because what people tease you about today may be what they adore about you in the future.

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[Kristina]

I understand where you're coming from. In high school, I did not have a boyfriend. The girls who did were 'all of that,' so to speak, at my school: they had higher grades than me, longer hair (long hair is a big deal in the African-American race) and more slender bodies. I, like you, felt as if something was wrong with me - I felt I was ugly and fat (even though I'm average size for a black woman). This pattern of low self-esteem led me to take anything that was available when I was in college. Indeed, he was a piece of trash who ruined my life during that time. I did not have the self-esteem to break up with him early because I was afraid I couldn't get anyone else.

I did not get away from that thinking until I started Internet dating, which boosted my self-confidence. With Internet dating, I went from having no dates to having two dates a week. I had to cancel going out with some types of people because I had so many to choose from. And this is with no change to my physique. I do not recommend you, as young as you are, doing Internet dating for safety reasons. What I do recommend is that you go into environments where boys are around. The more boys you have approach you, the better you will feel about yourself. For teenagers, the arcade is the best place to find guys.

Most importantly, don't feel as if something is wrong with you because you never had a boyfriend. I believe there is somebody for everyone - half the time, women who get the men are not the beautiful models you see on television. The bottom line is a man has to fall in love with your personality, not your looks, because they can change. Looks may draw them in, but they don't keep them. I've weighed 122 and had no boyfriend, and now weigh 160 and have a boyfriend who cares about me very much. So it's not looks. Have high self-esteem no matter what you look like, or you may too easily fall into the clutches of a no-count man.

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