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Most Christians do not follow all the rules in the Bible because in the New Testament Jesus refutes the purposes of these rules. Also, Christianity is centered more on Christ than on ritual. It is Him that leads people to heaven and not good works. However, some secular Christians (such as myself) are open-minded enough to see that not all parts of the Bible are divine, and that it has a great deal of man’s bias in it. It is also important to note that the Bible reflects a different time and culture — some of the rules laid down were to protect people’s health, because the knowledge of ‘germs’ and ‘disease’ was virtually foreign to them. Examples of these could be found in what type of food they were allowed to eat, and certain cleaning and ‘purification’ rituals. Some of the other rules also reflect cultural differences. It is my opinion that it doesn’t really matter if you follow what a ‘religion’ says is right or wrong. I believe you need to follow your heart and the law. If you feel it is wrong, then it is wrong, period. If you feel it is ok, then it is ok. Most normal-minded people have a similar sense of what is right and wrong — you don’t have to have a ‘religion’ to make them feel overly guilty all the time. To me, anything that hurts another or yourself is what is truly wrong.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I think it is probably an individual thing. I have noticed this sweaty smell from some Indians, but then again, I’ve smelled it from blacks, whites and Hispanics. Heck, I will smell it a little on myself if I’m sweating too much and didn’t put on enough deodorant. I think it is inappropriate to tell them of the odor, unless you are really close friends with them and they would perceive what you’re saying as constructive criticism. Usually, after a few minutes, when your nose gets used to a bad odor, you don’t even notice the smell, anyway. It’s better to tolerate it than to hurt people’s feelings or possibly be perceived as racist. I know that I would be horribly offended if anyone other than my boyfriend, friends or family told me I smelled horrible, even if it were true!
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,It is interesting how people with straight hair desire to put it into curly or more diverse looks. As an African American with ‘kinky’ hair, I always thought people with straighter hair had an easier time managing it. I guess I was wrong.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,How many black women have you met who had smelly or diseased scalps? I have yet to meet one. Black women, with all the grease, sprays and relaxing they do to their hair, simply don’t need to wash it every five minutes like other races. For this reason, blacks rarely get head lice, but whites do. Also, black women don’t have wash-and-go hair when it’s permed. It normally takes me three hours to get my hair done after washing it! In contrast, black hair that is in natural styles (such as dreds or braids) can be washed every day. In fact, in this state I probably would recommend it be washed more often because relaxers and blowdrying (which probably kill more germs) are not used. But again, as people have said before, it’s a matter of preference.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,What you are suggesting has been tried by quite a few individuals of mixed heritage (especially with those who are half black half something else). Tiger Woods is one example that comes to mind. People do not accept this, because if your features look more black, then you are black; it doesn’t matter what you are mixed with. And it is not blacks who are to blame for this; it is whites, because THEY are the ones who feel the need for a categorization of races. With this categorization, there can be no in-between — you are either one or the other. And because blacks for the most part have the strongest genes in comparison to other groups, when they mix with a non-black, the child is going to look more black by white standards. This is why people like Halle Berry are more likely to check ‘African American’ than ‘white’ or ‘other.’ As far as the term African American, I see nothing wrong with it. In fact, it is the only term that gives us some identity (unlike ‘black,’ which is more negative). I mean, African is what we, are isn’t it? We may not have been born there, but most of black America’s ancestry originated from Africa.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with a person that age having a guy friend or even a boyfriend. Whether society wants to admit it or not, teenagers are biologically inclined to want romantic relationships. And to me, they have every right as someone who is 18 or older to explore romance. When parents restrict this freedom, there could be serious consequences later, especially on young women. Her curosity on romantic/sexual issues could be so great that she might be compeled to make decisions that are not best for her, and might rebel. What the parent should do is be honest with their kids. Tell them about sex and how to protect yourself. This way if the person decides to do it, they will at least be protected against pregnancy and diseases. And the parent should also not have blinders on when it comes to kids and sex today. Teenagers are having sex as they’ve always done, this is a fact. Avoiding the issue will only make her more likely to listen to her peers on sexual issues rather than parental wisdom.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Well, first of all, I am not sure what you refer to when you speak of ‘intimadation.’ If you are referring to the very forward sexual advances that black men make towards women, well this is a cultural thing, especially among lower-class African Americans. And they are NOT doing it because you are white, for they will behave this way towards ANY woman. This is because in the black community a man is clearly defined by his sexuality. A black man must do whatever he can to prove he isn’t homosexual — this is unfortunately what it boils down to. And since black men are more likely to be raised in a single-family environment with their mother as a main figure, they basically don’t have any examples of strong men in their lives. Consequently, the mothers, (who also have not had strong male figures as fathers) have a distorted view of what a true man really is. They inadvertently encourage their son to get as many women as possible, and overlook any children he may produce. This again is a subconscience action. So anyway, this all means that the more women a black man can get, the more of a man he is. And for a woman with low self-esteem, a forward advance is flattering, and may actually work. For black women it may work because the supply of black men are low. So, keeping this in mind, black men continue to use these type of advances to attract women.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Blacks do not have any more neurotransmitters or serotonin than whites. What you are observing is a cultural difference. Blacks enjoy the ‘simpler’ things in life because they haven’t had the opportunity to get more. They had to relish whatever natural pleasures they could get. This was especially the case during slavery. The things you mention, sex and food – these were the only things blacks could really enjoy freely now and then. Blacks are also more spiritually-minded than whites. This is not in reference to religion, because religion is not spirituality. This I guess could be referenced to one’s correlation with life, God, and nature. The original African societies integrated spiritual elements within their culture. This integration allowed them to enjoy things of nature more. Of course, Africans are not the only ones like this. Native Americans for example also integrate elements of spirtuality and nature into their cultural behaviors.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,You’ve asked an excellent question, one that I’ve pondered for the longest time. Although I would say most middle-class and upper-class whites on an individual level try to not exert that type of behavior, as a whole they definitely do, whether they realize it or not. Why they do this – perhaps it may have historical roots. For instance, when one studies medieval history, the whole goal of the Anglo-Saxons was to ‘command and conquer.’ They wanted to broaden their boundaries, a desire going beyond race. It seemed as if violence was a quicker solution to obtaining lands than diplomacy. And in a way, they were right, because violence can cause a fearful respect. And when the gun was invented, things got worse. I think this initially is what got whites to possess their ‘power trip,’ because they were able to basically wipe out or enslave civilizations. And so consequently the remnants of the conquered civilizations (minorities) started to view whites as being better, because they had all the wealth and power (even though it had been stolen from others). Despite all this, I think non-whites or minorities are the largest contributing factor to why whites continue to power-trip. This is because minorities always subconsciously feel whites are superior. In fact, name a race that doesn’t in some form or fashion show this thinking. From posts I’ve seen on Y? Forum, all people of color discriminate based on light skin/ dark skin preferences. Japanese people portray their media with white features, even though most of their population is Asian. Blacks seem to associate being educated, successful and grammatically correct as being ‘white,’ but have a less positive stereotype for themselves.The list goes on, and when white people observe this behavior, it reinforces the idea they are better. White people will never be able to see other races’ individuality if these groups continue to act as if the white way is the right way.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,It is because the two groups are from different spectrums, and black women in general are discouraged to date non-blacks (even if they can not find a black man as a suitor). There is also the attraction factor. Black women, for instance, are heavier and have ‘thicker’ bodies than Asian or white women. This body type is different than what most Asian men are used to because Asian women are very petite. Also, black women are generally taller or the same height as Asian men, and most women desire men that are taller than them. There are also factors of racism and cultural differences. An Asian man (like many non-blacks) may want to have sexual encounters with a black woman, but doesn’t want to settle down because it would go against his family’s wishes. Despite these reasons though, these types of relationships do exist in very small numbers — I am a perfect example. In Jamaica however, the coupling is so common nobody takes a second look. So I guess it’s partially a regional thing too.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,The idea that Southern people are more racist than Northern people came from Civil War times; blacks migrated from the South to the North to find jobs, so it was believed that the South was more racist. However, even in the North, blacks encountered a great deal of discrimination – it may have been in equal amounts as blacks in the South. I have lived in Virginia, a Southern state with mostly white people. I haven’t experienced any more racism than when visiting New York or what not. I think it’s not location as much as socioeconomic class. Upper-class whites will at least try to not discriminate. Lower-class whites may not care as much, as it seems as if the KKK and other racist groups are more common among lower-class whites. Lower-class whites seem to live more in the South, so maybe this is why it appears these states are more racist. But really, if you are black (or in your case, Hispanic), no matter where you are, you are more likely to have to fight prejudice than a white person.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,If I were an Asian man reading your post, I would be offended, especially at the part where you say you felt so sorry for them not being well endowed. I don’t know why a person’s manhood is associated with how big their penis is. Women don’t like it when their womanhood is associated with how big their breasts are, or how skinny they are, so why is it ok to judge a man by his body parts? The truth of the matter is Asian men are smaller because they have a smaller stature. The penis just like an arm or a leg is associated with a person’s frame. White men and black men have bigger penises because they have bigger frames. And obviously size doesn’t seem to be affecting the population growth over in Asia. I think in general everybody thinks you have to be white to be right. Asian men do not fit these characteristics, so they are shunned more for dates. Even black women in polls that I’ve seen said they would never date Asian. This is an irony considering how many sterotypes they have to undergo when dating interracially, and how they too are sometimes considered the ‘bottom of the barrell’ to non-black men.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I don’t think most men have the natural urge to rape. It is so repulsive, and I would think to some extent demeaning, to a man. Why would he have to force a woman to have sex with him? If he is really hot and manly, the woman should want to have sex with him. Even in porn (at least mainstream American porn), usually rape is not depicted. There may be scenes of ‘gang-bangs’ when several men at once have their turn with a woman, but usually she is a more than willing participant. I think men do want women to enjoy them sexually. There are probably cases of odd fantasies or what not, but I’m sure there are underlying psychological or emotional reasons that cause those types of desires. But I don’t see the sin in acting out a ‘rape fantasy’ if the woman is a willing participant and no violence is involved; I guess if it’s done as a roleplaying situation that’s play and not reality, it’s OK. To answer the other part of your question: yes, men do see women as sex objects. This is very apparent in every media. It’s always the woman who has to be alluring and sensual to the man. But this is a natural expression of a man’s psyche; they are more physical than women. I don’t think they should really be faulted for feeling that way, just like women shouldn’t be faulted for wanting to get married or have children.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I consider myself a Christian, but those type of ‘holy-rolies’ get on my nerves too. Not only do they push their religion in everyone’s throat, but they are annoying to unorthodox Christians (such as myself) who may have different philosophical views towards their faith. Why Christians do this has to do with the basis of their religion; the Bible says that Jesus is the ‘way the truth and the light’ it is only through Him you can attain salvation. For this reason, you must actively ‘mission’ to others and reveal the Good News to nonbelievers. Christianity is not a religion that allows room for intepretation when it comes to the belief in Jesus. In fact different Christian sects may still argue with one another because of this fact (for instance Protestants not agreeing with Catholics). Christians believe that is the faith alone in Jesus that determines salvation. Technically, you could be as Adolf Hitler and kill millions of people, but if you at some point profess true faith in Christ you will go to heaven. On the reverse side, you could be a Buddhist monk who is like an angel among humans — you could perform good works for others, self-sacrifice, and etc. But becuase you don’t believe in Christ as God, you will go to hell. Christians do indeed know these contraditions, but because ‘the Bible says’ Christ is God, they MUST adhere and others must to. But please don’t get the impression that all Christians act in this manner. There are many of us who are more ‘liberal’ (such as myself). Christians such as this will still voice their opinion on their faith (I for example will tell people why I believe God and Christ are real), but are very open-minded in accepting other faiths. I don’t discriminate even among atheists. I mean, atheism does make me feel a little uncomfortable, because I feel the idea of God existing seems so obvious (especially with how complex the world is), but since I realize that God can not officially be proven, I know that I may not have the right ‘answer’. If atheism seems to be an appropriate choice for a person, then it’s really none of my business. I am the type that feels religion is one’s own journey, and God (or whatever type of divinity you believe in) will guide you to what is best for you.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,They say it’s because Asian people used to migrate through deserts and encountered a great deal of sandstorms. The shape of their eyes helped in preventing sand from getting into them.
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Name : Kristina, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 20, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
