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I agree with the spirit of your question. Despite the fact that today’s blacks are many generations removed from slavery, they still view themselves as victims and that is holding them back. Hey, I’m Jewish and my ancestors have been tortured and persecuted for millenia, esp. in the Crusades, Spanish Inquistion and Holocaust. But instead of continuing to act as victims, Jews have become educated to uplift themselves. (Asian immigrants have done the same.) During the great depression, my father was the oldest child of a poor, divorced mother with 6 kids. He worked his butt off, not only to support the family, but to make good grades in school to get him into a good college and medical school. Nobody handed him a scholarship. He worked part time throughout college and paid off hi
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Some wealthy people are never satisfied, always want more. Others, like Bill Gates become philanthropists. I’m low income and it’s simply true that people with more money (not super-rich, just upper middle class) have access to better health care, dental care, psychological care. They can afford a more nutritious diet. They can be less stressed out by hiring someone to do their housework, cooking, etc. They can afford cosmetic surgery to make them feel younger and more attractive. They can afford newer cars and homes in safer neighborhoods. They don’t have the chronic worry about affording the basics. They can afford private schools and college educations for their kids. They can afford to go to the gyms and work out. Can money buy happiness? Not exactly, but it can certainly
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Dot, I wish your in-laws well. There’s a big difference however between them and contemporary blacks. YOur in-laws were themselves the victims of systemic persecution and stipped of their possessions. Slavery in this country was abolished many generations ago, and while today’s Blacks still face some discrimination, many still use the their ancestor’s slavery as an excuse for their lack of accomplishment. I believe that was the implication of Bill Cosby’s remarks. Cosby’s success was not a matter of luck. Neither was Obama’s, Condoleeza Rice’s or Colin Powell. Their successes were the result of hard work and persistence. We all have obstacles. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I guess it’s OK for me to blow cheap cigar smoke right into your face and if you have a problem with that, wear a face mask; if I want to bathe in cheap perfume and sit right next to you at work, wear nose plugs all day. What a selfish brat you are! It is your freedom to listen to music as loud as you want – with earphones! The laws of society are that your rights end when you abuse the rights of others. Your loud music is noise pollution illegal in some states/ If you were driving with a migraine headache and I was in the car next to you blasting Beethoven’s 9th symphony, would you smile tolerantly. When you go deaf prematurely, better be careful crossing the street because of drivers like you may be too busy feeling the beat to pay attention to others. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Having experience with both, I prefer circumcised. It’s just cleaner. My uncircumcised boyfriend was a wonderful guy and great lover. Although he bathed every day, it never seemed clean. Also, I got urinary infections on a regular basis after sex with him even though his penis size and technique were not significantly different than other guys I’ve been with. I loved him and that’s not the cause of our break-up, but based on my cultural experiences, I find a circumcised cock more aesthetically appealing. I suspect people in other cultures feel the reverse. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Jazz, rock, rap, classical, country-western, heavy metal, show tunes, etc – it’s a matter of personal taste. I don’t like rap in general for 2 reasons – a lot of rap lyrics celebrate violence and treating women like whores. That offends & scares me. Secondly, I like songs with melodies so well crafted, you can enjoy the music without the lyrics. Rap doesn’t do it for me. You may use my name & demographic details. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I do volunteer work, attend women’s support meetings twice a week, I write theatre reviews for a local radio station, do freelance writing from my home, go dancing 1-3 times a week, go to doctors & dentists more often than I did when young. I also enjoy DVDs, reading and sex (not necessarily in that order). I exercise at CURVES 3-4 times a week. I have the freedom and flexibility to do more of what I want, though not enough money to do as much traveling and dance lessons as I’d like. NO, I don’t have much money, but everything in life is a trade-off and I prefer the freedom & flexibility. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,When you’re teaching students, it’s appropriate to correct others; otherwise, most people don’t appreciate being “corrected” regardless of age. It’s perceived as condescending and self-righteous. I’m a former English teacher and have an older friend who is a retired English teacher. She often corrects people who make grammatical errors. Nobody appreciates it and most find it annoying and snooty. The English I hear spoken even by some friends, is not always correct in terms of grammar, usage or pronunciation, but I listen with my heart instead of my head for the content. Unless they’ve asked me to correct them, it’s not my job. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,For the last 8 years, we’ve had an idiot for a conservative president (I never voted for Bush). His arrogance and American ethnocentrism does not apply to all US citizens. Some of us think he’s been an embarassment to our country. As far as he’s concerned, it’s the golden rule: he who has the gold, rules. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I believe “everyday people” are considered middle-middle class or lower, people without special priveleges or wealth. The term is used condescendingly sometimes by those who consider themselves smarter, more sophisticated or wealthier. Simpler definition: people who have to work for a living and often live from one paycheck to the next. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My dad was a doctor and we kids saw very little of him growing up. We were given the impression that it was because he was doing something more important, saving lives. That was partly true, but when I confronted dad about it in my 30’s, he told me the truth: he was just avoiding my mom, a nagging wife. I still resent not getting to see much of him. However, I worked at his office one summer as a teenager and got to seem him in a whole different context where he was relaxed, competent and funny. It’s a shame that a bad marriage get him from us kids. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,People fear the unknown and have always been suspicious of outsiders. Also, many minorities like Jews, Blacks & Irish have been mistreated or discriminated against big time. Also, it’s easier to relate to someone you have more in common with. I enjoy things exotic and new experiences, but was mugged several years ago by a young black guy and it was a devastating experience. I was petrified. Still hard not to be afraid of black guys, though not black women. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Historically, safe and effective birth control is a very recent and inexpensive option. During the millenia prior to this, hetero-sex generally led to pregnancies. Since women are the ones who carry and bear children, we’re on our own to support and raise a kid if the guy decides to bail and spread his seed elsewhere. Biology is destiny. It’s more common for males of all species to seek variety since they aren’t forced to deal with the consequences of pregnancy. If men were the ones who got pregnant and had to stay home with the kids, they might be more inclined to seek a woman willing to settle down and make a commitment to monogamy. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Throughout history, women haven’t had access to safe, effective and affordable until recently. They haven’t had much choice. Biology usually favors survival of the species, so women tend to have maternal instincts. There are many exceptions though. I believe I treated my cat with more maternal affection and concern than I received. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Just a theory: Throughout history, people have been suspicious of outsiders. Perhaps because their leaders were greedy for more power & wealth. Since they often considered their ordinary citizens cannon fodder, they sent them to war to attack their neighbors and other far off countries and towns. Since those conscripted soldiers were fighting “the enemy” for their king or emperor, I guess they came to regard all outsiders as potential enemies and spies. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
