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The foreskin should have nothing to do with his ability to achieve an orgasm. I’d suggest a complete physical to find out if there are any medical conditions that might prevent an orgasm. If none exist, then I’d suggest therapy because there is some underlying issue that is preventing him from reaching an orgasm. It could be something as “simple” as performance anxiety to something as complex as childhood sexual abuse. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,It may help get thoughts organized. Talking to a third party might help you see that there are other ways of looking at things than the way you were looking at them. It may give them ideas on how to approach their spouse. To find out if their parents had the same kind of problem and if so, what they did about it? Some people have issues with confrontation. It’s very difficult for them to say to their spouse, “We have to talk.” Sometimes they need that third party to help them figure out how to do just that. If you’re the spouse of someone who does this, it’s kind of ironic that you posted this question rather than ask your spouse why he/she does it.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,What about the father of 7th Heaven? What about all the other positive portrayals of Christians through the years? You said that Christians in the media are caricatured. A caricature is not meant to be a “role model”. It’s meand to exaggerate one or two particular facets of whatever it is being caricatured. With that said, have you looked at the Christian role models out there on the television? Swaggart (twice caught with a prostitute), Haggard (drug abuse), Roberts (Oral: give me 8 million dollars or god will take me or Richard: under investigation for misappropriation of funds for Oral Roberts University), Dobson (who believes he’s incapable of sinning ever again), Bakker (convicted of swindling millions of dollars from the faithful). Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,“No BJs?” which focuses on YOU not getting oral sex and her not giving it rather than her not receiving it. There are other women out there who do not like to give and/or receive oral sex. The reasons are many. For some, it’s an overly sensitive gag reflex. For others, it’s the hygiene issue. For others, it’s the taste. For others, it’s the pubic hair. For others, it’s the physical sensations: they don’t like how it feels. But quite often, the issue is much deeper and may require therapy. Often times, victims of incest/child sexual abuse don’t like to give/receive oral sex because it causes them to flashback to the abuse they underwent. Don’t assume that because your wife has never mentioned it that she never experienced it. Many survivors don’t even start to deal with the issues of the
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,More complex answer, it depends on where you go. Discrimination because of religion occurs in every part of the world, but its worse in some places than others. Even in the US, there are areas where people who are not Christians are treated poorly. Near where I live, Wiccan bookstores have been picketed by members of the radical religious right. Jews have had headstones in cemetaries desecrated. Churches have had anti-Christian graffiti spray-painted on them. In some areas of the US, non-Chrisitans are virtually shunned. And that’s in a country where we’re guaranteed the right to follow the religion of our choosing. In countries where there is a state religin, it can be even worse. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Gay guys are not the only ones who engage in anal sex. In a recent article I read, anal sex is becoming much more popular among teens who don’t consider it “real” sex and therefore still say they’re virgins even if they’ve had anal sex with a lot of people. They also have the mistaken idea that you can’t get pregnant if you have anal sex, so they have anal sex when they don’t have access to birth control. Anal sex is quite popular among heterosexuals as well as gay men. Even lesbians engage in anal sex. My point is that you don’t have to ask just gay men. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,They’re ways in which the subconscious works out who it is, what it wants in life, etc. The subconscious is experimenting with the body in which it finds itself living this life. It’s exploring and discovering. It’s answering questions that most of us are afraid to even admit we want answered. Questions like, “What would it be like if…?” or “Would I like it if…” Sexual arousal, especially for men, is more a matter of touching the right spots on a physical level. Even for some women this is the case. That’s why so many victims of rape feel ashamed: because they experienced an orgasm while being raped! The body responds to touch even in some cases when the mind is repulsed at the thought. This is especially true for teenage boys who have about 100 times the normal levels of testostero
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,First, why does he want you to sleep with a black man? Second, what will it do to your marriage if you do it? Third, how will you deal with the issue of jealousy? Fourth, is this a one-time thing or will it be ongoing? If a one-time thing, what happens if you enjoy it too much to “give it up”? Fifth, how will you find this black man? How will you protect yourself from STDs? What if HE becomes emotionally attached to you and/or your husband? Sixth, what if your husband wants to join in? How will that affect his sense of who he is or your feelings about him? Seventh, does “casual sex” fit into your ideas about what a marriage constitutes? How will you redefine your marriage with respect to casual sex? Eighth, what if the black man you find isn’t as “large” as your reali
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Sex is a private matter. Just as I don’t go around talking about what my wife and I did when we made love the last time, I don’t think it’s appropriate to discuss what you do when you masturbate (unless such discussion is for a medical/therapeutic nature.) I also think it would be disrespectful to my wife for the guy to even WANT to tell me.
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,You didn’t call him your husband, so I’m guessing you’re not married. If you don’t agree with marriage for whatever reason, have you tried talking to them? Finding out what it is they don’t like about him? If its just his skin color, then you may need to make a choice: either cut your parents out of your life until they are able to keep their prejudices to themselves or risk your son growing up feeling as if he’s “less” then his grandparents because he’s not white. You can’t change your parents: only they can do that. You can’t make them understand anything if they choose not to understand. You’ve got to set healthy boundaries for the sake of your son: when he is around them, or in the room with you when they’re on the phone, there will be no disparaging of blacks. With that said, maybe
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Adoption through a state agency is expensive, time-consuming and overly restrictive. Private adoptions are risky. Too many adoptions (and one is too many, although there have been many more) do not place the interest of the child above that of the birth parents and a birth parent who never knew that a child existed can lay claim to that child and rip that child away from the adoptive parents, regardless of what consequences it has on the child. Another adoption myth is that there are a lot of babies to adopt. There aren’t– unless you’re willing to take a baby with health problems (including being born with an addiction) or who is not white or who is not a newborn. And when you get into white families adopting minority children you come up against some stiff opposition from some mino
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Why are so many parents selfish and try to get out of paying child support, making the child suffer because they don’t like the kids’ other parent anymore? If the person being required to pay child support is the biological or adoptive father of a child, then they have a legal responsibility to pay for half the expenses of raising that child because they supplied half the genetic make-up of that child. My ex still technically owes me about $7000 in back child support. He’d get laid off at the end of every summer and would not try to get a job over the winter so he could keep up with his payments. He paid NOTHING of their extracirricular activities, NOTHING for their school clothes, etc. What I got a month barely covered their food, the gas for running them all over the place, and oth
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,If you’re sure it’s not in a sexual way, and the child is developing in all other matters in a “normal” manner (meaning he’s not acting out sexually, he’s developing appropriate boundaries with respect to issues like modesty, independence, self-esteem, etc.), and she’s not exposing him to her sexual activity (with self or others), then I’d say you’re over-reacting. There are entire cultures where the communal bed is kept for the entire life of a child until they get married and move into their own home. Why does the mother refuse to put the bed together? Does she not have the tools or the time? Does she not have the room to put it up? Would she allow someone else (like you, maybe) to put the bed together?
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,There is an emotional and physical benefit to being a virgin until one meets the person one wants to spend the rest of his/her life with. On an emotional level, it’s one hell of a gift to be able to say and/or hear, “You’re the only one who I’ve ever let touch me like this.” On a physical level, a woman’s chance of getting cervical cancer increases if she has more than five sexual partners in her entire lifetime. There’s the risk of STDs, unplanned pregnancies (which carry their own inherent risks), UTIs, etc. There’s also the ego/false pride thing of being someone’s first if you set out to be the first knowing the other person is a virgin. IOW, if your intent is simply to be the first because you can, it’s an ego/false pride issue on YOUR part. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,you don’t. Osteoporosis is a painful disease that causes bones to become very brittle. She may be afraid that if she remains sexually active, she may end up with a broken bone or something along those lines. Then she’d have to go to the hospital and it would be embarrassing to explain how she broke her hip or her leg or a rib….And that fear may be contributing to her low sex drive. She needs to talk to her doctor about the risks of remaining sexually active and to see if there’s anything she can do to minimize the risks of breaking a bone. But in the end, if she doesn’t want to make love anymore, you have to accept that or move on. Love and Light, Rev. Shelly
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Name : ShellyStrauss Rollison, Gender : Female, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 49, City : New Alexandria, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Minister, writer, activist, CNA, draftsman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
