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Ethnic or racial origins do influence our physical characteristics in some ways. I think you’ll find some variation between white people from different countries as well. I don’t know the anthropological or biological reasons for thin lips and flat buttd, but I’m white and my butt is pretty darn small, so I guess it’s true. Then again, my sister has a big ol’ booty, so go figure.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It’s a conditioned response to the ideas their parents put in their heads at a young age, er, something like that. I’ve never been ripped off by a black person, but I have been stolen from by other ethnic groups. I do think there are some young black men out there (in my personal experience) who get a kick out of trying to intimidate white women; maybe just because they can. I don’t fear black men any more than I fear other men, but I do have to say that I am mildly annoyed when said men hoot, whistle and shout their innermost sexual thoughts at me while I’m walking down the city street; and no, this does not happen with men of other ethnic groups – unless construction workers count.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It seems awful inconsiderate and trashy for ‘ladies’ to be bringing up such an issue as the penis size of former partners. Maybe you should just find a nice girl who has values that are above and beyond that, Don’t let it mess with your head.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The thing, is, there is no such thing as ‘white’ culture. So-called ‘white’ people are from many different geographical, historical, and religious backgrounds. If you just want an overview that covers several type of white people and their customs, I would suggest picking from the cultures of Great Britain, Ireland, Germany, France, or any other place where light-skinned skinny-butt people came from. If you’re just going for American white culture, that’s easy; watch TV, play video games, and eat a lot of unhealthy food! I’m just being a little facetious, I’m not really that jaded. Maybe you could find out what the most common country of ancestral origin is, for white people in your part of the country. Love, peace!
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,There’s no way I can take a shower without a washcloth. That seems strange to me, but I suppose that’s just cuz it’s different.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have lived in the ‘ghetto’ myself and experienced drive-by shootings and the like, and while my ‘hood was populated by predominantly black people, I don’t know anyone around here who applies ghetto stereotypes to all black folks. I live in Minneapolis, which is pretty diverse, surprisingly, and around here there are plenty of respectable black folks, just as there are plenty of ghetto-acting white folks, and a whole bunch of other kinds of people, too. I think the ghetto image is largely perpetuated by MTV and lots of TV and films. For some reason, spoiled suburban white kids have the idea that all black people are about is ho’s, gold chains and low-rider Cadillacs; and even worse, that those accoutrements can give meaning to the value-deficient lives of spoiled suburban white kids. People will always cling to self-serving stereotypes because learning about others and building character are just too much work.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,How do you know that most whites think that way? I’m not saying you’re wrong; just asking you to make sure you’re speaking from truth, rather than an assumption, which is pretty easy to do. I think lots of people are envious of whatever they don’t have, especially physically. Doesn’t really matter what race, it’s just a flaw of human nature. I’m white; I admire beauty in black women, but I don’t envy it because I believe envy is an emotion of weakness, and I think it’s more productive to appreciate beauty in others and still have love for my own. If people are envying you, you should feel sorry for them and their lack of self-love; and also feel proud that your are beautiful enough to be envied.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am blessed with a large circle of friends who come from diverse backgrounds. Those friends include second-generation South Vietnamese, a Latina, a third-generation German, a Somali, a ‘black’ person, an Inuit, and more; sounds like a Rainbow Coalition, huh? Among each other, we are free to discuss racial differences without fear of offense, although none of us would presume to be non-racist. I have heard other black men complain of being treated harshly by black women, and respectfully by white women. One thing at work may be black women’s evolution, for survival, to be strong and uncompromising. Equally complex is the knowledge that in the United States, many black men live up to negative stereotypes, like being more likely to end up in prison, possess drugs, be murdered or commit murder, create illegitimate children and fail to support them, be unemployed, etc.
I’m sure as a black man, you have have these and other similar stereotypes directed at yourself, whether true or untrue. I am told that black women subscribe to said stereotypes just as frequently as those of other ethnic groups.
Also often true, reinforcing another negative racial stereotype, is the fact that some (many?) white women still believe in being submissive to their male partner, and even that it is normal and acceptable to be devoted (martyr-like, even) to their partner while not holding him to the same high expectations. I do not assert that your personal experiences were shaped by the aforementioned conditioned behaviors, but there is always a possibility.
Another thing to consider, which may surprise you, is that secretly many black sisters feel physically unattractive when compared to the prevailing standard of beauty (just look in a Playboy to verify); they do not want to admit to themselves or others that they have this insecurity; so they display hostility toward men to avoid rejection. It’s ‘I’ll dog him before he can dog me!’ Most black women (that I know) would love to be in a relationship with a black man; they are just afraid to go into it without their defenses up. Even though it is unfair to you, I hope you can understand the other side. I think the fact that you want to understand this whole thing shows that you do not live up to the negative stereotypes. I wish you love and hope you can forgive.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Interracial dating, especially white women & black men, is really common in my city. I’ve perceived a couple different possible reasons. One is that many white girls (especially high school & college age) want to date a black man precisely because it will antagonize their racist parents. Rebellion, ya know? Another dynamic I see often, is the white stripper (usually gorgeous with an aura of slut), gold-digging, superficial type female paired with the stereotypical all-flash no-cash type of black guy; yes that stereotype does exist and it’s alive and well in Minneapolis, with our many very important player-type guys. Hey, what can I say, I guess that couple deserves each other. Last but not least, there are the loving couples who are together for all the right reasons. Yup, they exist, too. God bless ’em!
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Hmm, yup, my butt is the size of a 6-year old’s; and I’m 25. But my little sister has booty like J-Lo. I guess it’s just an accident of nature.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Interesing topic, well my opinion is as follows: many white people feel unable to discuss racial issues openly, precisely because of the ‘victimizer’ perception; AND yes, I think black people feel entitled to discuss racism more openly due to their status (historical) as victims. But, I also think most white people do not fully understand the racism issue or know how black people think about said issue. Of course, white people do not want to talk about racism, if they are not informed about it. There are probably a share of black people who are uninformed, as well. The thing is, the lack of honest discussion is making race relations worse. I am white person; NOT descended from slave owners or Southerners, and I am open and honest about my opinions regarding racial issues. I have found this method to be the best way to promote unity among all types of people; no black person has ever expressed offense at one of my statements or questions; and I have real, true friends of many ethnic backgrounds. I wish that all people would just be honest and rational about it; instead of hiding behind political correctness,or confusing their personal emotions with facts. Bless You!
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I hear lots of people (black, white, Somali, Asian) use that word; which is pretty ridiculous. I think to many people it’s still the degrading racial slur it always was. None of the black, white, or rainbow people I know would use that word; but I hear both little baggy-pants white boys & little baggy-pants black boys (mostly teenagers) drop that word like it’s a compliment or something. Maybe using it a lot is supposed to take away its power to hurt, just a thought. It’s still ignorant slang that no educated person should have in their practical vocabulary.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,What minorities are you referring to? The term ‘minority’ can describe many people nowadays. I’ve definitely experienced that attitude with Asian men, who disapprove of their women dating men of other races; especially black men. I also know white men who are the same way, mostly because they suffer from insecurities when compared to beliefs about black men’s penis size. I never met a black man who has expressed negative opinions on this matter; however black men seem to be down with dating women of other races, so maybe they don’t worry about their women being ‘stolen’ by men of other races.
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Name : Mandy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Irish, German, Norwegian!, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Minneapolis, State : MN, Country : United States, Occupation : clerical, student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
