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It’s not a matter of free speech. It’s a matter of appropriate speech and personal discipline. The purpose of school is to teach new information, AND the kind of behavior you’ll need if you want a job better than flipping burgers. FRankly, you wouldn’t last long even working at McDonalds if you “spoke your mind” in front of customers. You can talk with your friends on your own time in whatever way you want as long as you’re not harassing someone else. School is not there for your entertainment. It’s educational and just as I hated math classes, it was a good discipline and I have actually applied some things I learned. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Dot, I wish your in-laws well. There’s a big difference however between them and contemporary blacks. YOur in-laws were themselves the victims of systemic persecution and stipped of their possessions. Slavery in this country was abolished many generations ago, and while today’s Blacks still face some discrimination, many still use the their ancestor’s slavery as an excuse for their lack of accomplishment. I believe that was the implication of Bill Cosby’s remarks. Cosby’s success was not a matter of luck. Neither was Obama’s, Condoleeza Rice’s or Colin Powell. Their successes were the result of hard work and persistence. We all have obstacles. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I guess it’s OK for me to blow cheap cigar smoke right into your face and if you have a problem with that, wear a face mask; if I want to bathe in cheap perfume and sit right next to you at work, wear nose plugs all day. What a selfish brat you are! It is your freedom to listen to music as loud as you want – with earphones! The laws of society are that your rights end when you abuse the rights of others. Your loud music is noise pollution illegal in some states/ If you were driving with a migraine headache and I was in the car next to you blasting Beethoven’s 9th symphony, would you smile tolerantly. When you go deaf prematurely, better be careful crossing the street because of drivers like you may be too busy feeling the beat to pay attention to others. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Having experience with both, I prefer circumcised. It’s just cleaner. My uncircumcised boyfriend was a wonderful guy and great lover. Although he bathed every day, it never seemed clean. Also, I got urinary infections on a regular basis after sex with him even though his penis size and technique were not significantly different than other guys I’ve been with. I loved him and that’s not the cause of our break-up, but based on my cultural experiences, I find a circumcised cock more aesthetically appealing. I suspect people in other cultures feel the reverse. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Just a theory: Throughout history, people have been suspicious of outsiders. Perhaps because their leaders were greedy for more power & wealth. Since they often considered their ordinary citizens cannon fodder, they sent them to war to attack their neighbors and other far off countries and towns. Since those conscripted soldiers were fighting “the enemy” for their king or emperor, I guess they came to regard all outsiders as potential enemies and spies. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Throughout history, women haven’t had access to safe, effective and affordable until recently. They haven’t had much choice. Biology usually favors survival of the species, so women tend to have maternal instincts. There are many exceptions though. I believe I treated my cat with more maternal affection and concern than I received. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Historically, safe and effective birth control is a very recent and inexpensive option. During the millenia prior to this, hetero-sex generally led to pregnancies. Since women are the ones who carry and bear children, we’re on our own to support and raise a kid if the guy decides to bail and spread his seed elsewhere. Biology is destiny. It’s more common for males of all species to seek variety since they aren’t forced to deal with the consequences of pregnancy. If men were the ones who got pregnant and had to stay home with the kids, they might be more inclined to seek a woman willing to settle down and make a commitment to monogamy. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,People fear the unknown and have always been suspicious of outsiders. Also, many minorities like Jews, Blacks & Irish have been mistreated or discriminated against big time. Also, it’s easier to relate to someone you have more in common with. I enjoy things exotic and new experiences, but was mugged several years ago by a young black guy and it was a devastating experience. I was petrified. Still hard not to be afraid of black guys, though not black women. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My dad was a doctor and we kids saw very little of him growing up. We were given the impression that it was because he was doing something more important, saving lives. That was partly true, but when I confronted dad about it in my 30’s, he told me the truth: he was just avoiding my mom, a nagging wife. I still resent not getting to see much of him. However, I worked at his office one summer as a teenager and got to seem him in a whole different context where he was relaxed, competent and funny. It’s a shame that a bad marriage get him from us kids. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m Jewish and agree you should be also adressing the Jew haters. My answer to your question is: jealousy and fear. Education has always been stressed for Jews as it has for Asians. Better education usually means better jobs, more prosperity. Uneducated people don’t see that connection. That think that Jews are more successful because they are devious. Ironically, the main reason Jews have gone into professional higher paying service jobs like medicine & law is that during antisemitic years in Europe, they were forbidden to own land and couldn’t become farmers, and were prohibited from other types of occupations. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I believe “everyday people” are considered middle-middle class or lower, people without special priveleges or wealth. The term is used condescendingly sometimes by those who consider themselves smarter, more sophisticated or wealthier. Simpler definition: people who have to work for a living and often live from one paycheck to the next. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Probably because so many Black people do not speak standard English. Call it ebonics or whatever you like, it is not proper English and sounds uneducated. If you’ll notice, the blacks who succeed (outside of rap and sports) – Obama, Colin Powell, Condoleeza Rice – they all speak proper English. It’s no coincidence. Other educated ethnic minorities that have become successful honor their heritage and speak ethnically at home, but they speak proper English in public. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,When you’re teaching students, it’s appropriate to correct others; otherwise, most people don’t appreciate being “corrected” regardless of age. It’s perceived as condescending and self-righteous. I’m a former English teacher and have an older friend who is a retired English teacher. She often corrects people who make grammatical errors. Nobody appreciates it and most find it annoying and snooty. The English I hear spoken even by some friends, is not always correct in terms of grammar, usage or pronunciation, but I listen with my heart instead of my head for the content. Unless they’ve asked me to correct them, it’s not my job. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I do volunteer work, attend women’s support meetings twice a week, I write theatre reviews for a local radio station, do freelance writing from my home, go dancing 1-3 times a week, go to doctors & dentists more often than I did when young. I also enjoy DVDs, reading and sex (not necessarily in that order). I exercise at CURVES 3-4 times a week. I have the freedom and flexibility to do more of what I want, though not enough money to do as much traveling and dance lessons as I’d like. NO, I don’t have much money, but everything in life is a trade-off and I prefer the freedom & flexibility. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Jazz, rock, rap, classical, country-western, heavy metal, show tunes, etc – it’s a matter of personal taste. I don’t like rap in general for 2 reasons – a lot of rap lyrics celebrate violence and treating women like whores. That offends & scares me. Secondly, I like songs with melodies so well crafted, you can enjoy the music without the lyrics. Rap doesn’t do it for me. You may use my name & demographic details. Just Curious
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
