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- Ah, these are the eternal mysteries. There's an interesting article you may want to look at: 'Numerous studies indicate that human beauty may not be simply in the eye of the beholder or an arbitrary cultural artifact. It may be an ancient, hardwired, universal, and potent behavior-driver, on a par with hunger or pain, wrought through eons of evolution that rewarded reproductive winners and killed off losers. [...] You get the impression that we are all rats--reflexively unconsciously coupling according to obscure but immutable circuitry. But beauty researchers agree that, along with natural selection and sexual selection, learned behaviors are at least part of the attractiveness radar. In other words, there is room for individuality--perhaps even a smattering of mystery--in this business of attraction between humans.' Source: http://www.findarticles.com/cf_0/m1511/2_21/59164980/print.jhtml
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Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have no idea what a chode/choad is, but I have found on the internet that people can't decide whether it's a penis, a penis that's longer than it is wide, or the area between the genitals and anus. I would like to clarify what Alex said, however: The area between the anus and genitals is technically called the perineum.User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Well, if he is 19, you aren't really doing anything wrong, legally. And honestly, I don't think you're doing anything wrong, either. You're just two adult men enjoying each other's company in a non-exploitative and harmless way. Ten years isn't much of an age difference. Besides, he initiated the activity by masturbating in front of you, so I don't really think you should feel like you're taking advantage of him. The only reason I would worry is if your co-worker was actually one of your superiors, and you worry that he will find out. Don't worry so much, and have fun!User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Definitely a warm, oozing sensation, as if you'd squirted warmed lotion inside yourself, I suppose. (But never do that to simulate the sensation! It will give you an infection.) Although most of the time I was too paranoid about birth control failing to really enjoy it. :) The actual feeling is not nearly as rough and violent as the word 'ejaculation' or phrase 'blowing his wad' sounds. Those things were probably thought up by men who wanted their sex life to sound more virile than it actually was!User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I like it, but I only have anal sex when I'm really, really in the mood because it requires lots of patience and lots of lubricant, and sometimes there is discomfort afterwards. I didn't do it very much with my last partner because he was quite lacking in the sexual finesse department. I don't know of any women who have anal sex and just 'tolerate' it. If they don't like it that much, or if their partner is not very good at it, they just don't do it. It's very much one of those 'you love it or you hate it' things.User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Generally, or specifically? Here are several: Women are, in essence, 'the weaker sex,' and for most of these stereotypes, the opposite applies to men, and is a 'positive' stereotype. Woman is always the virgin, the slut or succubus. Women who love sex are 'sluts,' men who love sex are normal (although I think this double standard has gotten less prevalent since the '60s). Girls aren't as good at math or science, and don't have analytical brains. Women are weak and ineffective leaders. Women get hysterical. Women are not career-oriented. All (normal) women must want children, and women who aren't motherly are ostracized and seen as deviant. (Example: the birth mother of Michael Jackson's children is always asked why she's abandoned her children, when in reality, she repeatedly says she was just the surrogate for him.) Women are dependent, controlling and demanding of their partners. Women are fickle. All women are obsessed with their weight. Women talk too much. Women don't speak their mind (or 'don't have a thought in their heads.') Women lose their minds when they get their period. Women lie about their age. Women love to shop. I could go on and on. Some stereotypes have their basis in fact, but to generalize all women as being such is harmful and limiting.User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You may be able to get it at your local adult sex store. Or, if you'd rather do it online, search for 'shrink creme' at www.adamandeve.com. It's a well-respected online adult store. I don't trust most of the other places. (I don't think babeland.com or goodvibes.com would carry them, or I'd recommend those sites.)User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The anus isn't just 'elastic'--there are sphincter muscles (muscles that act like a rubber band of muscle) down there to hold everything in. Just like our leg or tongue muscles, the sphincter muscles (there are actually two of them in the anus) are very strong, and although you can get them 'acclimated' to anal penetration, they will seldom get 'stretched out' like, say, a vagina after pregnancy (although even that idea is somewhat of a myth.) Of course, you can tear that muscle with extreme strain, but that's pretty rare, I think. People who do want their sphincter muscles to get tightened up again after years of sexual activity (or, after pregnancy, which can injure a woman's muscles & nerves in that area) can use Kegel exercises for that. For the record, I am a queer (lesbian/bisexual) woman who likes being anally penetrated on occasion, too. I have to be in the right mood, but when it's good... oh, it's so good.User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It's called 'camel toe,' generally, at least here in the South/Southwest. I've never heard it called 'printing,' either, but anyway... I'm sure it has nothing to do with the pelvis. I think it just happens when a girl wears tight pants or swim bottoms with a short inseam. Thankfully, I never have that problem (I am annoyingly short-waisted), but I think it generally happens when wearing spandex pants and is primarily unintentional when a woman stands in a certain position (although perhaps some strange girls yank it up to accentuate this part of their body - who knows?) I think magazine photographers just might encourage the camel toe, however, judging from how much of it I've seen on supermodels and Britney Spears.User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,In case you didn't notice, women don't run the military, and they only have this limited role in the military because it was granted to them by men. Women don't make the policy. Many feminists and progressives today believe that all able-bodied men and women should serve in some kind of public service position, like they do in Israel. I ask you one question: do you think the men that run the armed services like to imagine their baby girls having to register with selective service? Nuh-uh. These men--fathers of daughters that they feel honor-bound to protect and defend-- are the main people who will block any measure to get women to register with Selective Service.User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Women are 'supposed' to be shorter than men - in most Western cultures, at least. This assumption dates back to the time when the 'authorities' assumed that because women are, in general, shorter than men, they must also be weaker, have smaller brains, be less intelligent and so forth. People still have a prejudice against men who are short because they threaten those assumptions of what masculinity is supposed to be. Short men are almost perceived as 'feminine,' or at least weaker specimens of manhood, even though that is not the case. Short women, however, fit neatly into what gender stereotypes expect women to be: petite, demure, cute and so forth. Short men are called 'wimps' or 'shrimps' for having this same trait. See what I mean?It used to go for tall women, too - tall women were seen as amazons, as pseudo-men. Nowadays, though, most tall women don't have to deal with that stigma (the fear of looking masculine because of their height) as long as they're appropriately feminine - probably because all the supermodels are super-tall, and they're supposed to be the standard of beauty.
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Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Yes and no. I think when you are really in love with the person (like I've been with my past and present sexual partners), you can overcome almost any physical trait. There are even different sexual positions you can try - some for small guys who want to give the sensation of being larger, and some for big guys who want to minimize any pain that their partners may have. Or, if the guy with the penis isn't too intimidated, couples can try and introduce strap-on dildos into their play. It's like having a penis that never gets soft! My last partner was a guy with what I think was a fairly small penis (in width and girth), and while I prefer a larger phallus (larger in girth and in length) we had plenty of good times. For me, girth is more important than length - a penis that's too long can actually poke our cervix and cause a lot of pain. But every woman is different.User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I doubt that anybody, even the most conservative among us, would call the sexual enjoyment of tickling perverted. It's a sensual pleasure, and a simple, cheap one at that. Sounds like a nice fetish to have - although my boyfriend hates tickling, so he would probably kill me if I developed it.User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think it may have to do with people being apprehensive about what they aren't familiar with; there really aren't that many uncircumcised guys out there, at least not in the United States. I think that trend may change, since we now realize that circumcision isn't necessarily the best thing to do (I even know progressive Jewish mothers who are questioning the traditional circumcision), but for now, most of us are not acclimated to penises 'au naturel.' Also, I think there is an unfair generalization that an uncircumcised penis will smell funny due to less than ideal hygiene, which is a thought that must turn people off (especially if you're a person who likes to give blow jobs!)User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I agree with Vincent wholeheartedly. So many people are ignorant of history that they gullibly accept and promote propaganda (like that of the Christian Coalition) that promotes the past as being a so-called 'simpler time.' Yes, it was a simpler time for straight white Christian men, perhaps, but for the rest of us... give me a break. You know what I found fascinating, while doing some research the other day? The 1908 Almanac of my state's history (http://www.rootsweb.com/~okbits/1908a.html) featured items like this: Mar 9: Sensational discovery that a college student in Oklahoma City boiled human bodies in his back yard. Mar. 29: Carl MATHEWS of Newkirk remarries divorced wife he tried to kill. April 18: At Chickasha, Wesley JOHNSON, a negro, was fined $500 and sentenced to eight months in jail for attempting to embrace a white woman. July 5: Stork pays 19th visit to Mrs. Anna RAIDT, Oklahoma City. Dec 23: James GARDENER, negro, lynched at Henryetta for killing Albert BATES, a white man who refused to let him have a livery rig. Dec 24: Armed citizens of Henryetta patrol its streets, fearing negro uprising because of lynching of GARDENER, negro murderer. Dec. 25: More than 100 negroes migrate from Henryetta to avoid possible race conflict. ...Um, woman remarries husband who tried to kill her? Another women having 19 children? Lynchings? Migrating to avoid race wars on Christmas? I'll take 2008 over 1908, thank you very much.User Detail :
Name : Stephanie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : Norman, State : OK Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
