[Anonymous]

I'm an avid hiker, and recently the 19-year-old son of one of my co-workers who also likes hiking has joined me on quite a few all-weekend wilderness hikes. On our third hike we stopped at a swimming hole to cool off and went skinny dipping. Afterward, we were sitting on a boulder drying off and I noticed he had a sizeable erection, which caused me to get one, too. He looked at me, smiled and commented, then began masturbating in front of me. I joined in. Since then we have had many mutual masturbation sessions together and often will masturbate each other. I am 10 years older than him and feel a little guilty about this. Should I? Is what we are doing wrong?

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[Stephanie]

Well, if he is 19, you aren't really doing anything wrong, legally. And honestly, I don't think you're doing anything wrong, either. You're just two adult men enjoying each other's company in a non-exploitative and harmless way. Ten years isn't much of an age difference. Besides, he initiated the activity by masturbating in front of you, so I don't really think you should feel like you're taking advantage of him. The only reason I would worry is if your co-worker was actually one of your superiors, and you worry that he will find out. Don't worry so much, and have fun!

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[J21173]

Because you are both consenting adults and not hurting anyone with what you are doing, I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

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[Mike]

Were he a minor, this would not only be wrong but illegal. Given that he is of consenting age and an adult, I see nothing wrong with this. When I was in grad school, I shared an apartment with a guy 15 years my senior. Almost every Sunday night we would watch pornos on the VCR and mutually masturbate each other. It's just a highly enjoyable and safe release of sexual energy.

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[Valerie24504]

I think you better re-type your bio at the bottom of your question. You're not straight.

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[Taz]

I'm not trying to be funny here, believe me. I had to re-read the original question twice to make sure I read it correctly. To me your scenario sounds like it could be the plot of a gay porn film. This has gay written all over it. I wouldn't have a problem with this if you were both consenting gay adults. But you claim to be straight and feeling guilty about having gay encounters (and they are gay encounters - neither I nor any other straight guy I know would jack each other off) with the 19-year-old son of a co-worker. I always believed that if you feel guilty about doing something, it's because you believe deep down that you are doing something you shouldn't. The way your question is worded, it sounds like you feel guilty about his age. Personally, I would prefer someone a little closer to my own age, or at least over 21, but to each his own. You also may be feeling guilty about the gay issue. Most religions teach that homosexuality is wrong. Is it possible you could be gay and are trying to keep everybody from finding out? If so, you need to be honest with yourself and start being honest with everyone else.

Or, your guilty feelings could be that you are worried about what your co-worker might think if he or she finds out about what is going on between you two. If this is the cause of your guilt, there are two ways to deal with it. Tell your co-worker and get it over with, or don't tell and live with it. Either way, it's your choice. Realistically, I think you already know the answer to your question, and what you need to do about it.

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[jonathan]

no!!!!!!!!!!111 lutheran? isnt that a christreligion. r u gay or something. i would let no other dude touch mines or masturbate it.

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[Lauren]

As others have said, you're not doing anything wrong legally, and I don't think you're doing anything wrong morally, either. As for the issue that others are raising -- are you straight or otherwise? -- perhaps this is worth thinking about as well. Mostly it's worth thinking about because it can be nice to have support and social contact with other non-straight people if that is the case. It sounds like, in your case, you are aroused by at least one member of the same sex. Maybe this is a rare occurrence for you. But there are lots of groups for questioning or curious people. Perhaps it is worth asking yourself (and perhaps the members of questioning/curious support groups) if you might be bisexual or gay, and if so, what you can do to be happiest. In the meantime, don't feel guilty.

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[Alanda]

There's nothing wrong with it because although he's young, he's of legal age and initiated the encounter. However, you could end up having your personal life dragged into your professional life, which can be more trouble than it's worth if you're close friends with this co-worker or he/she is your superior. Either way, I think the most important thing is for you to be truthful with yourself about your desires and unashamed of your sexuality. It may be difficult at first, but on the other hand, repressing your true feelings can be very psychologically damaging. Whether you're gay, bi or just experimenting, embrace it.

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[Vannessamariah24519]

Its interesting, you said that you were straight. Perhaps this younger guy is helping you channel into hidden desires

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[Keith]

I don't see anything wrong with the scenario that you have stated. You are both consenting adults. Enjoy.

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[Ned]

To quote Leon Phelps, 'You're clearly gay'. Nothing wrong with that if your comfortable with it but as several people have pointed out, you say you're straight. I'm guessing you aren't too concerned with the age but want to find something wrong with it because you don't consider yourself gay. His age? pah. Age of consent is 14 in Canada, I'm assuming for some reason.

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