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Joey, tell that nonsense to the family of Amadu Diallo. He wasn’t commiting a crime, yet he was shot at 41 times by NY police officers, and 19 of those bullets hit and killed him. Tell the same to Abner Louima and his family. He was no criminal either, yet NY’s ‘finest’ saw fit to shove a broken toilet plunger so deep into his anus that it ruptured his spleen. He will forever suffer medical problems as a result.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The parents of Yusef Hawkins-murdered by a white mob in Bensonhurst, NY The family of Eleanor Bumpurs-an elderly woman shot dead by NY police Abner Louima-broken toilet plunger shoved into his anus by NY police-his spleen was destroyed and removed The family of Michael Stewart – murdered by NY police officers; his crime was defacing a subway car The family of Amadu Diallo – shot at 41 times; killed by 19 of those bullets by NY police The family of the black man chased onto oncoming traffic on the Belt Parkway by a white mob NY undercover Black officer shot by a white NY police officer…of course the white officer thought the black officer was a ‘criminal’. The black officer survived. The family of the black man who was tied behind a pick up truck and dragged to his death…his body parts were found for miles The descendents of countless numbers of Blacks in this country via lynching…for no reason, other than that they were black The families of the men who suffered via the Tuskegee Experiments – men who were deliberately allowed to die from syphillis…the doctors told them they were being treated, when in fact, they were given placebos…sugar pills. Now do you still need to ask that question?
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,…I am raising a beautiful nine year old boy in a society that clearly detests African Americans, African American men in particular. So while there is joy in my heart in raising this sweet child, there is also fear and anger in my heart, because I know for a fact that the older he becomes, the greater a target he will become to those who detest Black males. No to mention all the other things I have to worry about… …so excuse me if Iraqi and other children are not my priority…I’m too busy worrying about MY child and other African American male children in this country that so detests their presence here.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,…I think the notion of a sloppy, obese, unshaven White man sliding down my chimney in a tacky red suit to give my son presents, climbing his fat ass back up my chimney and riding away in a sleigh guided by eight reindeer is equally ridiculous. So I told my son at an early age that there was no such thing as Santa Claus, and that I, mommy, bought him all those cool gifts under the tree. And at Easter, I told him I bought him the candy and dyed the eggs, not the Easter Bunny. And when he lost his baby teeth, I told him I gave him the loot, not the damned Tooth Fairy. Now, Missy…tell me again which celebration sounds ridiculous??
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I agree that there are beauticians who don’t care about their client’s hair, and that women should be better trained in caring their hair, and I agree that ponytails (although I detest them) should match one’s hair texture. But your comment about one’s own hair ‘looking like taco meat’ disturbs me. Just where did you learn such negativity about natural hair? My hair is natural, and based on the compliments I get on my hair, I would say it hardly looks the way you describe. One of the keys to our success as a people will be to learn to love ourselves, as we are, which MANY Black women do not. As long as we’re stuck in the ‘lighter, whiter and straighter is better’ mode, Black women cannot come full circle as Black women. But when you FULLY accept and love yourself, that is when you begin to blossom. I speak from personal experience. Three years ago when I would walk out of a salon with ‘bouncing and behaving’ hair, I never felt 100% okay with me. I felt like I was living a lie. When I walked out for the last time with my chemically straightened hair on the salon floor, I left the lie behind. Three years later, and I’ve never been happier…I’ve got a head full of beautiful, healthy hair, and I have come full circle as a Black woman.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Surely you jest! I don’t know whether to laugh out loud or curse you out for such an outlandish statement! White in this country have historically treated Blacks like garbage…and we don’t have to take this back to slavery, either…let’s go back to the horrendous Tuskegee Experiments where those Black men were left to fester in syphillis, while doctors lied to them and told them they were being treated. They were, in fact, being ‘watched’ to see how the disease would ‘progress’. And how, until former President Bill Clinton publicly acknowledged and apologized on behalf of the U.S. for such an atrocity, no one U.S. official never acknowledge this. Let’s talk about how an innocent young man like Yusef Hawkins ended up dead. What crime did HE commit? Oh, right…he went to see about a used car. Let’s talk about how the FINE citizens of Bensonhurst held up watermelon rinds and empty fried chicken boxes, as his grieving parents led a silent march in protest of their son’s death; a gifted young man who was to start college that fall. But he never got the chance, did he???Let’s talk about Amadu Diallo, shot at 41 times; let’s talk about Abner Loumina, who as I write this, has no spleen, thanks to New York’s ‘finest’ or should I say, ‘fiendish’. Let’s talk about Michael Stewart, a teen who ended up dead at the hands of NY’s finest, after being arrested for defacing a subway car. Is death now the penalty for defacing public property? You know what you can do with your olive branch.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,First of all, not every African American woman has ‘short’ hair; in fact, my hair is longer, stronger and healthier now than when it was relaxed. And I saturate my hair with water or leave on conditioner before I comb it. I truly believe the Black Hair Care industry has done a terrible disservice to Black women. It is a multi-billion dollar a year industry that has made it’s money off the shame, embarrassment and impatience that Black women feel toward their own hair.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Excuse me, Matthew, but I resent your comparing the GOD GIVEN hair of African American people to that of a ‘white man with a hockey player hair cut and a Joe Dirt beard’!! The latter is simply the example of a white man who looks unkempt. Natural, unstraightened African American hair does not look unkempt when it is clean and cared for. I got SICK and tired of having scalp burns and sores on my scalp, breaking, thinning, unhealthy hair from chemcial straighteners and pressing combs just to be deemed ‘acceptable’ by Corporate America. Three years ago I cut off my shoulder length chemically straightened and sported a short, close cropped afro until it began to grow, then I sported twists. Three years later, I’ve got a head full of thick healthy hair, I am free from scalp burns, excessive dandruff and breaking hair, and MOST important, I feel good about me, because I have come full circle as an African American woman. Nor has my natural hair prevented me from progressing in my career. Now, Corporate America, and society in general, must accept ME as I TRULY am. An African American woman with NATURAL hair.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,…or continue to be a slave to what White America (and yes, some African Americans) consider ‘acceptable’. For YEARS I wanted to get rid of my perm but was worried about what ‘society’ would think. Well, on my 38th birthday, I decided that I would no longer bend over backwards to be acceptable. I had my perm cut off to the new growth. Of course people, especially Black people, were shocked. The few who had the nerve to step to me and comment about my hair were quickly put in their place. I waited for one person in my workplace to try to start with me about my hair. Can you say ‘file a complaint with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission’? No one did…or dared to. Three years later and my hair is twice as long as it was when it was permed; it’s beautiful, thick and healthy and what’s hilarious is that I see sistas getting ‘natural’ weaves that look like my hair. Go figure. And I’m no longer interested in being acceptable to ‘society’…now ‘society’ must accept ME…as I am. And that is the most uplifting feeling, trust me.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Combing African textured hair is as simple as using a wide tooth comb and wetting the hair with either water or a spray on conditioner. I have no problems combing and maintaining my hair. I use the ‘twist’ method of setting it. Just twist, untwist, run my fingers through it, and it’s so beautiful…I certainly get my share of compliments. The strange and wonderful thing is that the majority of compliments come from young brothas…its common to hear, ‘Love your hair, Ma…’ coming from them…sistas and old school dudes just stare, as if they don’t get the statement I’m making. The statement is, three years ago, I came full circle as a Black woman, and have totally accepted all the gifts given to me…including my hair.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,After years of having the lie shoved down my throat that African American people have contributed little or nothing to the arts, particularly the literary field, I now make it a point to read books written by Black people, for Black people. Little or nothing is taught about the history of African Americans in this country, or our contributions. Right now, my priority is to dispel the nasty little myth that my people contributed nothing.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m going to answer each and every one of your foolish responses, okay? So Black women don’t want to better themselves and are looking for someone to do for them? Wrong! Colleges and Universities across the country are filled with Black women seeking to further their education. Many of these women parlay that education into lucratives jobs/careers. More Black women than ever are heading up major companies, are partners in law firms, are physicians, professors, etc. And more Black women than ever are purchasing homes. Home ownership among Black women is at an all time high. More and more Black women are starting their own businesses. And while Black women continue to be successful, it is BLACK MEN who do not measure up to our success. While more and more Black women are earning degrees from college, more and more Black men are filling this nation’s prison system. And fewer and fewer Black men finish high school, and actually finishing 4 years of college is rare. Black men continue to be stuck in menial, manual labor type jobs, and are not keeping up with the success that Black women are enjoying. Might I suggest you locate a copy of Newsweek Magazine, and read the article which profiles, in detail, the huge gap between black women as respects education and careers. It talks about how Black men are lagging behind in everything from employment to education. As for conversations, I hold conversations with intelligent, attractive Black women everyday, and I don’t hear this profanity you speak of. Finally, your comment that 70% of black children are born out of wedlock. Actually that makes a bigger statement about BLACK MEN and their lack responsibility and lack of accountability as respects the children they sire. So Jake, while you’re making up lies about Black women, keep what I’ve said in mind. And remember, while your brethern are lagging behind, we are moving on…without you.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,She’s absolutely right…White men DO view Black women, African and African American as sub-human sex machines, who’ll do it anywhere, anytime, with anyone. Which is precisely why I do not interact with White men on a social level…they’re just a bit too lecherous for me. Oh, and Black men treat Black women in the same disrespectful manner, so as far as I’m concerned, ‘brothas’ aren’t any better than the White men…in fact, they’re worse for treating their own kind so poorly.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,…a liar. There is nothing remotely African American about you, trick. See, you gave your stupid self away with the ‘…maybe if they wash it…’ comment. Specifically the THEY comment. African American people do not speak of other African American people in the context of ‘they’, but rather, ‘we’. Silly wench.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Because there will always be people (mainly White people) like yourself who perceive themselves to be ‘better’, ‘superior’ and ‘more deserving of’ the American Dream, simply because they are White. And there will always be people like me who will constantly remind you that you are not ‘better’, ‘superior’, or ‘more deserving’ of the American Dream than I am.
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Name : RhondaOutlaw, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Account Representative, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
