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No, it’s not true. We obviously aren’t using protection to keep us from getting pregnant, but we’ve got dental dams available for oral sex to help stop the spread of STDs. Some women also opt to wear latex gloves – sometimes for protection, sometimes for fun. Toys, if they are used, are also kept clean and preferably only used between the same people.
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think it’s like a pyramid scheme. Once people have already jumped in, they feel compelled to take a bunch more with them. I think that some people with kids regret their choice (I once read a study that showed when people were allowed to be totally anonymous, a large percentage said they wished they never had kids) and feel like if they have to be miserable, then everybody has to be miserable. That is, it’s hard to be tied down with kids when you have friends who aren’t, so if you can get them to convert, then you’ll have more in common again. It’s too bad that all of the people who think they wouldn’t be good parents decided not to have kids rather than proving their ineptitude by squirting out a brood. I say, good for you and stick with your choice. But, take it from someone who’s been there, you’ve got at least 15 more years of badgering and perstering ahead of you.
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The whole ‘marriage is meant to produce children’ argument is completely lame. My brother and his wife have been married for 10 years and my girlfriend and I have also been together for 10 years. My brother and his wife have made the decision not to have children and to focus on their careers. Does that make their marriage less valid? Should they not have gotten married because they had no intention of having children? Marriage is for people who are in love and want to spend their lives together – whether or not they intend to have children. Personally, I don’t care to be married. I’m not going to put on a white gown and try to imitate some ritual where I’m clearly not welcome. If heteroes want to call ‘marriage’ their thing, that’s fine with me. I would, however, like there to be an insitution (domestic partnership, domestic commitment, whatever) that gay people could enter into that would offer us the same benefits as married people get. However, I’d bet you dollars to donuts that even if we called it something else and it was strictly a legal, rather than religious, union people would still be against it and find some other argument to shoot it down. People just need to wake up and realize that my commitment to my girlfriend is just as strong as any marriage, with or without a license, and that it’s not a threat to them, their families or their way of life.
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m 38 and I’ve been in a monogamous relationship for 10 years. Prior to that, I’d estimate I was with about 50 people, both men and women. The first time I had sex was when I was 16. I felt worse about myself when I was sleeping with all the guys because it was for the wrong reasons, and I felt used. They’d do their thing and I didn’t get much out of it. With women, it was more of an equal thing, and I felt more in control. So I didn’t feel bad about them – it was more of a conquest thing. I don’t know if 50 is a lot or not, but I’m glad I got all of the random sex out of my system. Now I don’t feel like I’m missing anything by being with one person for the rest of my life. It also makes me appreciate how much better sex is with the same person than it is with a different person all the time.
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If you’re careful, it’s no problem. The problem is trying not to get caught by a bear or a back-packer with your pants down. Luckily, there’s a device designed for us outdoorsy-types that allows us to pee standing up just like you guys. It’s also very handy for scuzzy port-a-potties and gas station restrooms. I can’t remember the real name, but we call it the Whizzer. It’s basically an oblong-shaped funnel that fits over our girl-parts, and it has a tube that goes out the front. You just put it in place and pee away, and no worries about your naked ass in the woods. I haven’t perfected writing my name yet, but I’m working on it.
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,People who are in love stay together. People who are horny meet for sex. Sometimes horny people fall in love and stay together. It doesn’t matter if you’re gay, straight, man or woman. Some people are monogamous and others aren’t, and when two monogomous-minded people find each other, they’re more likely to stay together and not fool around. I think the stereotype comes from the idea that women (all women) want to settle down and men (all men) want to have as much sex with as many people as they can. So, you put two women together and you double the settle-down stereotype. Likewise, throw two guys together and you double the it’s-just-for-sex stereotype.
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It’s been a while since I was 15, but I remember how you’re feeling right now. You’re going through so many changes at this age that it’s hard to be sure about anything – and being on the fence about your sexual orientation is really scary. The best thing I can tell you is not to worry about it right now. I know that’s easier for me to say than for you to do. But you’ll probably have a miliion different feelings for people of both sexes before you’re clear on whether you’re gay or straight. You’re all full of hormones and stuff, so at any given moment, anyone could seem hot to you. Sexy is sexy, regardless of gender, and a person who is hot can just plain stir up feelings. Just pay attention to how different people make you feel and don’t try to suppress or deny your feelings. Just be honest with yourself about how you feel and don’t get freaked out if one day you’re checking out the wrestling team and the next day you’re checking out the cheerleaders. It’s natural. And don’t listen to anyone who tells you to have sex with boys and girls to see which you like best. Experimenting with different people to pick a favorite will just make you more confused. If you’re going to be with someone, wait until it’s someone you care about and who cares about you. Then it won’t matter if it’s a boy or a girl because it won’t just be about the sex. And don’t try to categorize yourself yet. You’re young and it will all work itself out the way it’s supposed to. One day you’ll just know because it will just feel right.
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I never really thought about it until I read your message, but I guess you could say I am. It’s not like I jump out of bed every day and think about being white, but when I think about what it would be like not to be white, I think I feel lucky. It sounds like some of the other people who responded were a little defensive and still want to blame problems resulting from prejudice on the person discriminated against. It’s like they are saying, ‘Well, that’s what you get for not acting white.’
In fact, most of the complaints I hear white people making about blacks, Hispanics or any other race can be translated to mean that they don’t act white enough: ‘Why do they have to eat like that/drive like that/dance like that/talk like that? WE don’t do those things.’
I realize I am guilty of holding my purse a little tighter when I see a young black man in baggy pants walking behind me, and I feel really bad about that. I think about how he must feel and that it must make him angry or sad to see my reaction. I don’t consider myself prejudiced as it relates to liking people of other races, and I would never use a racial slur. However, I think I have been so influenced (brainwashed?) by what I see on TV and read in magazines that I react without thinking when I see someone who my mind tells me might be trouble. So I do think my life is easier, and I have far fewer obstacles because I’m white. I mean, I’m gay, but I’m generally not discriminated against, because my minority status isn’t visible.
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Whatever it means, whatever you may or may not be, the most important thing is not to worry about it. People have all kinds of fantasies and are turned on by things that they wouldn’t necessarily try. For example, I’m a lesbian and enjoy watching gay male porno. I have no idea what kind of category that puts me in, but I know I don’t actually want to do what I see in those movies. I just like to watch it. As far as something being bisexuality when it’s never even happened, consider that heterosexuals know that they’re straight long before they ever have sex. People like to argue that gay people who’ve never had straight sex can’t really know that they’re gay because they haven’t had a straight experience. Yet, no one expects heterosexuals to go out and have gay sex to make sure that they’re straight. So, yes, I think you can be bisexual without the actual experience. If the opportunity presents itself, you might want to try it with a woman. The worst that could happen is that you’d find you didn’t like it. It’s possible that you could be physically, but not emotionally, attracted to women. That wouldn’t be the wierdest thing in the world. I bet you’d find quite a few women who’d agree that that describes their husband to a tee!
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It’s not being gay that makes gay people angry, it’s the hatred and discrimination. I don’t even think about being a lesbian; it’s just who I am. And it’s actually a small part of who I am, like being short or right-handed. I don’t walk around all day with this awareness and focus on being a lesbian anymore than you’re consumed with being straight. However, when I hear someone use the word ‘fag’ or ‘dyke’ in open conversation, like it’s an OK or acceptable thing to say, I feel angry. I think fat people and homosexuals are the last targets of discrimination, where it’s OK to say horrible things in public. At least (most) people have come to understand that they have to whisper their racial or religious slurs. Being gay is not a big deal. Being hated is.
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Name : Jean, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Orange County, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Computers, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
