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I have a simple question: have any of the people who have posted to this question or the person who posted the question actually read the book? The answer to your question is in the foreword of the book. Phillip Milano wanted to get people talking. He started the site so people could have a place to talk about non-politically correct subjects. Some of the topics are ones you wouldn’t hear on the street corner or in the breakroom at work, but they are ones that everyone is wanting to talk about. Everyone including blacks, whites, Hispanics, Jews, Muslims and anyone else who has wondered things about people who aren’t like themselves. Please read the book before making a judgment about people’s motives.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,There’s nothing wrong with a hairy guy. For me, if you don’t have a hairy chest, beard and mustache, don’t bother calling. There’s nothing sexier and more masculine than a man with a hairy chest that you can run your fingers through.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I color (not bleach) my hair ultra light blond for several reasons. First, my mother (who passed away 15 years ago) was naturally white blond and was one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen and having the same color hair as her gives me a connection with her (since I look a lot like my dad). Second, coloring gives my hair an even color, which I had always wanted as I was growing up. Third, I was blond as a child and always liked that look. Fourth, I like the way it makes me look. I’m 34 years old and still get whistles from men. I think the hair has something to do with it. As far as trying to look like a stripper or porn star, the movies I’ve watched have a majority of women who are brunettes. I’ve been coloring my hair for seven years and most people assume it is my natural color and are very surprised when they find out it’s not. But you’ve got to do what feels right for you.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,OK, so Y Forum wants to throw us a curveball and get us talking. So you say that because Nicole Simpson MAY have been having an affair, she deserved to be killed by her husband. Is that what you are saying? You’re saying that because O.J. didn’t have what he wanted, he was entitled to take a life, the life of the mother of his children? People have affairs all the time and work their problems out with their spouses. How do you deal with stress in relationships? If you’re in a relationship with someone and they dump you, am I going to read about you in a headline somewhere? Or have I already read about you?
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’ve been married to my husband for almost 11 years, and I don’t ever remember making out with him to make a point. I have too busy a life to worry about making someone else uncomfortable or worrying about who is married to whom and what race they belong to. I have never worried about what people around me thought of my personal life and the choices I’ve made. That’s why it’s called a personal life.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I want to congratulate you on wanting to expand your network of friends. I believe you can never have enough friends. These people you are working with are working in a poor area, and they are in a minority racial group, but you will find that everyone has a story to tell. There will be people who are tremendously involved in civic clubs, church groups or non-profit charities. There will be people who have family who have stories to tell about things you have never heard about. You say you are privileged, and I assume by that you mean financially, but there are so many other ways to be privileged. By talking with your co-workers and finding out who they are and what makes them tick, you’ll be comfortable enough to be yourself and think of others first.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It takes a lot of courage to let someone know what’s in your heart. A woman taught me that about eight years ago. We were living in a small town in Georgia and my biracial daughter was about two years old. We were in a park and an older white woman sat with me (she had brought her grandson with her). After making small talk about the weather for a few minutes and pointing out our children, she asked me ‘Is her daddy a colored man?’ I thought ‘Here we go.’ I told her that my husband was black. I said that ‘colored’ was not really used anymore as it had negative connotations to it. She then opened up to me and said she had been raised in the country in the 1940’s to believe that all blacks were bad and she shouldn’t try to get to know them. She said when she got married and had children, she and her husband decided to teach their children that everyone was equal and to care for everyone no matter what color their skin. She said she still didn’t believe that whites and blacks should marry each other; ‘it just ain’t right.’ This woman could have called me names, made a scene or even hurt me or my daughter. Instead, we had a conversation for almost an hour and she thanked me at the end for helping her change her way of thinking. I made a difference in that woman’s life and all it took was listening to what she had to say.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The idea is that some white people smell like wet dogs when they come in out of the rain. It has to do with body and hair odor. My husband is black, and he swears he’s never heard of this idea. The whole idea of Y? Forum is to have a place where you can ask or answer any question, no matter how silly or embarrassing it may seem. This is just one of those questions. Some of us have never heard of this ‘wet dog,’ idea and others swear by it. If you buy the book, you’ll be amazed at some of the ideas people have. This is a one-of-a-kind site!
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Back in the day, when the bars were closing, I would have a guy write his phone number on my hand. It required close personal contact, they had to hold my hand while writing and when I woke up from my drunken stupor, the number was still there. I had many dates because I still had their number in the morning. Have you ever tried to keep track of a phone number that was written on a napkin? I lost touch with a great guy because I washed my jeans with the napkin in the pocket.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I can definitely answer this one. I earned my bachelors degree in journalism in May 2000 and up until a couple of months ago, I was working as an admin assistant for a company that repossessed industrial equipment. Why? I had to pay my bills. I moved with my husband, who is an officer in the Armed Forces, to Florida and tried to get on with the city paper or any paper here, for that matter. Even with a semester internship under my belt, I didn’t have actual experience in a newsroom and I couldn’t find a job in my field. I freelance for five different papers and am very good at what I do (I’ve gotten compliments from all levels of the newsrooms). I hope that soon, one of them will have an opening that I can fit into. However, in the meantime, I will try to find a job that fits my skills. I’m very fast on the computer and know most programs. People who don’t work in their degree field sometimes just can’t get in the door to that field.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If you consider a 5’3, 115-pound white woman with a bachelor’s degree and currently working in her field who is married to a black man with a master’s degree who is an officer in the Armed Forces a ‘fat white-trash cow,’ so be it. You can call me that. That’s your opinion. I met my husband 12 years ago at his company. This fine man is the father of our two children and is an outstanding member of the community. I chose to date and then marry my husband because of his religious beliefs and strong character. He is trustworthy, caring and a wonderful provider. As far as the interracial couples you’ve seen, there are millions of us in the United States. You’ve got a long way to go before you can comment on all of us as a group. There are people in every walk of life who are married outside of their race and proud of it.
I’m so relieved I’m not in your dating pool. Your opinion of women and general lack of respect is obvious by your statement about the back of a man’s hand. I guarantee you I speak for every woman in America when I say that any man who would lay a hand on me is not only not worth my time but would be telling how he did it from traction in a hospital bed.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,When are you leaving for the South Pacific? Please take your attitude with you.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Woman mature faster than men. Most women at 21 are at a maturity level equal to a man at least four years their senior. Most every married couple I’ve met in my life is made up of an older man and younger wife. At 21, I was dating men in their late 20s and having great conversations and great sex, too. You’re right about being bored by younger men, but you never know. Your Prince Charming might be in high school right now.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,One of the most important things about college is getting a well-rounded experience. This includes joining clubs and participating in campus activities as well as doing well in classes. Most campuses are full of people who want to meet other people. Check with your student union. Get the college paper and look for interesting groups. Ask questions in class. People came up to me after class many times and said they had been wanting to ask the professor the same thing but were nervous. Ask class members who sit near you to go for coffee. Start a study group. I started college when I was 28 and finished when I was 32 and had two school-age children. If I can do it, so can you. Most of all, have fun!
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The wording of your question is interesting. ‘Would you set aside ALL the differences’ suggests that because they’re a different race, they are going to be completely different from you. What makes my day is when I meet someone who is completely different from me. Someone who has had different life experiences and different viewpoints than what I’ve been exposed to in my life. Some of the most interesting people in the world are different than you and if you don’t take a chance and meet these people, you’re going to have one very boring life.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
