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I’m a college student. I go to school North Connecticut. How can I meet cool people to hang out with? I don’t mean just guys to date. I’ve found several. I mean friends to hang out with and do things. Maybe I have to act a certain way? But then people don’t have the chance to see the real me, and if they’re going be friends with me, they should be comfortable with who I am, right?
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Name : Jane, Gender : F, City : Mansfield, State : CT, Country : United States,You want to know how to find people to hang out with who are comfortable with who you are. Good start – people shouldn’t go around pretending to be who they think people want them to be because the friends they make wont truely be their friends. So the question is – who are you? What do you like to do? What are you interested in? Here is my experience finding people to hang with in college. There are the people in your classes. Form study groups with people and get together at the local coffee shop or something like that – preferably someplace where there is food or drink because that puts people at ease. There may already be study groups that you can join, or you might have to put yourself out there and start one up. You will get to know people will probably find some that you would like to hang out with some more. I’ve found that the harder the class, the closer people in study groups get. And after a long hard study session, tell your group that you are suffering from brain drain and does anyone want to go shoot pool and have a beer – or something along those lines, whatever you like to do. There are also clubs you can join – depending on your major, outside interests, and so on. You can meet plenty of people there. And, if you live in the dorms, then you have ready-made hangin’ buddies. You live together, eat together, and you can hang together. And through them you will probably meet other people as well. Good luck, and don’t get discouraged when you see those girls with TONS of friends. Most of those friends will split as soon as it’s not ‘cool’ to hang out with that girl anymore.
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Name : Lucy22433, Gender : F, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 26, City : San Jose, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Jane- One of the best ways to meet people is to just be yourself. People tend to naturally gravitate to those who are true to themselves. I’m not sure if it’s innate or not, but it definitely is sub-conscious. If you are naturally outgoing, that’s great. If you tend to be shy around people, just try to say ‘hello’ to someone when they walk past you on campus. They might be in the same situation as you are and that was all they needed to break the ice. You may never know how much a simple ‘Hi,’ may mean to someone. The most important thing is that you must be yourself. Now, I don’t mean that you should stay exactly the same, because people naturally change. Change is progress- most of the time. Just try to be the person that makes you happiest. The ultimate goal is to keep happy, because if you’re not, then why do you do what you do? It’s one of those things that no one really realizes. Be happy, be yourself, just be. Good luck.
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Name : Bo23098, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 16, City : Syracuse, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : full-time student (HS), Education level : Less than High School Diploma,Why not hang out with the students you come into contact with at college?
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Name : Steve, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 37, City : Port Stephens, State : WA, Country : Australia, Occupation : Salesman, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,One of the most important things about college is getting a well-rounded experience. This includes joining clubs and participating in campus activities as well as doing well in classes. Most campuses are full of people who want to meet other people. Check with your student union. Get the college paper and look for interesting groups. Ask questions in class. People came up to me after class many times and said they had been wanting to ask the professor the same thing but were nervous. Ask class members who sit near you to go for coffee. Start a study group. I started college when I was 28 and finished when I was 32 and had two school-age children. If I can do it, so can you. Most of all, have fun!
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,What sort of things do you want to do? Most colleges have masses of clubs and societies – join a few that look interesting. It also helps to know when you arrive, feeling you don’t know anyone to hang with, that there are a load of other people who are feeling just the same – but one of you has to pluck up courage to speak first! My advice would be to join three or four clubs you like the sound of, take opportunities to be friendly with people in your seminars/classes and respond to any friendly overtures made by other people – who knows, they could be potential friends. Finally, bear in mind that as well as successes, you’re likely to have failures – there will be some people who don’t want to be friendly or include you – don’t let it get to you.
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Name : Margo, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 27, City : Manchester, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : lawyer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,That is a very old, and very reasonable question.There are very few trueisms in the world, but amoung the best are, You can’t pick your Friends, Enemies, or Relatives. All you can do is be true to who you are and how you feel. Consistency will drift you twards people who share similar intrests, but I have found real friends are frequently very different from myself , and you don’t recognise them until you realise you miss their pressence. I personaly have never met anyone at a bar or Nightclub that was still worth knowing in the morning. I have met most of my best friends…anywhere.
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Name : Christopher Schroeder, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : Jackson, State : WY, Country : United States, Occupation : Surgical Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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