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What is it that girls have against hairy guys? I can’t figure out what is so disgusting that they would have a total fit about it. I know not all girls are like this, and I don’t mean to generalize, but I’m just really curious about what the big deal is.
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Name : Ed25570, Gender : M, City : Des Moines, State : IA, Country : United States,It can generally be said that hair is kind of nasty. I know it seems impractical for men who have sparse, unchecked hair all over to shave or wax it all, but male models and actors do it because your average woman finds that more attractive than sparse, patchy thickets of body hair. Any complaints that men might have of the fact that a smooth chest is difficult to upkeep would likely fall upon unsympathetic ears where women are concerned, for whom the practice of shaving legs and pits is considered basic upkeep.
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Name : Justin26847, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,In the United States, I believe, it is for the same reason that men prefer women shave their legs and pits. It’s strictly cultural.
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Name : V. Andersen, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Buddhist, Age : 53, City : Phoenix, State : AZ, Country : United States, Occupation : Computer analyst, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,When I was a teenager, I thought hairy guys were unnattractive. But now that I’m a little older and the guys my age are the ones that are hairy, I find it more attractive. One thought: maybe because girls spend all their time shaving their legs, waxing their lips, bleaching their tummies, etc., they’re trained to not like hair.
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Name : Carrie-J32368, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 21, City : Provo, State : UT, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College,I’ll begin my answer with another question: What is it that guys have against hairy girls? This does go both ways. To be fair, guys have a lot more surface area for potential hair – chest, back, face, butt – so the standard being held up is not exactly equal. The amount or thickness of hair might be more ‘offensive’ than the mere presence of it. As a woman who does not have a preference about body hair either way, I can only speculate as to why some women might have extreme reactions against it: 1) it might be a grooming issue – body hair = dirt in someone’s mind; 2) it might be tactile – smoothness is more pleasing; 3) it might be idealistic – how many buff male models pose shirtless who are not also hairless?
What you have observed might be the flipside to what women experience on a daily basis, which is being held up to an impossible standard that only a few actually can attain.
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Name : Sheila, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 30, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,There’s nothing wrong with a hairy guy. For me, if you don’t have a hairy chest, beard and mustache, don’t bother calling. There’s nothing sexier and more masculine than a man with a hairy chest that you can run your fingers through.
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Name : Beth, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 34, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Freelance writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think it’s a matter of personal preference (like some people prefer blondes, some redheads, etc.) Speaking for myself, I don’t like a lot of body hair on a man, but I know some women who think the more body hair, the better.
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Name : Pam19862, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 28, City : Springfield, State : MO, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think the reason women don’t like hairy guys is the same reason men don’t like hairy women. Women shave their armpits, legs and bikini area. Hair interferes with the clean lines of the human form, and it can look and be dirty. I personally wish that men would also shave their armpits.
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Name : Jen, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 31, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : web developer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,First, it depends on what you mean by hairy. Do you mean just chest hair, or the kind of hairy where you look like you’re wearing a fur coat? As far as the hairy chest, I believe it is just a matter of preference with women. If you’re talking about a lot of hair all over, I think it might be because when women meet a guy they are potentially interested in, they start to fantasize about being intimate with him, what his body looks like, what they look like making love, etc. You get sweaty when you make love, and for some women (not all), the thought of a hairy man getting all sweaty all over them is … ugh. I don’t mean to generalize for all women, but this is the reason that all the women I know give for not being with a guy who is hairy. I know it sounds shallow, which it is, because all that should matter is what’s on the inside. But there’s a lid for every pot, and maybe you just haven’t found your lid yet.
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Name : Lisa, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 31, City : Tyrone, State : PA, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think it is a socialized notion that body hair is somehow unhygienic. Men pictured in magazine ads are always smooth-chested or have minimal hair. I think body hair is nice, so I’ve always wondered why people were grossed out about it.
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Name : Victoria, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 30, City : Knoxville, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : academic, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don’t like excessive amounts of any physical feature – I don’t like excessively muscled bodies, or excessively hairy, etc. A moderate amount of hair is fine. I also find that if I get to know a person and like them, I stop noticing how much hair, or muscles, or anything else, they have – even weight sort of fades into invisibility once I know a person.
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Name : Kelly, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Austin, State : TX, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,It sounds from this & other answers like the majority of women prefer men with little body hair. Does that mean you think men should be shaving their legs? What would your reaction be if your husband or long time boyfriend started shaving their legs & underarms? Would you support his decision to do this?
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Name : ajcoles, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 46, City : Madison, State : WI, Country : United States,I feel the opposite. I prefer hair. Shaved men look prepubescent. I find that unappealing. Please, don’t shave for me. Perhaps shaved men look more ‘TV.’
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Name : H-Puterbaugh, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 32, City : Springboro, State : OH, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,Does that mean that if a guy is naturally hairy but does something about it, i.e. waxes, shaves, etc., that it’s not as bad? Or is it just the thought that someone is naturally a hairy person that is a turn-off?
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Name : Curtis, Gender : M, Age : 34, City : Glover, State : WV, Country : United States,It depends on where this hairiness is. There is something about a bearded man that turns my head, but a hairy back turns my stomach!
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Name : Dee, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 50, City : Detroit, State : MI, Country : United States, Occupation : Administratior, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
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