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You are being stung by what we refer to as a ‘stereotype’, dear. Blonde American women have been stereotyped as hypersexual morons for decades, and a lot of people IN the U.S. (much less in other countries) buy so completely into the stereotype that they couldn’t see past it even if you smacked them between the eyes with a board. Unfortunately, unless you move to Scandinavia or Germany, you will continue to run into this until you go grey, I’m afraid. Your best course of action is to ignore where possible, humiliate where necessary; and if you discover you’re being screwed over at work because of your gender and hair color, pursue it to the fullest possible extent of the law.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Dude, I assume Buffalo Wild is a bar… Many if not most of your contemporaries are probably too drunk to notice the seat is down. I think the unanswered question is why you can’t just cowboy up, wipe the seat with a handful of toilet paper, raise it, and pee standing.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Among the Hispanics around whom I grew up, it was THE definitive gender differentiation tool. This seems to be the motivation for Arab and Indian/ Pakistani parents as well. I’ve seen parents of these cultures literally come right from the hospital to the Claire’s at the mall in order to have their two-or-three-day-old daughters’ ears pierced. I guess in cultures which place no or nearly no value on the lives of women, making sure a baby girl doesn’t get mistaken for a baby boy and treated too well is very important.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Certain foods, drinks and drugs can give urine a distinct odor and/or color because of chemical reactions. Taking a lot of B vitamins will turn your urine bright yellow-orange. Taking Mucinex for several days due to a cold made my urine smell very much like mown grass. Eating a lot of cruciferous vegetables (cabbage, broccoli, cauliflower, brussels sprouts, etc.) has given my urine a greenish tint and an odd, garlicky smell. It’s all chemistry, baby.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Speaking from the perspective of having been involved with a number of variously overweight blobs, a lot of them are in total denial about their own appearance. It’s sort of a ‘reverse anorexia.’ Where an anorexic looks in the mirror and thinks ‘God, I’m fat, I hate myself’ no matter how scrawny she/he gets, the reverse anorexic looks in the mirror and sees himself as he looked when he was at his physical prime, no matter how obese a swine he has become. Other overweight men are aware of their condition, and dislike their appearance, but are too lazy to do anything about it except whine and snivel about ‘how fat they’re getting’ while sitting on their asses in front of the telly shoving Cheetohs in their faces. Still others have battled their weight all their lives and have just sort of given up. Bear in mind also that since men aren’t judged by society almost solely on their appearance, the way women are, heavy men feel a lot less pressure to ‘shape up’; and don’t believe they can’t show themselves in public if they are heavier than some ‘ideal’ represented by a 90 lb 14-year-old made up to look like a skanky adult.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Maybe these ‘selfish, proud’ men don’t feel like undergoing risky, potentially damaging major surgery just to make you happy. Penile implants have a sufficently bad track record of failure and complications that they aren’t even recommended as a treatment option by most reputable physicians unless the patient has had serious trauma which literally physically prevents an erection. Maybe you should examine why it is that you think penile penetration is the only possible form of sex, and seek psychiatric treatment for your issues.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Maybe they don’t feel the need. I don’t use the air conditioning in my car most of the time because the ‘4-65’ method, combined with the vent fan, keeps me comfortable, and using the air conditioning destroys my mileage. Especially now, that 2-3 mpg using the air conditioning knocks off my mileage is a very big deal. I expect a lot of people, (not just blacks), who struggle to make ends meet and drive what they can get – frequently an older vehicle with less-than-spectacular mileage – feel the same way.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Here in the Kansas City area, you can’t throw a rock without hitting a blue house, unless it hits a yellow house. You may be on to something, because there are nearly as many Cajuns in the KC area as there are in southern Louisiana, and I have never seen more houses painted iterations on the theme of ‘blue’ anywhere else I’ve ever lived.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Well, here in the U.S., that’s called ‘child abuse.’ I’m not sure what you think you’re accomplishing by planning to shove your lifestyle down his throat, but I can tell you what you will accomplish: He’ll hate you for the rest of his life. Have fun with that.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Well, you could try moving to another state, or moving to one of the larger cities in TN where people aren’t quite so pig-ignorant and racist. If neither of those is an option, you could try turning the tables and either asking them why they care what race you are, or telling them you’re not black, and then reassuring them it’s okay, because ‘all you toothless, inbred Hillbilly Crackers look alike to me, too.’ Unfortunately, stupid, rude, ignorant, nosy people are the rule rather than the exception any more.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,People tend to think in stereotypes and cliche’s. This is a simple fact of life, and in the conventional mindset, you have to have something on your bread if you’re making a sandwich, because ‘everyone does it.’ I personally avoid ordering sandwiches unless I have no other choice, because I dismember them anyway, and I too can’t get waiters to accept I don’t want anything on the bread. (I do, however, like watching their heads explode when I put coffee creamer in my iced tea). If you’re in a really belligerent mood, you could try sending the sandwich back to the kitchen until they make it right instead of just eating it, but if you’re on a tight schedule, that’s not always an option. Sadly, you, like me, are probably stuck dealing with someone else’s idea of what constitutes a sandwich. As far as the ‘black people and creamy condiment’ issue, that may be a local preference, because in most places I’ve lived, black people tend to prefer things like mustard or bbq sauce on their sandwiches.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,An Atheist telling you he/she doesn’t believe in God because of lack of evidence sounds to me like someone giving a brush-off answer to a person they can see is totally closed-minded, and has already condemned them for their beliefs before even talking to them. Their beliefs are a little more complex than that, and I’d say your best bet might be to do some research either online or in your local library. Be warned: You will get out of it only what you put into it, and if you start your research with the mindset that you need to ‘chastise the godless heathen Atheists,’ you will come away from your research every bit as confused and without a real answer as you are now.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Would you be offended if complete strangers consistently identified you as, oh, say, Swedish or French, solely because of your appearance? Irrespective of what they ‘look like’, people from Puerto Rico or the Bahamas or Cuba are Puerto Rican or Bahamian or Cuban, and yes, they obviously don’t like ignorant Crackers like you misidentifying them based on their appearance.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The Indian/Pakistani parents I have known are just as prone to disciplining their children as anyone else. Here are some possible reasons the guy in your apartment complex behaved as he did: 1) It’s only within the last four or five years that Yuppies have gotten over the idea that they must be their children’s ‘pal’ rather than their ‘parent’; and that saying ‘no’ or punishing them for bad behavior will NOT irreversibly damage their delicate little self-esteemie-weemies and turn them into the next John Wayne Gacy. This Indian guy in your complex may have been a Yuppie. 2) He may have been a recent immigrant, and trying to ‘fit in’ by raising his son the way he perceived that ‘all’ Americans raise their kids, based on the absurd misinformation he read in those late 80’s early ’90’s ‘You Must Be Your Baby’s Buddy’ ‘parenting’ books. 3) He may have heard about that Chinese couple in Chicago who were nearly deported for getting caught appropriately punishing their lying, thieving 11-year-old daughter, and been afraid to so much as say ‘no’ to the kid for fear of being charged with child abuse.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As far as the beer swilling white women you see in the real world, I’d guess they’re mostly college girls, and the current college culture dictates that binge drinking shows you’re ‘cool’ and ‘with-it.’ I’d guess if you watch the guys these ladies are with, you’d realize they are drinking at least as much, and probably more than the women. ‘Most’ of ‘us’ don’t drink ‘tons of’ anything.
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Name : Ann L. Lowenstein, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Animist, Age : 37, City : K.C., State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrative Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
