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- Is there any particular reason the person who asked the question about Mormons is getting these smart-ass replies? All she wanted was some information and not, I'm presuming, these riffs that basically invite her to mind her own business.
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Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Reputations always lag several years behind reality, and Detroit's current reputation is that of a bombed-out, Rust Belt hulk of a city. I think Cleveland's reputation is turning around only now, but changes have been apparent there for years. Some people are still afraid to come to New York, even though on a per capita basis it's safer than some suburbs. So don't sweat it. If Detroit's changed, people will figure it out sooner or later - but probably later.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I'd suggest that insisting that each person do half the cooking, half the cleaning, half of this and half of that is a recipe for disaster. Some people are better at - or less troubled by - different tasks. It's OK if one of you cooks and one of you does all the laundry. In our house, we've sort of muddled to that conclusion. I work full time while my wife works part time, so she inevitably ends up doing more than I do around the house, especially during the week. She cleans more than I do. She gets things fixed that need fixing. She is with our kids more during the week. But I take care of all the bills. I do all the laundry. I do more kid stuff on the weekend. It wouldn't work if we each had to do half of each individual task - better to split the tasks up. But do split them - if you end up doing most of everything while your partner does almost nothing, that's no good.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Every wedding ring, picture of one's spouse or children at work, holding hands in public, dancing with someone of the opposite sex, etc. is an affirmation of straightness. Sorry if the lesbians dancing suggestively made you uncomfortable. If a man and a woman danced suggestively, which happens all the time (and even on TV!), I doubt you'd have even noticed.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If this man is not interesting in any way -- even as a friend -- then just say no thanks. You're not obligated to spend time with someone just because he asks. But if you wouldn't mind spending time with him, you could ensure that it's not a date by inviting other people along, or avoiding date-type places like movies, dinner, long walks on the beach, etc.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The law doesn't intend for non-contract workers to be fair game for abuse. Verbal harassment and grabbing are crimes. Some states define that behavior as assault, which is a felony. I'd consider filling out a police report, just so there is a record of these people's behavior in case you have further problems. And be careful.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As with people, there's a lot of variety in suburbs. In many, you'd be right to fear rampant conformity, materialism and narrow-mindedness of all stripes. Many people move to suburbs to get away from the messy city, where there are too many different kinds of people for these poor dears to cope with. But many suburbs are quite nice. The one I live in has a major gay pride parade every year. The school district is about 40 percent minority. There is a foreign film theater. A big independent book store. Several organic groceries. Lots of nice restaurants. So, there's hope. And if you happen to have picked the 'wrong' suburb, I guess you can start to make it a 'right' one.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Day care is just what the name says it is: Care during the day. It's not a substitute for parenting, and I don't feel guilty that my kids spend some time there - particularly when it enables us to feed and house them. Far from guilt, I'm quite happy they're in a place where they make friends and where they're safe while we work. I don't know of any parents who think day care workers are "raising" their children, and it's presumptuous if that's what day care workers think they're doing.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If you have questions about what you see and hear, I'd feel free to ask them. I imagine his family would appreciate your interest. There's nothing special you need to say or do, other than be willing to learn about your boyfriend's family and religion.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,In a city, an immigrant is more likely to find a job, people who speak the same language, a greater degree of tolerance by the majority and the ability to get an education or training. Even if an immigrant came from a rural area, there's little, if any, support for immigrants in rural America - no ethnic neighborhoods, no multilingual schools or communities, no jobs for people with little formal education or ability to speak English.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Sometimes different rights conflict with each other. It may not be so clear-cut that your teacher is punishing you for exercising your free speech rights. Is your "bad language" restricting other students' rights to an education? Is your free speech disrupting other people's rights to not be harassed?Rights come with responsibilities, and if your exercise of your rights hurts other people, it very may well be appropriate to discipline you. Sometimes it's not easy to know where to draw the line.
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Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Catholics and Jews can and do marry, with both spouses retaining their own religions. It's not always easy, obviously. Some things to consider if one of you doesn't convert: Judaism says religion passes through the mother's side of the family, so if you have children, they'll be considered Catholic (although it might be nice if they had an appreciation of their father's beliefs, too). The belief that women are 'unclean' during their menstrual cycle is still held by some Orthodox Jews; more mainstream Jews don't necessarily think that. How you work things out ultimately is up to the two of you. You both have to decide how important your own religions are to you and how each of you would feel living with someone who doesn't share the other's beliefs.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If there's a man you're interested, don't wait for him to notice you. Take the initiative. Many men are relieved to be asked out, and it's no harder for a woman to make the first move than it is for a man. Waiting for someone to notice you can take a long time, no matter what your gender is.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Obviously, some people, like you, manage to be articulate all by yourself. My mother, whose post-secondary education is just two years of secretarial school, is routinely mistaken for a much more educated person. She speaks well, reasons well and is a voracious reader. Actually, she is educated - but self-educated instead of formally educated.User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If the framers of the Constitution had wanted this to be a Christian country, they could - and would - have done so. However, they deliberately preserved our right to practice any religion, not merely our right to practice any brand of Christianity. You make a good point that the separation of church and state was in response to the British state-sanctioned religion. How is posting Christian symbols in government buildings different from the British practice the framers of the Constitutition found objectionable?User Detail :
Name : Andrew, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 35, City : Huntington, State : NY Country : United States, Occupation : Reporter, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
