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  • in reply to: Hitting on teenage girls #21242

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    The media, advertising and our general culture teaches men that all women are available (for the right price). Men grow up being fed the BS that ‘no’ means ‘yes’ and that any woman who bothers to put on lipstick is actively trolling for sex with anyone who happens to want her. I’ve heard a guy say that any woman who works out to have a good figure must be a slut.

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    in reply to: unfaithful? #21239

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    Sadly all you can do is be supportive of her decisions and help her get over him when it does fail. It’s never smart to get between a friend and his/her love interest. Also, unless you’re gay your interest could be misconstrued as a desire to break them up for your own purposes.

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    in reply to: Gay men nicer than straight men? #21235

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    I work in a business where gay men are over represented in terms of their numbers in the general population. I have dealt with just as many nasty, snarky, cynical bastards who happen to be gay as I have dealt with straight a**holes. Gay men come in all temperaments, just like straight men. Although I will admit that going to dinner or drinks with a gay colleague can be more enjoyable than with a straight one because you know he’s not going to get drunk and make a pass at you.

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    in reply to: Why’s sex considered dirty by so many Christians? #21236

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    The Europeans who first came to the US happened to be of a sect that demonized sex. The US to this day suffers from a sex-phobic, Calvinist attitude. Protestants in Europe (Lutherans and Anglicans for example) don’t seem to have these freaky attitudes about sex.

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    in reply to: hatred of god #21219

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    After an incredible spate of “bad luck”, I too came to the conclusion that if there is a God, he hates me. After realizing that there is no God and that life is a random series of events, I feel much better. Your life is under your control, not that of some imagined deity concocted by the superstitious and insecure to make themselves feel superior to everyone else.

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    in reply to: Reply To: Physical vs. intellectual labor #21214

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    Unless my city and state are a complete anomaly, the national trend does seem to be pressure on even “low” level office workers to put in longer and longer hours without additional compensation. I know “secretaries” doing 80 hour weeks for 30K a year. It seems to be getting worse. So, hoping to hear from someone who actually does physical labor. Where would you prefer to work?

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    in reply to: Suicide #21211

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    You are not a freak and you are not alone. You’re just living in a small town with narrow minded people. If there isn’t a GLAAD, PFLAG or other gay-friendly organization in your town, seek one out in a nearby city. You can’t let a few bigots determine what your life will or won’t be. You’re only 17, you have so much ahead of you. Keep in mind, when teens tell “fag” jokes and appear insensitive it is often because they’ve never had any proper gay role models. You can be that example for them. Show them that gay folks can be kind, competent, smart, funny and devoted friends. DO NOT DO ANYTHING CRAZY and seek out a suicide hotline at least if you’re feeling on the edge. It isn’t worth it.

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    in reply to: African-American children’s names #21209

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    My kid goes to a hippy private school, mostly white and Latino, and half the kids there have made up or way pretentious names. DaVinci, Trueheart, Mindanao, etc. And don’t forget all the weird white trash names in the world: Ashlee, Brit’ni, Caycee, McCayla, Shayla, Shyla, et al. My two closest black friends are named Deborah and Angela. Their siblings have names like John, David, Carolyn and Joe.

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    in reply to: Homosexual’s Marrying #21205

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    What it WILL do and HAS done is inject millions of desperately needed dollars into the depressed California State economy. Between license fees and all the money spent on these additional weddings, gay marriage has been great for California. I’m guessing a lot of states could use this additional income. Too many “conservative” states are shooting themselves in the foot on this issue.

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    in reply to: Not Normal!! #21206

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    I know very few women who were able to achieve orgasm during the first few years of being sexually active. Also, most women can’t get there through vaginal intercourse alone. You may need to do a bit of experimentation, by yourself and with partners, to find out what turns you on. You’re NOT unusual and it’s not necessarily some mental hang up. Women are physiologically different than guys. If you’re with a trusted partner, you’ve tried everything and you still can’t get there, THAT would be the time to reach out to a professional.

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    in reply to: Gay men and oral sex #21207

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    I have known gay men who start this way because they’re still intimidated by the notion of penetrative sex. It’s possible this guy just really likes giving head, or it’s possible he’s still not quite comfortable with his sexuality. It’s also possible he was trying to shield you from an STD of some sort. I have experienced this as a straight woman with a guy who was embarrassed to tell me he had genital warts.

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    in reply to: Is he too old for this? #21204

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    One would expect you to be at least a little understanding. But, any guy who has to write “very, very straight” in his forum profile as clearly got some issues anyway.

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    in reply to: Defining Love/God/All #20719

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    Congratulations on finding a belief system that works for you. Now, please leave the rest of us alone. Your opinions are no more valuable than those of a Muslim, Buddhist or Atheist. Sadly too many religious people feel comfortable trying to indoctrinate others. NOT a very Godly thing to do.

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    in reply to: Why do people believe creationism? #20720

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    Rational theologists agree that there’s wiggle room in the various translations of Biblical text. Scientists who happen also to be religious believe that God had a hand in evolution. This doesn’t seem to be a major conflict to me. Sadly, religion in the hands of the not very smart often becomes an inflexible weapon they use to bludgeon people with.

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    in reply to: Why not believe in God? #20721

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    But more critical thinkers do.

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