I feel that waiting is a noble thing to do, but I don't want someone who is inexperienced and just fumbling around or lying there like a bump on a log. I think it's just as acceptable for a woman to have lots of fun, safe sex as it is for a man, and it doesn't make her a slut or easy or anything that doesn't apply to men. Virginity is nice, but experience is nicer, as far as I am concerned. Sex is risky, no matter how you cut it. The same consequences are present with a virgin or a man/woman who has been around the block. I say, if you're going to do it, do it with gusto and have fun. If that means that people around you will disapprove, let them work out their own character issues before looking in your yard. To me, experience is very important.
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Oh, you will, buddy, you will.
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, I am so thrilled that you asked such a great question. Simple and to the point, and yet it made me think. For me, what attracts me to a woman is the way she moves. I watch the way women move when they walk, talk, and do just about anything. I am a hard-core sensualist and I pay very close attention to body language. Other things like physical appearance is important too but then sometimes, it really isn't. We've all been in situations where we've seen someone who, objectively speaking, is drop-dead gorgeous and yet they did nothing for us. For me, looks are nice to have but there are other qualities that would make someone, 'perfect'. I also listen to how a woman talks. Not so much what she says, but what she doesn't say is more telling to me. I try to find what is hidden from plain view. The face behind the face. Softness is what I am looking for. Pure and simple! Softness, and natural elegance, a love for truth, and non-superficial. If you should find such a person, please tell her that I am searching for her.
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, I hear your point. However, your argument seems to lend support to one made earlier regarding economics. My question was more in terms of the average black male earning less than six figures. Take the economics out of the equasion and the question is yet still unanswered. Unless, economics is the answer. It seems difficult to accept, however, since the average white male also earns less than six figures. Therefore, the question remains.
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, It is much easier for women to entice men than for men to entice women. It has been my experience that women, no matter how great they look, have a problem with some physical feature they have. Their boobs are either too big or too small, hair too curly or too straight, body too fat or too thin, etc. These things are issues that seem to plague women regardless of how nice they may look. Men on the other hand feel that they need to embellish their looks for women because they still don't understand clearly that women are not as visually stimulated as men are. Looks count alot for men and 'us men' assume that looks count as much for women. Thus, when you have internet ads, or ads in a paper where people give physical descriptions of themselves, you are very likely to find the disparities that you have so accutely pointed out.
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Oh brother!
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Both myself and my wife are lawyers. We have two kids, two cars, a mortgage, and once had several dogs. My wife hired a maid to clean, cook, shop for groceries and care for our kids while we work. Now that's okay if that's the way she wants to do things. But I happen to know for a fact that my wife, although I love her, is a lazy, shiftless, totally undomesticated woman. She will not do any work at home no matter what. So, given this, I have formed my own personal opinion on something here: Women of today want to be too much like men. Now, I know that sounds sexist but hold your judgement for a moment. My mother raised three sons all alone while she worked full-time. We never had a maid and no one did our cooking and cleaning for us. My mother came home from work everyday and made dinner. She did the laundry on the weekends. She ironed all of the clothes and did all of the shopping. The more women I talk to from my mother's generation and older, it seems that they were much better, on the whole, at keeping not only a husband, but a home. You women of the post-female-revolution period have disoriented us guys. Now it seems you want the corporate corner office and the box of roses too. I think guys today don't want to share 50-50 because we can't always be sure if the women we live with, actually have penises!
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, I can speak only for myself. I stare because I love to look. I will admit also that there is a large part of me that fantasizes about having a woman with a nice body. Unlike women, men can very easily separate sex from love and affection. This is just one of those, 'men are from mars, women are from venus' things. Women have a difficult time understanding this in men. Quite frankly, I have a hard time understanding what the big deal is with women. Why can't you all just get over the affection thing and have good-clean-fun and most importantly, responsible sex. Why do you all have to make such a big deal about it?
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, I am so glad that you brought up that name. For the life of me, I can't understand what people see in Laura Schlessinger. She is the biggest baffoon in the entire entertainment world. An average of 30 seconds of 1 side of a story, and she gives advice to people on how they should govern their lives. Why do people even listen to her. To try and address your question, I think Laura is worse than a sensationalist. She really believes that she has all of the answers and sees herself as an icon of wisdom. The truth is that she really doesn't say anything to her listeners that they couldn't figure out on their own. The sad part is that she has become such a big 'Dear Abby' that even the religous world has exploited her as a means to boost membership for various congregations (which makes me terribly ashamed).
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, While I agree that close hugs can create a desire in men, I don't agree with the implication that refraining from close hugging will discourage desire. Men are visually stimulated. That being the case, we have at times the ability to 'imagine scenarios,' in the words of Hannibal Lecter, even without contact. These scenarios can sometimes be so vivid that physical reactions can occur even though physical contact does not. In my case, I like close hugs and I think the original question is a great one. I have often wondered about this myself. Feeling another woman's breasts during a close hug adds to the vividness of the fantasy. Something I think is healthy and safe as long as it remains just a fantasy.
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, In reading your question, it's not clear whether you are asking if it's natural for a white man to be interested in black women, or if it's normal for a man to be interested in porn. However, I will assume you mean the latter and address your inquiry in that regard. As another respondent said, men are quite visually stimulated. The interest in porn need not be a reflection on the wife, however. But then, at times it may well be. Why do men go to hookers or strip clubs when they have spouses at home? I have found the answer to be that there may be any number of reasons. Good/bad, right/wrong, hookers will do what wives won't often times. Strippers are there to make men, and sometimes women, feel like kings. The man's pleasure is all that matters (besides getting the money in his wallet). While one may argue the moral temperature of this phenomenon, it is really not germain. Men often want to feel like kings in the bedroom, and wives often fail to foster that feeling in men. This is where the hooker/stripper comes in. While it may be destructive to the relationship, men will indeed take the gamble for the experience of this much-needed pleasure. On the other hand, some men have wives who do everything for them, and yet they still frequent hookers and strip clubs or have affairs. There seems to be little or no logic to it. And that's the point. Emotions/feelings are not governed by logic. They simply are. If your husband has been entertaining a fantasy about black women, perhaps you would do well by your marriage to discuss it with him in a non-combative manner. If approached in this way, you may add some spice to your relationship. Otherwise, he may be so filled with the desire that any excursions away from home could involve fulfillment of his fantasies.
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, What guy wouldn't want to be in your shoes. I'll tell you; a guy that hasn't experienced this already. I have never shared my wife but I did share a very beautiful girlfriend. Relationships, particularly marriages, are much much more than sex. Although the idea of a threesome is fun and exciting to fantisize about, actually going through with it is another animal altogether. Your wife may not be able to be satisfied by one person, as you stated. However, as an adult, one must realize that part of being grown-up means that you understand that you can't have everything that you want. Sometimes you have to just do without the extras in life that make the ho-hum of everyday living more exciting. That's called being an adult. If you two are unable to be satisfied exclusive of other people, perhaps you should not be together at all, or at least not as husband and wife. If I were you, I would rethink this decision. Just as sex between a man and woman eventually loses its pizzazz and becomes routine and boring, this behavior too with outside partners will also become routine and who knows what other games you will seek to satisfy your desires. Perhaps the two of you will be unable to relate to each other sexually at all. Personally, I see this as an awfully fun way to totally dessimate what could and should be a sacred union between man and woman.
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, I wonder, what is it about your johnson that makes a woman want to laugh?
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, EEEEEEEWWWWWWW!!!!!
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, This may take a bit but please bare with me. A child plays on the playground with other children and never gives thought to whether another child is wearing a crusafix or a star of david. Children don't think about skin color or external appearance in the same way adults do. Somehow, we as adults teach them to notice these external diferences and attach 'labels' that take on a very different meaning than those of a child. And once these same children have grown up, these 'labels' and the meanings that have been attached to them are nearly impossible to be seen in a different way. They become 'us', if you will, and perpetuate the same horrors and character de-escalations that we do daily. I see interracial adoption the way I see any adoption. It's one thing to give birth to a child of your own and love that child. But to look at a child who is not born of your loins and say to that child, 'I want to love you and nurture you and give you a life of security and well-being', to me is a very special and wonderful gift. When you give birth, you get what you get. When you adopt, you get what you want and you give something extremely precious to a child in a way that a birth parent is not capable of doing. I am aware that there are people who feel that a child should only be adopted by a family of the same race/ethnic background, and I am aware of all the arguments to that affect. I think a child needs, first and foremost, to learn love and respect for himself and his/her fellow man before anything else. It takes a special kind of strength in our world to withstand the glares, stares and whispers and go against the grain of societal norms and just love someone. Perhaps this should be your questions. How does one teach this to a child rather than should one adopt because the child is different.
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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 
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