[MB22274]

As a virgin, I have been wondering (especially since I have been in high school) what is so big about sex. I am a very sexual/erotic person but yet do not care to have sex. I have discussed this with my friends but still do not totally see what's the big deal.

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Name : MB22274, Gender : F, Age : 18, City : Kansas City, State : MO Country : United States, 

[Pete S.]

Sex is often more hype than anything else. As a young person, particularly a virgin, there tends to be a lot of pressure to 'do it,' get it over with and find out what sex is all about. Despite all of the romantic novels, porn movies and sex scenes in books, the actual act doesn't take that long for most couples. Usually, the most amount of time is spent in foreplay ... and afterward in critiquing one anothers' performance. Perhaps, for you, your sexual desires are satisfied by heavy petting or just kissing and touching. Often, when someone isn't ready to 'go all the way', they ask questions such as yours. There's nothing wrong with that, we all decide when we are ready to have sex at our own time and shouldn't allow ourselves to be pressured into doing something before it's right for us. There's no rush to have sex. Having sex just to have sex is pretty unfulfilling. Having sex with someone you truly and deeply love transcends the physical experience to become something more magical. Unfortunately, words don't adequately describe the feeling. When you're ready and the time and the other person are right, your sexual experience will be one that you treasure.

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Name : Pete S., Gender : M, Age : 51, City : Orlando, State : FL Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, 

[GARY]

Oh, you will, buddy, you will.

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Name : GARY, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Jewish, Age : 38, City : Los angeles, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[Dot]

You may come to enjoy sex as time goes on, or maybe you won't. I know several persons who identify as "asexual". They have friends and in one case a live in domestic partner (strictly platonic), but they don't care to have sex. These people have a lot of time and energy to put into their careers and hobbies and in one case have even adopted a child. There's nothing wrong with not wanting sex.

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Name : Dot, Gender : Female, Age : none, City : L.A., State : CA Country : United States, Social class : Middle class, 

[ShirleyAvery]

You'll find out what's so wonderful about it when you have an affectionate, caring partner who takes time with foreplay and wants to please you. there has to be some level of commitment to the relationship, though you don't have to be madly in love. Love makes it much better. It's the physical conversation between two people who each want to please their partner and in the process, everyone's a winner. With guys who skip foreplay, want only a one-night stand and are totally into themselves, forget it. It's not worth it.

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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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