Why do white women feel black men are unacceptable husbands?
Not all white women feel that black men are not ‘husband material’; where I live (California) there are many inter-ethnic marriages. However, many white women face tremendous family disapproval if they want to marry a black man. This doesn’t matter to some women, but many others would rather not upset their families.
For the same reason white men feel black women are unacceptable wives: ‘Jungle Fever’ does not necessarily lead to love and a lifetime of happiness. But white women will marry black men 10 times faster than the other way around, statistically speaking. White people think in terms of future and economic principle when choosing a mate for the future, and black mates don’t look good at the annual Christmas party. Black people, on the other hand, tend to choose mates for reasons other than money and futures.
The first thing that struck me about this post was the insulting generalization that all white people choose relationships in terms of money and power. What an incredibly racist statement, and completely lacking in any reasonable logic. What is this opinion based on? Can you prove this assertion? It is sometimes striking to me how willful ignorance and prejudice can be so widespread. Is this how we want to remember the end of the century of so-called ‘diversity’ and ‘tolerance’?
I would have to agree with you on one point, that being the issue of economic concerns – at least within the realm of marriage. I married my wife purely out of love and a desire to make her my best friend for the rest of my life. My money/her money was not at issue with me. I must disagree with you on a different point, however. ‘Jungle Fever’ is an issue that stems from an element of curiosity. This must necessarily dissipate, however, once the relationship has matured beyond the initial ‘fluff.’ I really think a more substantial argument is needed here. One last point: I am b and black and Jewish. Annual Christmas parties are not in my portfolio of events.
That is obviously not true since many white women are married to black men. Do you expect to see all white women married to black men?
In response to Renata G’s comments, allow me to say that I have never heard such b.s. in my life beacause if a White person made such a comment there would be hell to pay and that is why I think that black people such as Renata need to examine their racial attitudes in regards to this issue.
I have seen a lot of interracial marriages between white women and black men. It is definitely more common than black women and white men. I believe that love, compatability, common goals and outlook, compassion and caring, and physical attraction are the types of things that should be considered in a marriage. Race doesn’t even make the list.
I hear your point. However, your argument seems to lend support to one made earlier regarding economics. My question was more in terms of the average black male earning less than six figures. Take the economics out of the equasion and the question is yet still unanswered. Unless, economics is the answer. It seems difficult to accept, however, since the average white male also earns less than six figures. Therefore, the question remains.
I don’t think white women feel black men are unacceptable … ever seen a lineup of black NFL players and their wives?
I am white and married a black man for love. I don’t know why you would think this…