[Dave M.]

For a long time the medical community thought of transgendered people as being some sort of 'super gay' kind of person. Not so! Some men become women and still want men, some want women, some want either, and finally some want neither (celibate).

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[Dave M.]

Most stutterers are VERY aware of 'making you wait' and that only adds to the stress they're feeling. Even so, its considered very impolite to jump in and finish their sentence! (Also, any signs of impatience on your part will only make it worse!) Just slow down and metaphorically sit back. Once they figure out that you think what they have to say is worth waiting for... Thanks for asking.

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[Dave M.]

Because its VERY hard to find a job; you're treated in a condescending manner by most social service agencies; virtually 'not seen' by the majority of the public; and its almost impossible to find a date or relationship.

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[Dave M.]

Some do, some don't! Some are 'super-macho' and some are flaming dragsters! Like any and everything else, people don't fit in a single category.

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[Dave M.]

Being male, I can't give an 'experiential' answer, but of the six relationships I've had, four partners were especially aroused during menses. Discussing it, we came to these conclusions about why this was so: 1. increased hormonal levels 2. increased initial lubrication makes for more enjoyable foreplay 3. increased mass (uterine lining) causes generally increased awareness of sexual organs, hence sex is 'more on her mind.'

P.S. Personally, while menstrual sex doesn't increase my enjoyment, it certainly never decreased it. I view it as a celebration of femine possibility.

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[Dave M.]

Orientation can change from day to day, so don't worry about it. Usually, the only people who insist there is one and only one 'correct' orientation have been wounded in some way. It may be that they are fundamentalists of some sort, or may be so afraid of being ostracized by their friends that they can't admit that an 'unapproved' attitude can be valid. They mave have been molested or assaulted and never come to terms with it.

You are growing, exploring and learning. I hope you won't limit yourself by worrying excessively about what your friends might think. There is no time limit. I have friends (even older than I) who still don't know! A minority of people are only straight, some are only gay, and the vast majority are somewhere in between. Don't be afraid of self-knowledge or exploration, but stay safe. Especially in small towns, there are people who will harrass and despise (and even assault) anyone who dares to think outside the box of their limited norm.

Enjoy masturbatory fantasies, but remember, they are only fantasy. It's normal for a straight person to have gay fantasies, and vice versa. Just because a person has a rape fantasy doesn't mean they want to be raped. If the only way you can reach orgasm is through gay or straight fantasy, then you're probably gay or straight. No biggie either way. But don't hurry into sexual activity. Don't mistake being horny for love. Don't confuse friendship with horny. Use protection. Don't hurry. Don't worry. Enjoy.

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Name : Dave M., Sexual Orientation : tg lesbian, Race : mixture, Religion : Pagan, Age : 49, City : mc cleary, State : WA Country : United States, Occupation : philosopher, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Lower class, 

[Dave M.]

(continued) enjoy masturbatory fantasies, but remember, they are only fantasy! its 'normal' for a straight person to have gay fantasies and visa versa. Just because a person has a rape fantasy doesn't mean they want to be raped! if the only way you can reach orgasm is through gay or straight fantasy, then you're PROBABLY gay or straight. no biggie either way! don't hurry into sexual activity. learn all the physiology / anatomy / biology possible. don't mistake horny for love. don't confuse friendship with horny. use protection! you CAN get pregnant the first time. you DON'T have to have coitus to get pregnant! (sperm are tenacious lttle critters, they can travel from a puddle on your tummy, a hand on your labia, or even from the infamous 'wet spot' all the way to your fallopian tubes!) a condom only prevents pregnancy about 90% of the time; because viruses are smaller than sperm, its even less effective at disease protection. look for a toll free hotline and discuss ideas and attitudes with them anonymously. don't worry. don't hurry. enjoy. good luck, dave

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