There are two things you should try: (1) Eating foods that produce less gas, and (2) using an 'internal deodorant.' Foods that are high in fiber that isn't easily digested (raw veggies, beans) will produce gas; and if you are lactose intolerant, you'll want to steer clear of diary products as much as possible. As for internal deodorants, try finding chlorophyll tablets or capsules; many people swear by them. How people smell has a LOT to do with how we respond to them, so if you're looking for love, you need to start doing internet research for answers, and find a specialist who knows more about 'bad gas.'
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, If your 'dating' involves sex with this gentleman, you may wish to maintain some discretion. Under California law, the age of consent for sexual relations is 18, and until you reach that age, your 25-year-old boyfriend could technically be charged with child molestation. Then again, the law would treat him the same if he were 19 and you were 17, which illustrates how inherently problematic 'age of consent' laws are. What if you were both 16? Consensual sexual activity between people your age is pretty common. What would they do, throw you both in jail? Emotional maturity and the ability to handle sexual activity occurs in different people at different ages; unfortunately, the law must be applied equally. So basically if you can't refrain from sex with your boyfriend until you are 18, you ought to be as discreet as possible. Also, if you wish to avoid HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases, you may want to discuss medical screening for such things for both of you. And if you are both in the clear, monogamy and trust will help you avoid such things in the future.
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, First, homosexuals no more choose to be gay than heterosexuals choose to be straight. Sexual orientation is a morally neutral indication of whether one is inclined toward romantic relationships with members of the opposite sex (heterosexual), same sex (homosexual) or either sex (bisexual). It is a naturally occurring variation of sexual inclinations, just as being left-handed is a naturally occurring variation of manual dexterity. It has nothing to do with parenting, as most gay children are born to heterosexual parents. As for the 'meaningful purpose' of homosexuality, ask any gay couple how meaningful their relationship is. My partner, Greg, and I are both gay and have been together for almost four years, and I can tell you that the love and commitment we have for each other is just as meaningful, valuable and profound as within any married, heterosexual couple. Such love and commitment are meaning enough when two people are building a life together. If you'd take the time to get to know some gay couples, you might come to realize that.
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, I once asked a co-worker of mine (who also happens to be a Baptist minister) if he would explain to me the difference between faith and knowledge. He answered me with a snippet of Scripture: 'The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge.' It didn't exactly answer my question. I think for many of the most devout, there is an extremely blurry line between faith and knowledge. But religion is by definition a matter of faith, not knowledge. Faith is in many ways stronger than knowledge: While scientific theories can either be proved or disproved, God and the supernatural cannot be. The existence of Jesus seems to be a matter of historical record; but the notion that he actually rose from the dead is a matter of faith, since only a handful of followers claim to have seen him after his resurrection. Jesus certainly benefitted from a lot of good P.R.
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, I don't know of any black people who are angry over having been born black. I don't know any left-handers (including my partner Greg) who are angry over having been born left-handed in a culture geared toward right-handedness. And while I am aware that some gay people (especially those who are conservative Christians) are so bitter about their sexual orientation that they choose to mask it with heterosexual behavior, I have never been angry about being gay. I have viewed the world and other people through the same eyes and mind as I've had since birth. I was neither traumatized nor 'seduced.' Being gay is as natural to me and as fundamental to my being as liking food. God has also blessed me with a wonderful spouse, with whom I have a loving, nurturing and monogamous relationship. This 'lifestyle,' as you call it, is nothing to be angry about as far as I can see.
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, A homosexual man is psychologically and biologically 'wired' to establish intimate relationships with other men, whereas with bisexual men those relationships can occur with both men and women. As for cross-dressing, if a Straight man does it, it's usually for sexual gratification and to fulfill fantasies; if a Gay man does it, it's usually for entertainment purposes (i.e. Drag Shows).
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, If you're sure you are bisexual (i.e. experiencing physical and emotional attraction to males and females), and your friends ask you if you are bisexual, why lie to them? Suppose you start dating another young woman, and the two of you are frequently seen together at dances or other social events, and you are obviously a couple. What would there be for anyone to ask? I don't mean to sound facetious about this: 'Coming Out' is not meant to be taken lightly. But generally women are perceived to have a much more fluid sexuality than men, so bisexuality in women is really not that big of a deal anymore. If anything, your friends might find it rather hip.
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, Douglas writes, 'Why fault others for a situation you brought upon yourself?' Being Gay is not something that one brings upon oneself, any more than being Straight is some you 'brought upon yourself.' Being Gay is not a matter of opinion or being 'politically correct.' My sexual orientation is just as innate and fundamental to my being as yours is to you, so why should it offend or confuse you? Gee, Doug, your ought to read YForum more often; you might learn to understand other people's difference better. That's the purpose of this forum.
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, Paulette, you have cut right to the heart of why it's so important for lesbians and gay men to be open and honest about who we are; because if we stay in the closet, and we do not fit outrageous stereotypes about how lesbians or gay men are supposed to talk, act or appear, the unconscious assumption is made that we are straight. For instance, I am a big, stocky guy, tend to favor bluejeans and sweatshirts and certainly do not have a remotely effeminate voice. Yet I am also a proud gay man, politically active and hopelessly devoted to my partner, Greg. I don't want ANYONE to assume I am straight, so it's kind of frustrating when I'm asked if I have a wife or girlfriend. And to any straight person who reads these comments, I ask you: If you found out that an employer or some other acquaintance had made the assumption that you were gay, would you not want to correct that assumption?
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, There are many lesbians and gay men willing to fight for their country. There always have been, and there always will be. In fact, I've always admired those men and women, be they gay or straight, who are willing to go through the rigors of military training, be chewed up and stuffed into the mold of a soldier, and be willing to die on the fields of battle. During the past decades of relative peace for the United States, conservatives have seen fit to deny gay people the opportunity to serve their country. But my guess is that if we do go to full-scale war against terrorists and the nations that support them, any concerns about gays in the military are likely to be conveniently overlooked. Those of us in the gay community are just as patriotic as our straight brothers and sisters.
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, No to impugn any one man's aesthetic sensibilities, but if men in general feel this way, it's probably out of some sense that the sexes should be easily distinguishable and confined to certain standards of appearance. Thus men are supposed to have short hair, and women are supposed to have long hair. Women wear makeup, men don't. Men watch ESPN, women watch soap operas. Personally I find all these to be rather antiquated notions. As for hair length, I personally think women look better with shorter hair. It's certainly easier to take care of. I have persuaded one female friend of mine to get her hair cut from the thick 'Mary Tyler Moore Show' look to a more sensible Anita Baker-type bob, and she loves it. It takes less time to style and dry, and it's certainly more confortable during these hot summer months. Another thing: Although long, wavy tresses may look good on trendy teens, they look absolutely ridiculous on any woman over the age of 40. Long hair on men is pretty yucky also.
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, Carter, I want to thank you for your lengthy expose on why men like female breasts. Or I should say, why STRAIGHT men like female breasts. As a gay man, I learned more than I ever wanted to know. Perhaps I could interest you in the sensual delights of running one's hands through a thick forest of chest hair, feeling another thick beard and moustache against mine, stroking another man's long, hard ... oh, never mind!
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, I think many of us who are Gay or Lesbian might prefer that you rephrase the question. By 'lover,' do you mean domestic partner or spouse, or do you mean someone who sneaks in through the bedroom window in the middle of the night? It would be inappropriate for me to call my partner Greg my 'husband,' since we are forbidden from getting legally married in the United States; but he is certainly more to me than a 'lover,' since we have made a commitment to each other, we are monogamous, and we intend to be together for life. God tells us that we are to cleave unto our spouses. So if I had to choose between my parents and Greg, I would have to choose Greg. Fortunately I don't have to choose, because my parents accept Greg, and as a matter of fact Greg & I are spending next weekend with my parents at their lovely lakeside home!
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, Even with the progress lesbians and gay men have made toward acceptance in U.S. society, there are still fierce familial and societal pressures put upon all of us to conform. As children, boys are encouraged to play sports, and girls are encouraged to play with dolls. In school, words like 'faggot' and 'queer' are used as weapons; being called a fag is the worst thing in the world to a boy, even if he doesn't quite understand the full implications of the term. The norm among ostensibly 'traditional' families is for the sons to get good jobs, get married to nice girls and have lots of kids. Any other behavior is suspect, especially behavior that might indicate that one is (gasp!) homosexual. Speaking from experience, I came to grips with my sexual orientation in an easy, natural way, with a minimum of guilt, but for many other gay men I know, it was not so easy. For many gay men, it is impossible at first to reconcile one's inculcated beliefs that 'gay equals bad' with one's deeply ingrained homosexual orientation. For many of these men, the only perceived solution is to marry and father children in hopes that they might be 'cured.' (And trust me: With a little daydreaming it's possible for any gay man to consumate a sex act with a woman.) But as far as a genuine emotional and physical attraction goes, the charade ultimately proves to be an exercise in futility, and then the real damage takes place: Spouses feel betrayed, marriages are torn apart and children are caught in the fray. And for what? All for the sake of societal and familial expectations and conventions. It's very sad. It would be much better if society could learn to accept and support lesbians and gay men, and for lesbians and gay men to accept themselves and develop their own sense of self-worth, rather than having these contrived 'bisexual' scenarios play themselves out to their often painful conclusions.
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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, Your question indicates a failure to differentiate between one's sexual orientation and one's sexual behavior. Sexual orientation is a morally neutral indication of whether one is inclined toward romantic relationships with members of the opposite sex (heterosexual), same sex (homosexual) or either sex (bisexual). It does not indicate whether sexual activity has taken place or will take place; it merely indicates how your brain is wired to respond sexually to males or females. On the other hand, the sexual behaviors you have identified (namely sadomasochism and pedophilia) involve specific sexual activities that take place regardless or one's sexual orientation. I would also like to point out that there is a big ethical distinction to be made between a loving, nurturing relationship between two gay people, as opposed to the deliberate sexual victimization of children.
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