[Ashleigh]

Should I tell my friends I'm a bisexual?

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Name : Ashleigh, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : no religion, Age : 15, City : Lincoln, State : NA Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, 

[Mark]

At 15, it might be a little early to label yourself. I'd keep it to myself for now. Not because it's anything bad, but because others in your peer group might not have formed an opinion on the issue. You might risk losing friends or causing yourself problems - and you might not consider yourself bi in a few years.

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Name : Mark, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 34, City : Mt Clemens, State : MI Country : United States, Occupation : Paramedic, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, 

[Deb25770]

If you are comfortable with your orientation, tell them. But be prepared to lose some friends. You may think they are liberal and open-minded, but sexual orientation can make people really uncomfortable. I see you are only 15; are you sure you are really bisexual? If so, the choice depends on how you feel about yourself.

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Name : Deb25770, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 48, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, 

[Chuck A.]

If you're sure you are bisexual (i.e. experiencing physical and emotional attraction to males and females), and your friends ask you if you are bisexual, why lie to them? Suppose you start dating another young woman, and the two of you are frequently seen together at dances or other social events, and you are obviously a couple. What would there be for anyone to ask? I don't mean to sound facetious about this: 'Coming Out' is not meant to be taken lightly. But generally women are perceived to have a much more fluid sexuality than men, so bisexuality in women is really not that big of a deal anymore. If anything, your friends might find it rather hip.

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Name : Chuck A., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 41, City : Spring Hill, State : WV Country : United States, Occupation : AIDS Educator/Part-time radio announcer, 

[hey!]

I am 15 and bisexual, and have told some people. I won't tell others because they might laugh and make fun of me. So be careful and watch the ones who act funny.

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Name : hey!, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 16, City : hollywood, State : FL Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, 

[K26961]

You are only 15. You may think you are old enough to know by now, but you may see things differently in the future. Also, what have you to gain by placing such a label on yourself? I have had bisexual experiences in the past and am open to future ones. However, I have never labeled myself bisexual. If I developed a relationship with a female I may change my mind, but until then I prefer to be assumed heterosexual, simply as this makes my life easier.

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Name : K26961, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 22, City : Sydney, State : NA Country : Australia, Occupation : educator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Lori]

I wish we could all present to the world exactly who we are without having to wonder what others think. I hope that some day sexual orientation will be a non-issue for all people and that nobody will have to wonder if they will lose the love and support of friends or family if they share that they are bisexual, gay, lesbian or transgendered. I never had to wonder if I should tell my friends I was heterosexual when I was 15 - nor have I since. In other words, I wish you didn't have to be concerned about what your friends think about your sexuality, but because that is the way of the world (for now), I think it would be best for you to come out so you can be exactly who you are, which will enable you to reach your full potential.

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Name : Lori, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 43, City : Saco, State : ME Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[W-Herdman]

My friends might think me hip (after all, they're my friends already), but strangers, co-workers, landlords and others have found it pretty threatening. Almost worse are the men who seem to consider my bisexuality their personal sexual thrill. The most common male response is not 'Cool for you,' but 'Can I watch?'

I've also found that people often find female bisexuality/lesbianism 'cool' in theory, but often freak when faced with it in person. As if only porn stars, clubbers or brainless bimbos might want to get it on with another woman. So it IS important to keep coming out, to show that this is just one more facet of a greatly varied possiblity in human sexual response.

You might be amazed how often I've been asked, 'Are you sisters?' when out with a woman - even women who look nothing like me and who I just finished kissing in a manner NOT like I would my sister!

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Name : W-Herdman, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, City : Phoenix, State : AZ Country : United States, Social class : Middle class, 

[wideawakeindreamland]

I know where you're coming from, but I wouldn't suggest it for a simple reason. A few years ago, I made the decision to. I'm still being judged, and receiving comments from people I've never even met. Plus, when you do come out, you're looked at as the gay dude or the lesbian, and you go from being people's friend to being their gay friend. I've known straight guys who were paranoid that I might be checking them out, and reminded me of their straightness on a regular basis, as if I were going to suddenly forget or something. In short, if you tell your friends, you risk being looked at as THAT person.

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Name : wideawakeindreamland, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 20, City : Martinsburg, State : WV Country : United States, Education level : High School Diploma, 

[Michel]

Why do you want to tell your friends? Is it because all of you are planning an all-night party? Or planning a get together with friends of the opposite sex? If so, it's perfectly healthy to stay away from these, to say that you prefer to go alone, etc. I, for one, never wanted to connect with a female just as a one night stand, so I preferred to go by myself or to stay away. It was not a popular point of view at my schools, but years later, I still feel I made the right decisions. BTW, I'm a happy heterosexual so I didn't have anything to hide in my closet. On the other hand, if you meet someone interesting and want to get involved a bit more seriously (whether same-sex or opposite-sex), try to get her feelings. You should probably try to get her (?) general views on homosexuality and discretion before going further. You may want to keep her as a good friend anyways, and more importantly, you don't want her to spread around secrets or rumours.

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Name : Michel, City : Montréal, State : NA Country : Canada, 

[Martha]

It depends on your current atmosphere. If you are in an area where coming out would threaten your safety than be smart, your safety should come first. If you know your area is one of a safe environment, then take a long time thinking to yourself. You are the only one that knows yourself, and despite what anyone says about your age, your relationships, or anything, you will know for sure. If you do feel comfortable and do want to come out (remeber you don't have to) then start by finding a friend or counsiler or teacher you know you can trust. I came out to an boy at my school first, because i knew he was gay, even though we didn't know eachother that well. It was really nice to have someone to talk to that understood me, and we became really close. I would be happy to help you, and give you any further advice, just reply to this post, and Ill email you. If you don't want to thats fine, I wish you luck with your experience. :)

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Name : Martha, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 16, City : brookline, State : MA Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Upper class, 

[Brandon Burt]

I speak from experience as somebody who came out to my family and friends when I was 15. Of course, that was 20 years ago -- the world was less accepting, and there were fewer resources for young gays and lesbians in those days. I live in a highly conservative part of the US, and my decision to come out when I did had many negative repercussions. Now I think it would have been wiser for me to have waited until I was old enough to live on my own. My answer to you is no. You should not come out to anybody yet -- unless you are sure that person will be unconditionally supportive. This is not being deceptive -- it's merely self-preservation. On the other hand, in a few years, when you are established in your own life, then yes, absolutely. At that point, when you can call the shots and be in complete control of your own life without risking family and peer rejection, you should be true to yourself and come out of the closet -- for good. I wish you the best of luck and a long, happy and successful future. Hang in there! May the Lincoln Imp be kind to you.

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Name : Brandon Burt, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Salt Lake City, State : UT Country : United States, Occupation : Journalist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Jess]

well i have told a few of my friends that i am bisexual but i asked a few others wat they would do if they found out that one of their friends is bisexual and they said that they would never talk to me again so i havent told them but one of them is my very close friend i dunno if i should tell her or not. please help me.

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Name : Jess, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 13, City : Stockbridge, State : MI Country : United States, Occupation : school, 

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