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Frankly, I don’t care what my broom or dust pan looks like. If it’s something I’m wearing, it’s worth the effort- otherwise, who cares? Is someone keeping track of how much your dustpan cost?
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Labels for sexuality are constructed by society to communicate and make things simpler (theoretically) but don’t really reflect reality. I think the important question for you is what it means to you to be bi or straight. Being bisexual does *not* necessarily mean that you have to have someone of each sex, or that you even have to ever do anything with a woman, just as many heterosexuals choose to be celibate or save sexual activity for marriage. I am bisexual and have been with the (male) love of my life for a few years, and we plan to get married. I choose to have the deeper commitment of being with one person for life and I believe the rewards of loyalty outweigh any potential benefits of more varied sexual opportunities.
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Both as a bisexual and as a medical scientist I believe that this question is too complicated to deal with as either/or. People want to think it is all nature or all environment to support a political stance and it just doesn’t work that way. However, to say that there is an environmental or developmental component is not to say that people’s sexual orientation can or should be changed. Many people have tried to do this and it doesn’t work, often succeeding only in breaking hearts and marriages. There is constant interplay between our genes and our environments so to make a distinction is often a false choice. Speaking as a Christian, I believe that if you are gay or bisexual you need to work out what you believe and follow your conscience while being honest with yourself and others.
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I would like to know too. Personally, I’m really glad to see people forming loving permanent partnerships and adopting children who might not otherwise have homes. I’ve seen extensive arguments by conservative Christians that heterosexual, natural parents are the best ones to raise children, but these people miss the point that for various reasons, natural parents are often unable or unwilling to raise their children and these children need loving homes. Are they seriously suggesting that it’s better for children to grow up without ever having a permanent family than to be raised by two committed people of the same sex? Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don’t get it either. From what I’ve read I get the impression that ultra-conservative people think they will be judged by God according to the actions of their society as a whole, and therefore they believe they need to control the lives of other people. Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don’t care. Be a good teacher, and a good person, and you will surpass many of the teachers out there. And you may get that toaster oven yet 😉 Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,First of all, if you know enough about medicine to be able to say that doctors are lying to you rather than just giving their honest opinions, you must have a great medical education, or at least more than I do, and I’m a medical student. Medical decisions are not usually simple: that’s why we go to school for so long and see so many patients during our education. Second, there’s a saying that if all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail. Generally surgeons, being trained to solve problems surgically, will recommend surgery. Internists are trained to use drugs, etc… None of these doctors is being dishonest, they just have different perspectives. I have back problems and some people would go to a surgeon about exactly these problems, but do I want surgery? No. So I se
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The Bible is not a history text. History is a discipline that involves certain methods of fact-checking and critical review. Also, the Bible is far from being the oldest book know to man. Check out the “Epic of Gilgamesh” sometime, not to mention many other books. Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I never understood that either- I used to date women and was really turned off by butchy women. I am very comfortable with my gender role and always have been, but I never associated my attraction to women with my gender role. There is a quote from a James Baldwin book (it may have been “Another Country”) in which the character is looking at flaming gay men and thinking something along the lines of, “if I wanted a woman, I would get a real one, and if I wanted a man, I would certainly not want one of these.” That line stuck with me because I find people sexy as definite women or definite men but not as androgynes. Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Potty training too early is not good for anyone concerned. If the kid’s nervous system is ready it will be fast and easy; if not, it’s likely to be traumatic in ways that may take years to reveal themselves. It is not so much a matter of synapses as someone mentioned, but of myelination. Without proper myelination the child does not have the control to truly control himself. (If you want to see someone without myelin, look at a person with MS) Regarding dependency, many white people (including myself) believe that children need a stage in which they feel very secure in having their needs met before they start to express their independence and challenge themselves at their own pace. This is backed up by both psychological studies and cross-cultural research. Be Kind, for everyone
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It is a gesture of courtesy. It may not be faster, but we are acknowledging the fact that you have stopped for us. By the way, if a driver is being rude (turning into the crosswalk I am walking in, blocking the sidewalk etc.) I will absolutely not trot! Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It’s funny, because I’ve been annoyed by this, but I’ve increasingly noticed among Chinese people as well. Regarding making it racial when it’s not: where I live it *is* black people more than white people- however it is generally working-class African-Americans: not professional African-Americans, not Africans. I see many black people every day and it breaks down clearly this way by class and ethnicity. Black people as a whole seem to take the hit for the behavior of the socioeconomically challenged. As someone else pointed out, teenagers of all backgrounds are loud; I have to admit I was like that for a few years when I was trying to show that I didn’t care what anyone thought. Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You really do need to wear sun block as well. Anyone, no matter how dark, can get a sunburn or skin cancer. You have some protection, and you can be thankful for that as well as the fact that you are not “pale.” Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think the issues of age and class are very important here as well. I find that African-Americans who are young and/or poor are likely to cop an attitude. Kim H. mentions personal space. I find this ironic because in my experience black people (of a certain class) do not seem to acknowledge personal space at all: walking directly in front of me, disregarding the convention of walking on the right, spreading out across a sidewalk or aisle with no regard for others who may be in a hurry, and generally being loud. In addition, I’ve noticed that often (usually on the bus) black people tend to say “excuse me” *while* pushing their way through rather than saying “excuse me” and waiting for me to move. At times I have had health problems and couldn’t move very well and was very painfully pu
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,“always” is a terrible word to use in this context. Anyway, I have noticed the phenomenon, and it seems to be pretty much limited to poor and working-class women. (I’m not talking about regular long nails or getting one’s nails done, but nails so long that they are obtrusive) I do find it gross when a cashier uses her nails to enter a purchase. I have many colleagues who are black, and they generally prefer to project an image of professional competence and caring rather than drop-dead sexiness. Women who are disadvantaged economically or educationally tend to play up what they can, which often means drawing attention to themselves as femme fatales. Be Kind, for everyone is fighting a great battle." -Plato
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Name : AmyM, Gender : Female, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 42, City : Philadelphia, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
