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This is extremely common. If I were you, I wouldn’t worry about it. Why is this a problem for your boyfriend? Is he homophobic? Or just jealous of the (emotional) competition? Or maybe your boyfriend’s unsure how ‘gay’ some of these guys really are, and it’s sexual competition he’s worried about. I think some straight women like to hang out with gay men because they like the company of men or even flirting with men, but don’t want to deal with straight men always trying to get them into bed. Perhaps some women use gay men as a substitute for straight men’s attentions because they’re afraid of sex or they don’t feel attractive enough to get a ‘real’ boyfriend, but since you say you have a boyfriend, I doubt you have this problem.
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Name : Rich, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 46, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Please be very, very careful! Some gay men say this (and even believe it) because there’s so much pressure to be straight, get married, have children, etc. But if he’s really gay, getting married or even a serious relationship could be disastrous for both of you. Even an otherwise decent, honest man, may find himself lying to you about having sex with men if he’s pressured by family, trying to hold together a marriage, or keep a well-paying job. This could lead to heartbreak, STD’s or HIV. Many women worldwide have been infected with HIV by men who have sex with other men but feel pressured to lie about it. Gay men who feel bad about themselves tend to be less careful about condoms and safe sex, too. Please educate yourself about these issues and talk to him about them. Show support, and try to get him to be as honest as possible with you.
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Name : Rich, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 46, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,This ‘proper English’ thing is in itself a class assumption. I have a lot of education and can speak and write very ‘proper’ English (or Standard English, as it’s sometimes called), but sometimes I prefer to speak colloquial English, for example, ‘ain’t’, for emphasis. What you’re calling ‘proper English’ is upper-class English, which is also adopted by the middle class. I think it’s disrespectful to treat people differently because they pronounce words ‘wrong’, that is, differently from myself. That goes for ‘liberry’ for library and ‘nucular’ for nuclear, as in G.W. Bush’s affectation. The challenge is communication, which often means meeting people halfway with language you both understand.
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Name : Rich, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 46, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,This is a huge controversy in gay communities, and I’m sure you’re aware that Black men or women who date white men or women is a huge controversy too. Certainly gay men being attracted to other men of some races but not others is common. You have to ask yourself why you are attracted to white men and not Black men. Is it aesthetic, or is it some kind of internalized racism? That’s hard to answer, I’m sure. Are you attracted to men of other races? That’s worth exploring. Anyhow, who cares what’s ‘normal?’ Why not try to understand yourself? For myself, I’m attracted to some white men, Black men and latino men, a few Asians (usually not, who knows why?), an American Indian sometimes, and once or twice a woman!
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Name : Rich, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 46, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Not all gay men ‘act feminine’. And some straight men ‘act feminine’. And what is seen as feminine or masculine behavior varies from culture to culture and from era to era. So it’s really a very complicated question! Look at the pictures of the presidents on our money and they look pretty fey by modern standards. My guess though, is that people tend to behave they way they think they’re expected to behave, and that in our culture some gay men identify more with women than with men, so they mimic ‘feminine’ behavior. But not all gay men do this. I’m gay, but often mistaken for straight. Sometimes I act a bit ‘feminine’ or make a joke to make straight people understand that I’m gay. Hmmm…
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Name : Rich, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 46, City : Seattle, State : WA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
