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A friend told me he thought his backpack was gay. All I could keep thinking was, ‘Did you catch it having sex with other backpacks of the same gender?’
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,There are male-to-female (MTF) ‘lesbians’. There’s sexual attraction (a man wants to have sex with another man). There’s sexual *identity* (a lesbian proudly proclaims herself as ‘out’). There is gender and gender identification. Vive humanity!
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’m no expert, but I’ve heard that a lot of female ‘sex workers’ (aka prostitutes) were lesbians. Maybe they can keep their personal and business lives separate because they aren’t attracted to their clients.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I disagree with the first poster who mentioned that society would be affected if it allowed same-sex marriages. Opponents said the same thing in the ’70s about us gays just living together. And what happened? Nothing. If Sarah and Jane live next door to you and are married, trust me, it won’t affect your life in the slightest.
But I’d like to add this note: I’m confused about gay marriage opponents who offer ‘partnerships’ or ‘civil unions’ as an alternative. They claim they are protecting marriage. But the way I see it, a ‘half-marriage’ with less responsibility and fewer rights would have to be offered to straight couples, too. I forsee young people going to ‘starter unions’ instead of getting married, and I see the gambit backfiring, weakening the insitution of marriage the opponents claim to support.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Why ask why? It’s a *fetish*… some people go crazy wondering ‘Why do I like women’s shoes’? They just do, that’s why. A better question is, ‘How can I incorporate this fantasy *with* my wife for better sex?’ Note, it’s not, ‘Now can I get her to do it.’ But asking politely, and being really really nice could get you a BIG reward. Think about it, if she wanted to, she could get you so turned on by just *talking* about the fetish that she could get ANYTHING she wanted – housecleaning or oral sex for hours. Note that she don’t actually have to have sex with another man – part of the solution could be just role-playing, ‘swinger’s parties’, reading stories. Good luck, and careful to convince your wife that this isn’t a slippery slope to weirder sex… do 3 sex sessions of her choice for every one of your fetish.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I think people get a little peeved a sterotype is used to make them disliked *or* liked. For example, I know some Asian women who get creepd out by straight guys who really really like them – not for who they are, but because they fit some fantasy the guy has. So, though I’m gay, I wouldn’t want a woman to be my friend because she thinks I fit her idea of gay (happy, good at fashion, witty, effiminate). I want to be liked for who I am as a person, so because I’m ‘safe’ or because I compliment her shoes.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,It gets stranger… there are several subcultures *inside* the ‘gay community’ that act the exactly opposite of purpose. ‘Bears’ are large hairy guys who like the outdoors. ‘Leathermen’ act super-macho and disdain cologne, lisps, and acting effiminate. Some gay guys ‘camp it up’ as a joke to appear funny. Sometime it just rubs off on them because they are around other effiminate guys (the way you might develop a southern accent though you’re from New York). And some gay guys are just really effiminate.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’m gay, and only discovered it about myself when I was 23. Glad I didn’t join the military – I would have had to resign half-way through, I guess. What should those soldiers do that are questioning their sexuality? Serve partially? Take a leave of absence until they figure it out?
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,The two previous posters are 22 and 23, respectively. You might be meeting a lot of newly-out ‘party boys’. Hunt down some sraight ‘frat boys’ of the same age, and I bet they aren’t very responsible either. Two things: first of all, examine your expectations and why you like gay men. Do you have ‘Will & Grace’ notions of what gay men are like? Maybe you are expecting them to be something they are not. If they are solely interested in dating men and having sex at this stage in their life, maybe you aren’t their first priority as a friend. But also, gay men change. I know several that have cared for their aging parents later in life… my theory being that without the responisibility of raising children of their own, some gay men can be *more* responisble than their siblings (just another stereotype… I know some irresponsible gay ‘party grandpas’ too). Maybe every mother should have a gay child to take care of them in later life
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’d like to ask the *opposite* question of straight men: Given that the prostate is highly-loaded with pleaseure sensors and that you might have had anal sex with a female partner and she enjoyed it… why don’t *you* have receiving anal sex with your girlfriend? Are you afraid she will think you are gay? Do a web search for ‘bend over boyfriend’ for more info if you’re interested.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,My rule: if you’re funny enough, you can get away with *anything*. And Will & Grace at it’s best it slighty humorous. I’m more offended by the last season of Ellen where they forgot to write any jokes. or those stupid morning DJs that bully their way with anti-gay ‘humor’. But check out ‘The Opposite of Sex’ for a really funny, borderline-offensive gay movie.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Another gay guy here with a rainbow sticker on my car. I like it because I think it promote visibilty and awareness in the world that gay people are out there. But don’t expect *anything* to happen because of the sticker. No vandalism, and I’ve never had someone approach me about it in a parking lot. Except for ‘speeder-uppers’ like you mentioned, I’ve never gotten any dates or phone numbers because of it. Sigh
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,No offense, but I think you should read William Henry Burr’s ‘Self-Contradictions of the Bible, or C. Dennis McKinsey’s ‘The Encyclopedia of Biblical Errancy’. The latter, at 553 pages, suggest that there are a lot of contradictions in the bible. Tons of web sites, too, but you seem like you have your mind made up already.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,There’s been an odd movement lately where some gay people are offended by the commercialism of the show. There are so many companies trying to sell stuff to gay people (gay travel, gay ads on tv, glossy gay mainstream magazines like ‘Out’ and ‘Advocate’). They feel that their sexual orientation is private, and not to be used as a cheap marketing tool. Some gays and lesbians also disdain the who premis of the show. They might be farmers or truck drivers or ironworkers, and they don’t see the ‘metrosexual’ appeal of expensive haircuts and furniture.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Wow, I would disagree with this. I’m gay, and I’ve never noticed or heard about it in the gay community. Plus, I would disagree… does anybody else know which was is ‘up’? But even then, it wouldn’t hurt to put a rainbow sticker on your car even if you *were* straight… the worst that would happen is you’d get people speeding up next to you as you drive to check you out and smile. Nobody would come up to you or say anything in a parking lot. Trust me – a lot of gay guys would *love* it if a cute guy approached them because of their sticker, and it never happens (at least not to me!)
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
