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A friend told me he thought his backpack was gay. All I could keep thinking was, ‘Did you catch it having sex with other backpacks of the same gender?’
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,There are male-to-female (MTF) ‘lesbians’. There’s sexual attraction (a man wants to have sex with another man). There’s sexual *identity* (a lesbian proudly proclaims herself as ‘out’). There is gender and gender identification. Vive humanity!
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’m no expert, but I’ve heard that a lot of female ‘sex workers’ (aka prostitutes) were lesbians. Maybe they can keep their personal and business lives separate because they aren’t attracted to their clients.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I disagree with the first poster who mentioned that society would be affected if it allowed same-sex marriages. Opponents said the same thing in the ’70s about us gays just living together. And what happened? Nothing. If Sarah and Jane live next door to you and are married, trust me, it won’t affect your life in the slightest.
But I’d like to add this note: I’m confused about gay marriage opponents who offer ‘partnerships’ or ‘civil unions’ as an alternative. They claim they are protecting marriage. But the way I see it, a ‘half-marriage’ with less responsibility and fewer rights would have to be offered to straight couples, too. I forsee young people going to ‘starter unions’ instead of getting married, and I see the gambit backfiring, weakening the insitution of marriage the opponents claim to support.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,The two previous posters are 22 and 23, respectively. You might be meeting a lot of newly-out ‘party boys’. Hunt down some sraight ‘frat boys’ of the same age, and I bet they aren’t very responsible either. Two things: first of all, examine your expectations and why you like gay men. Do you have ‘Will & Grace’ notions of what gay men are like? Maybe you are expecting them to be something they are not. If they are solely interested in dating men and having sex at this stage in their life, maybe you aren’t their first priority as a friend. But also, gay men change. I know several that have cared for their aging parents later in life… my theory being that without the responisibility of raising children of their own, some gay men can be *more* responisble than their siblings (just another stereotype… I know some irresponsible gay ‘party grandpas’ too). Maybe every mother should have a gay child to take care of them in later life
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,You answered your own question: because it’s disgusting. It’s extreme sex, and some people like that, whether it’s bloodletting, S & M, or other fetishes. But don’t overanalyze a fetish. Shit play could be explained by events that happened in early development, an interest in dirt or filth, the desire to be degraded, or other things. But unless you want to play ‘junior psychologist’, you will never know why people play those games. They just like to. Is it safe. No, it’s extreme sex. It can be done very safely (only external contact, clean-up right afterwards, use a protective barrier). But it’s not as dangerous as people say. Maybe occasionally parasites, and upset stomach, and by all means, every extreme sex player should get a hepatitis A and B vaccine. But die? No.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,As a gay guy, I’d have to say I had a choice: I could come out as a happily ‘unified’ gay man with the opportunity to find a long lasting realtionship, great sex, a caring partner, the ability to build a home and a life together, and develop good friends in the gay community. Or, I could remain closeted, pretending I was straight, marrying a woman in a loveless relationship, and missing out on thousands of fantastic opportunities. *That* was the real choice, at least for me.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Here’s a strange twist: Some gay guys are attracted to guys they look like. For example, a larger hairy guy (known as a ‘bear’ in the gay community) might like dating other large, hairy guys. But this is more often by chance… because other gay guys are attracted to body types that are different than their own. For example, some one might like Asian men, but not be Asian themselves. I’m just guessing, but I think the ratio might be 30/70 between men interested/disinterested in their own body type. So, not only are most homosexuals not attracted to themselves in a mirror, but a good number of us wouldn’t even date our own identical clone!
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Drugs have really harmed the gay culture inthe last few years, particularly crystal methamphetamine. You are right, there are *tons* of reasons to do drugs, from running awat from problems, and addictive personality, or just an interest in experimenting. But there are lots of circuit parties and ‘PNP’ (party and play) groups that encourage the behavior, too. Good luck helping your friend… NarAnon is a good reference. Keep yourself healthy and sane too, before you can help your friend.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’m gay, but I’ll play ‘devil’s advocate’. Has anybody done studies about the economic impact of gay marriage? I remember seeing some numbers from a study by the govenrments in Vermont and San Francisco that said it was ok… but we don’t know. There *would* be less tax revenue, since gay married couples would pay less taxes and get more benefits.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I think people get a little peeved a sterotype is used to make them disliked *or* liked. For example, I know some Asian women who get creepd out by straight guys who really really like them – not for who they are, but because they fit some fantasy the guy has. So, though I’m gay, I wouldn’t want a woman to be my friend because she thinks I fit her idea of gay (happy, good at fashion, witty, effiminate). I want to be liked for who I am as a person, so because I’m ‘safe’ or because I compliment her shoes.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,It gets stranger… there are several subcultures *inside* the ‘gay community’ that act the exactly opposite of purpose. ‘Bears’ are large hairy guys who like the outdoors. ‘Leathermen’ act super-macho and disdain cologne, lisps, and acting effiminate. Some gay guys ‘camp it up’ as a joke to appear funny. Sometime it just rubs off on them because they are around other effiminate guys (the way you might develop a southern accent though you’re from New York). And some gay guys are just really effiminate.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’m gay, and only discovered it about myself when I was 23. Glad I didn’t join the military – I would have had to resign half-way through, I guess. What should those soldiers do that are questioning their sexuality? Serve partially? Take a leave of absence until they figure it out?
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,There have been some studies that suggest that homosexuality has a genetic advantage to the community. The is a hard point for some people to accept if they harp on the idea that ‘a genetic mutation will peter out after a generation since homosexuals can’t breed’. That’s based on a faulty understanding of genetics (and and ignorance of resessive genes, too) I don’t have a link to a study (one was in Scientific American in 2003, I think), but biologist commented that some monkey species have a certain percentage of ‘gay helper monkeys’. Those monkeys did a lot of the tribes chores (both male and female tasks like cleaning and foraging for food), but didn’t compete for mates. Since other species can change their sex during times of environmental sress (some fish change if there aren’t enough males, for example), maybe homosexuality is a way to keep the colony going even in times of crisis. Just an idea, but ‘we don’t know’.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,My rule: if you’re funny enough, you can get away with *anything*. And Will & Grace at it’s best it slighty humorous. I’m more offended by the last season of Ellen where they forgot to write any jokes. or those stupid morning DJs that bully their way with anti-gay ‘humor’. But check out ‘The Opposite of Sex’ for a really funny, borderline-offensive gay movie.
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Name : Patrick Kellogg, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 35, City : Denver, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Self-unemployed, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
