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I’ll admit that having money does offer some shelter from the truths of the world. I have two little brothers who know nothing of drugs and gun violence or racism simply because we live in an upper middle class, predominantly white neighborhood that isn’t subjected to those things. I was the same way. To tell you the truth, the only guns I’ve seen are on movies and TV – and hunting in the country with my uncle, if that counts for anything. Rich parents try to give their children life experiences by sending them off on Outward Bound programs and on backpacking tours in Europe and South America. And I don’t know anymore about life from being bussed through Italy with my parents’ credit card in tow. I know many kids who I go to school with who are quite well-off who try to venture out into the ‘real world’ to meet some ‘real people’ and are only disappointed that they don’t match the images on TV. We all have convoluted images of each other. It’s fair to say that working-class individuals are forced to experience the toils and hardships of life more often than the upper classes, but what the hell do you mean by being ‘more real’? That’s like when people say I’m ‘less black.’
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Name : Naj, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/Italian/Native American (Ima Sambo), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 16, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,I’ll admit that many a time I’ll go to the movies and hear someone laughing extra loudly at something that isn’t all that funny. Or I’ll hear someone making loud or rude comments at the screen. And guess what? They’re usually black. Does this mean that this behavior is an intrinsically black trait? Of course not. I don’t do it, and I’m black. I think it has more to do with manners and rearing.
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Name : Naj, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/Italian/Native American (Ima Sambo), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 16, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,African Americans come in every color or shade you can think of, that’s why I prefer ‘colored’ over black. My dad is rather dark and has the typical coarse black hair. My mom is an octoroon, having only one grandparent that is 100% black. She has naturally straight red to brown hair. So I came out with reddish brown skin and wavy dark brown hair. Black people come in every color from black to white have every texture of hair from nappy to bone-straight and every color from blue-black to blonde, (yes blonde but not bleach, more like ash blonde).
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Name : Naj, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/Italian/Native American (Ima Sambo), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 16, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,That’s my grandmother’s saying, (If you’re light, you’re all right. If you’re brown, stick around. And if you’re black get back). It’s not just mixed race but light skninned black women in general. I think that a black woman can be very attractive or beautiful, regardless of her skin tone but I, myself, am only attracted to and only date light skinned black girls. I can’t help it, maybe it’s society or whatever but I just find them more attractive. I’ve dated white girls and I mostly interact with whites in my daily life (i.e at school and in my neighborhood). I just feel more comfortable with a black girl but only if she can past ‘the 2 tests’ and has the features. And though they are hard to find I prefer light black girl over a biracial or mixed race girl.
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Name : Naj, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/Italian/Native American (Ima Sambo), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 16, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,It’s great that you are so spiritual that you feel the ability to speak on G-d’s behalf. But Kwanzaa, even though I don’t celebrate it, is a celebration that is not to take the place of Christmas but to celebrate certain principles and African heritage. Would G-d be angry about Jews not celebrating the birth of Christ and celebrating Kwanzaa during the holiday season. Or would He become angry at Muslims for Ramadan or Hindus for Diwali. It’s a bit hypocritical for you to be so blissfully ignorant and call yourself Christian.
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Name : Naj, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/Italian/Native American (Ima Sambo), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 16, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,On one hand there is socioeconomic status and on the other there is what is called breeding. One can easily place themself in a socioeconomic class based on their income. My mother taught me that breeding is an entirely different story. She said that all of the money in the world wouldn’t mean acceptance for certain people. Some people grow up with money and are taught to value it and to respect those that are not as blessed as oneself. Others grow up with money and are taught that they are entitled to it and that they are to be put up on a pedestal for all to see and marvel at. You can usually tell the difference between the reserved gentleman (or lady) and the pretentious snob.I know of kindly old ladies who attend all of the society parties and belong to the most exclusive clubs but are of rather modest means. They are accepted because of their character and lineage rather than the contents (or brand name) of their purses.
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Name : Naj, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/Italian/Native American (Ima Sambo), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 16, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,I guess being from Canada, (correct me if I’m wrong), it may not be so ingrained in you culture. In American the typical preppy, upper class image is white. These institutions, including country clubs, private prep schools, yacht clubs, etc., are usually 99% white. Whether this is wrong or unfair is irrelevant but it is pretty accurate. I play tennis at my club and I have a nice sized boat which is considered to be a yacht and I attend a relatively prestigious but comparatively diverse prep school. Let me tell you that me and my family, (in reference to our race/ethnicity), do stick out quite a bit. Some people might not like it but we have just as much money, class and status as the next person. And as long as you feel comfortable being who you are then I say fugghedaboutit because people are going to think what they want regardless of the apparent truths.
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Name : Naj, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/Italian/Native American (Ima Sambo), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 16, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,Hi, I’m Black and I put my feet on the dashboard of my car all of the time. It’s not a white thing, it’s more a matter of comfort. Not all white people do it either and this question seems to be rather ignorant and not well thought out. That’s like if someone said do all people rap, play basketball and smoke weed. I do non of the above and I’m black and proud of it. Think about it.
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Name : Naj, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/Italian/Native American (Ima Sambo), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 16, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,Many of you have touched on the issue of black men forming relationships w/ white women b/c they are more likely to take their ‘sh!t’. Though that’s another issue entirely; why is it assumed that all black men have this ‘sh!t’ to give? Anyways, in my situation I don’t interact with many young black women at all. My school is predominately white. As is my neighborhood and as are the settings of the organizations to which I belong. What is one to do then? I’ll have to admit I’m not entirely into the mainstream black woman. The fake hair, nails, eyes, et cetera and the inescapable ‘niggerism’, as my mother so eloquently puts it. The idea of waking up to a ‘sista’ sans her weave and her make-up is frightening to me. In my future, however, I do envision at least one of my marriages to be with an African American woman. It’s just that said woman is going to need that light skin, that naturally straight hair and those beautiful blue, green, hazel or light brown eyes that I love so much. Adios.
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Name : Naj, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/Italian/Native American (Ima Sambo), Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 16, City : Miami, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Upper middle class,
