I'm a white American who loves Chinese food (Japanese, too). Over the years, I have been to many Asian restaurants, yet I don't recall having ever seen many black people in any of them. In fact, I've noticed very few. I'm curious about where you got this notion. I think I will have to start making an effort to take a (discreet) look at other restaurant patrons. Perhaps I will come back here and let you know what I learn.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, Personally, I think if one is going to use the words 'black' or 'white' to describe a person, they SHOULD be 'Black' or 'White.' There is no other ethnicity, that I can recall, who is commonly described by 'skin' tone. And not all Blacks are African-American, are they? What is a Black who was born in England called? Anglo-African? Or in China? African-Asian? Honestly, I'm curious. Is anyone who is Black and not born in Africa grouped into the African-American classification? But in the US it seems to be a toss-up between black and African-American as to what one prefers to be called. Therefore, Black would seem appropriate, IMO. And it would just seem like the natural progression from using Black to using White. It's not like these words really describe skin color anyway. Everyone on this planet is some shade of brown.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, Could you be more specific, please. How exactly does 'raw' smell? I'm sorry but I just don't understand how you define raw.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, I've wondered about this, too. But I've noticed that it is not just African-Americans who do this. I've no idea why Whites do this, but do African-Americans: make up names that they think sound good; really select ethnically correct names or is it a mixture of both? When did this trend start? I've spent a lot of time with old census records and it's been my experience that on the old enumerations 'Coloreds' (the old term used, not mine. Don't flame me, please!) had very traditonal names even decades after the Civil War and abolition. William, Charles, Anna, Mary, etc. While on the other hand, there were many Whites with odd names like: Jerusha, Barzilla, Telitha (these names are from my own family tree and belonged to Americans - born in America as opposed to immigrants). When did this change? Why? Thanks for any insight.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, It's better to see someone with their bare feet on the dash than to glance at the car next to you and see someone with a finger halfway up his or her nose, isn't it? Well, that's how I feel. But, seriously, I put my feet up like this all of the time. It is often more comfortable, especially on long drives. And there is the fact that my husband likes to look at my legs, more so when I'm wearing shorts. He also likes that he can see the tattoos on my ankles in this position. It's not like he stares, taking his eyes off the road. Just a glimpse when he checks the mirrors, or when he glances my way while we're talking. Stoplights are a different matter...
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, The Confederate flag is a symbol of my Southern heritage. I am proud of my ancestors who did what they thought was right and fought for their 'country' even though they were on the losing side. My Southern ancestors never owned slaves, FYI. I DO believe it is offensive to display the Confederate flag if it done with the intent to offend or insult. But unless there are other factors made known, you don't know an individuals thoughts on the matter, and are therefore in no position to judge. The fact that your profile says you are agnostic might offend a large number of religious people but it is your right not only to claim agnosticism, but to say so publicly because of this little thing called 'Freedom of Speech.' I am also proud of my German ancestors and have a tattoo written in German. None of my ancestors were Nazis, for the record. Another thing many people forget is that any and all things Southern, and most specifically, the Confederate flag, have become synonymous with Southern Rock. You may not like this genre but many people do. All else aside, whether you like it or not, the Confederate flag is part of our nation's rich history. The Civil War was a defining event in the shaping of America. Initially, the Civil War was about secession and keeping our country united. Abolitionism was a secondary issue. Slavery was not unique to the South. There had been slaves in the North and Border states, too. The flag is only a symbol of slavery and oppression to the ignorant, uninformed, and a few hateful people who needed a symbol of some sort, any sort, for their 'cause' because their 'cause' couldn't stand on it's own.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, I don't know about feeling offended -- more like unsettled. My husband and I went to a new Mexican restaurant in our area last week. We went through 3 servers before we finally got one who spoke enough English to converse with us beyond asking: 'Smoking or non-smoking?' or offering us a beverage. The waiter we finally got was young enough to make me wonder why he wasn't in school (high school). I guess I'm going to need to brush up on my high school Spanish.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, I would never refer to someone as Negro or worse use the 'N word.' Nor do I refer to people as 'colored.' But is Black the preferred term, or is African-American better? When I'm uncertain, I opt for African-American, which was for a while, at least, the PC term to use. Yet this designation seems to imply that said person is either less than or more than American. Same with Native American, Asian-American, Mexican-American, etc. IMO, if you were born in America, you ARE American. Period. I was born in America, but several generations back, my family tree is a mixture of half German, almost half English/Irish/Scottish, with a tiny bit Native American. I would be surprised - but not offended to be called German-American, Irish-American. I've been asked if I am Indian (meaning Native American) based solely on my tan - I am blond with green eyes and have no characteristics that I believe hint at a NA background. I prefer the term Black because it is shorter and quicker to say or write, but more importantly, it is as wholly inaccurate as the term White. Everyone on Earth is some shade of brown - some darker shades, some lighter. But what is the preferred term or the PC designation currently? What about other races? I use Asian often. But should I use Hispanic, Latino, Mexican, if I don't know someone's ethnicity? Anyway, how am I to know if someone is American at all. I am White and though I actually am rather dark-skinned (tan), White suits me fine. Please don't think me racist - it's more ignorance on my part because I have never had the opportunity to be around people of other races. I went to public schools in Southern Indiana and during all of my time in school, there were maybe less than ten students that were not White in my high school and none that I recall from grade school. Can someone inform me, please?
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, I am not Black. I am a White female who talks to herself constantly! And yeah, I often answer myself or carry on an entire conversation alone. I don't carry a cell phone in public. (Unless there is an emergency, it seems rather rude to me.) I suspect the reason I talk to myself so much is because I am a stay at home mom who also works from home. Sometimes I just want to hear another adult's voice even if it is my own. LOL Or to talk to someone who won't ignore me or 'talk back.' I've seen plenty of people - not just Black people - who talk to themselves. So, it's not cultural. I'm very intelligent and my husband and I, while not rich, are rather well off, so I can't believe it's socio-economic either. Perhaps you just notice it when someone who is 'different' from yourself does it?
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, Perhaps I overlooked a post, but I don't get your reference: 'Maybe things are different in Indiana, but here in the Bay Area/San Francisco, we Asian folks don't go around calling each other 'Jap,' 'Chink', or 'Gook'...' But even if there was a post from someone in Indiana, don't condemn an entire state simply because you don't like one ignorant person's opinion. I'm originally from Indiana, lived there most of my life. I'm also white and I find those terms - any racial epithet - offensive. In fact, I work as a co-editor on a website similar to this one and one of the things I do is edit posts. I have taken great pleasure, at times, in hitting the 'delete' button on offensive posts that violate our site's posting policy. Other times, I simply change terms like 'Japs' to 'Japanese soldiers' in posts referring to WWII. (Then, I sit back and wonder how the original poster will react when he sees his inflammatory remarks have been changed to something innocuous.) Please don't carelessly condemn a whole area or state just to make a point. Conversely, do you speak for the entire Bay Area/San Francisco? Should I assume that all San Franciscans or Californians are prejudiced against Midwesterners? Not cool, huh?
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, Every race has it's share of beautiful people, average people and just plain ugly people. I am personally more attracted to Chinese guys than White guys. (My husband excepted, of course.) In fact, I just saw the most gorgeous Chinese guy the other day. He's my newest fantasy. Yeah, I'm admitting that I fantasize about men other than my husband. He knows and I encourage him to do the same. (Um, with girls, not guys. But, I wouldn't exactly be disgusted if he looked at other guys, just...surprised.) Some of the ugliest people I've ever seen are White. It's all subjective. Whatever turns you on, ya know. Why question it?
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, I am a White female and I've always believed that rules are rules no matter who you are. No one I know feels any differently. However, there is a tendency among snobbish rich people - invariably Whites, other races, for the most part don't do this that I've seen - to expect everyone to drop what they are doing to kiss their @$$es. My husband and I own our own business and so very often, we've had wealthy people come into our shop and expect, in a few cases DEMAND, that they absolutely must be tended to immediately. My husband has a stock answer. 'Yes, Ma'am/Sir, we will get to your problem immediately... after we help the people who were here before you.' After the sputtering and blustering and the 'Do you know who I am?', my husband very coolly offers the snob the choice of waiting their turn or 'Get the hell out of my shop and don't come back.' So I'll agree with you to an extent. SOME whites need to step down off of their imaginary pedestals and get real. Perhaps a kindergarten refresher course on kindness, sharing and taking turns is in order, ne?
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, You may not have noticed but if you look at a light-haired person's eyebrows, they are very often a shade or so different from the hair on their head. Most often it's a bit darker. I think that it is not unreasonable to say that the pubic hair often matches the eyebrows. Now, when you take hair color into consideration, all bets are off! And exposure to the sun can naturally lighten hair and brows, but it can and does lighten public hair if one sunbathes nude. ; )
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, Beautiful women come in all, shapes, sizes, races, and, obviously, hair colors. But in any public place and look around and count the number of blondes you see. So many girls want to be blonde and I'm not sure why. Super models and magazine models come in such a variety of skin and hair colors, that I can't even place the blame on the fashion industry. Somewhere along the line blondes have gotten the reputation for being promiscuous, wild and not the brightest bunch of individuals. Nothing there to envy. But promising, indeed, for guys who are out looking for an easy lay. The recent spate of 'girls gone wild' videos, while not completely comprised of blondes, hasn't helped. As a real blond with naturally tanned skin and green eyes, I don't appreciate the attention of men who 'prefer blondes.' I resent blonde jokes, because I have a genious level IQ. While I am outgoing and enjoy flirting as much as the next woman/girl, I am not, nor have I ever been promiscuous. I don't consider myself wild, but I do occasionally enjoy parties - however, I'd rather go hiking or spend time in a bookstore than partying in clubs and bars. But, keep in mind that blonde 'wannabes' are not confined to Whites. I've seen many bottle blonde Blacks, Asians, and Latino or Hispanic women. Talk about unnatural!
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, While it certainly not the norm, threesomes are definitely not rare. The person who posted and said they coudn't believe you didn't know anything about the number of people who have threesomes? I think they are either very naive or just not very well informed. There are lots of couples who engage in threesomes. There are clubs and groups for swingers - including those into 3-somes. When I was younger, I regularly engaged in threesomes with my boyfriend and his best friend. No, it didn't last (it did last more than a year), but it wasn't because of the sex. It was because from the very beginning of our relationship, my boyfriend wanted me to move in with him and I wouldn't. He pestered the hell out of me about this to the point that his best friend finally told him to leave me alone. The sex was great. I miss having two guys sharing my bed. I'm sure it sounds odd, even deviant to someone who has never done it. But it was good, it just felt right. Then again, we weren't going out meeting strangers and sleeping with them nor were we trying to recruit other friends. It was just me, my ex and his best friend from the very beginning. Never anyone else. We were all friends and we cared for each other. I think that makes a big difference. My husband and I have been talking about a threesome for a couple of years now, but have yet to actually do it together. I won't settle for just anyone. I'm very particular. Yeah, you're different ;)but you are not alone. Play nice and play safe.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, 
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