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I agree with the statement that we don’t want to offend. Even the closest friends often have ‘off-limits’ conversational topics whether it’s one’s family/ background, religion, an ex, or what have you. Race can be such a volatile subject. I’m always afraid of making a comment that could be interpreted the wrong way. To make matters worse, when I was growing up, there was not a single black student in my grade school and less than half a dozen in my high school. Since then I’ve had a couple of black coworkers. Keeping conversation neutral just seemed the safest thing to do. Of course, none of these coworkers ever brought up racial or cultural topics either so I wasn’t alone. Could this be considered racism, too? Ignoring obvious differences?
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,Not only does it seem that white girls are more aggressive, but it seems like they have become very competitive. They seem to think that being sexually aggressive, provocative and outrageous will get them the most popular guys, the ‘bad boys’, or something. A perfect example would be these ‘Spring Break’ or ‘Girls Gone Wild’ videos that seem to be so popular. It’s almost always white college-age girls degrading themselves in these videos. I’ll admit I’ve only ever seen the Tv ads, but even so, it’s always white girls flashing their breasts. Their parents must be so proud. A pretty girl with a pleasant, outgoing personality and some self-respect will find herself with just as much masculine attention, and from higher-quality guys.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,I agree totally with the 15 year old girl who said in her post that ‘they’ll get out in the real world one day and fall flat on their asses.’ I graduated high school in the 80’s and I’ve seen exactly what she’s talking about play out again and again. Popular kids in high school who are now divorced and raising their kids alone, working pathetic dead-end jobs, scraping to make ends meet. Unfortunately for them, at least, popularity doesn’t mean crap on a resume. It kinda makes you feel sorry for some of them. Kinda. I was never part of the popular crowd. But now, I have a handsome husband and 3 wonderful kids. We have a nice house in a good area, we own two businesses, and have everything we want or need and then some. We are happy. And you know what? It was like poetic justice when one of those former popular girls found out her husband had been coming on to me! LOL
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,You refer to this disability as ‘simple.’ I have been depressed all my life. It wasn’t until I was well into adulthood (late 20’s) that I finally received professional help. I am creative and have an IQ well above what is considered average, yet my depression is so severe that without medication and therapy I find it all I can do to simply drag myself out of bed most days. I’ve lost most of my life to this ‘simple’ disease. I’ve suffered from fatigue, apathy, procrastination, debilitating headaches, poor memory, anxiety, low self-esteem, mood swings, inability to concentrate and suicidal thoughts. When I was younger I attempted suicide twice. When I failed, it just seemed to validate my opinion that I was worthless because I couldn’t even do THAT right. I also have Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). I’m extremely sensitive to changes in the weather. You ask, ‘Why can’t people deal with this disorder?’ It’s not my place to judge you, but I’m willing to bet your depression is or was a simple case. Or you were very lucky to find the proper medication fairly quickly. Not everyone is so fortunate. I can’t even tell you how many different meds I’ve tried. I have suffered headaches, weight gain, loss of interest in sex, even mild hallucinations from some of the meds I’ve been on. Occasionally, I’ll find one that works…for about a month, before I develop a sort of tolerance for it and have to try a different dosage and then finally a different medication altogether. It is a vicious cycle. I start to feel ‘normal,’ then I crash and feel even worse. I’ve tried therapy sessions. I’ve begged my psychiatrist to try ‘shock’ therapy. I also am a good wife, and a good mother to three beautiful, healthy children who happen to be gifted and talented. I thank God I don’t have to work, because I cannot do it. By the way, I’m not on disability. I’m finally beginning to feel ‘normal’. I’m taking high doses of three different meds. I’ll have to take medication for the rest of my life. I’m glad you are able to function well and lead a normal life. But your self-righteousness is insulting. Your ‘deal with it’ attitude sounds like something I’ve come to expect from a person who has never lived with depression, who has never felt worthless and alone, who has never known despair, who has never wanted to just end the misery. Believe it or not, for some people depression really is incapacitating.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,I can only speak for myself, of course, but to me it is a matter of pride in my Southern heritage. Some of my ancestors came from the South and even fought in the Civil War. None of these ancestors owned slaves and one married a Native American woman so I have never considered it to be racist to display this flag personally. I am proud of my ancestors who did their duties and fought for their respective sides whether it was North or South even though it cost some of them their homes, families, friends or their lives. It was a terrible time in American history, but, like it or not, it IS a part of our country’s history. You’ve already stated that you believe it is racist and offensive. I’d like to note that I resent ignorant people who display the Confederate flag simply to be offensive. But I really don’t believe most people who display this flag intend to offend or insult anyone. There is also the fact that The Confederate flag has become a symbol that is widely used and associated with Southern Rock. Now I’m curious to know what you feel would be an ‘appropriate’ way for a girl from Indiana, a Yankee, to express pride in my Southern heritage? Honest question. I’d like to know what would NOT be considered offensive.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,I love anal sex. It feels great in my opinion. I’m curious why you would never want to try it with a woman. Afraid to ask? Think it’s nasty? It’s all just a matter of opinion. My hubby didn’t like it at first. But now he enjoys it as much as I do. Maybe because it turns me on. A note to anyone who wants to try it: Always use a condom, even if you are in a monogamous relationship. And never, never use a porn movie as a ‘how to’ on anal sex. If that is how most men learn about anal sex, it’s no wonder more women don’t like it. There is a lot more involved than with plain ol’ intercourse.
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Name : Marie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Jeffersonville, State : IN, Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class,
