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When I was growing up, if I cursed in the presence of my parents I would get my mouth washed out with soap. Do you remeber the scene with Ralphie in ‘A Christmas Story’? Well, I had that done to me. If you have not seen that movie: a 10-year-old boy in the 1950s says the ‘F’ word to his folks and the mom puts a bar of soap in his mouth for 20 minutes. I do not think that this cursing thing is limited to just white people. I see the same level of disrespect from other races and economic states (not just poorer folks). One might ask the question in another form: Why are there parents who allow there children to get away with everything? Why are there horribly disrespectful children in every culture? One answer, I feel, is that the perpetuation of bad parenting follows from generation to generation, unless of course a strong-willed child pulls himself of herself out of the cycle and learns to be a good parent. Also, children are constantly pushing their boundries and finding ways to test their parents; so if you watched TV growing up and learned that ‘ass’ was the worst thing you could say on TV, then ‘ass’ would be acceptable around the dinner table and you would most likely not get into trouble for saying it.
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Name : Chris Baker, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 26, City : Summerville, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : Graphic Artist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I would be attracted to , and have been attracted to a few black women as I have progressed through manhood. Some of the physicaly traits that are particular attractive to me are… full lips skinny body medium breasts small toosh. Skin color would not matter and neither do eyes. Here is the reason that I have not ever dated a black woman: All of the black women that I have met and talked with and have been in a position that I could have asked them out I have been in relationships. And just as it is hard to ‘cold call’ and just walk up to any girl and ask her out, I always felt that asking out a black woman in this way was even more intimidating because she would not think that I was good enough in comparison to the black men that she had dated. Such suave characters and fantasies of black women that I could imagine would be men like shaft, or lawrence fishburne, or denzel washington…all of whom that a goofy white boy could never compete. And just to give a dating history: I have dated all white females accept one chinese-american and two puerto rican-american, all of which i knew as friends first.
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Name : Chris Baker, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 26, City : Summerville, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : Graphic Artist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I agree with the previous post. But I would like to add that being insulted by this ‘Pancho’ thing really has nothing to do with race. It is simple respect…whther you were singin to mexicans or whites it is disrespectful to gloss over someone’s name and replace it with anything else. take the time to find out the person’s name before you sing to them. If you sang happy birthday to a stranger who came into your restaurant who was mexican would you just call him John? or Juan? or would you ask his name first? I think that this is the simplest solution to the expression. I for one am not offended by being called pancho…but then again no one has ever called me pancho. Now if you meant for me to be offended it would upset me. Just like if you are angry at me and say my real name – chris- in a demonstrative manner, it would upset me as well. So I think it is all in context and you must simply be sensative and thoughtful. Say something like…. Hello we would like to serande you with a birthday song, my name is J.C. – what is your name? And then shake their hand. then sing the song and insert the name.
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Name : Chris Baker, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 26, City : Summerville, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : Graphic Artist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I did not realize that you were accepting apologies. Moreover, I thought it would take much more than that to heal our two races divisions. But since this dialogue has been opened I would like to apologize: I am sorry for what the pioneers of this country did to natives here… I am sorry for what the plantation owners and slave traders did to the Africans that were brought here… I am sorry for the poor race relations between our cultures today… I am sorry for the need for there to be a civil rights movement… I am sorry that there are really ignorant white people like in the KKK or neo nazis or any other white supremecy group… I don’t know what else I can apologize for, but I certainly feel guilty for it and wish that I could change those things. I hope that you accept my apology as sincere and can find it in your heart to forgive me and others whites who feel sincerely bad for what has happend to African Americans in the distant, recent past, and even present day. Chris Baker
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Name : Chris Baker, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 26, City : Summerville, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : Graphic Artist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Sins… Zionists… Can’t we all just get along? I feel that the media has painted Israelis as underdogs far too long as well, but please there is no need for inuslt when you are trying to get people to agree with you. This type of heated tongue lashing on serves to send fear up and down less open-minded Americans than myself. I feel YOUR pain and am doing my liberal political best to elect officals in my government who also empathize with true humanitarian causes. please don’t judge. I try very hard to convince my fellow americans that we need to look more at the truth. But fiery speechmaking against American ideals will win no wars here. It will only serve to stir up the pot.
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Name : Chris Baker, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 26, City : Summerville, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : Graphic Artist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I cannot comment on all white people. But I could tell you about the things that interest me and my wife, and if you practiced interest in these things then you might, I guess, be considered practicing white culture. Although this is a very weighted question, becuase I feel of course that the things that I do are not only white things, that black people could just as easily be found to enjoy them and even just as likely. Other than my job my day is filled with fixing up my house. My home is my investment so I work on it often. I improve it and paint it, and try and fix things in it without calling a repairman. The TV I watch reflects this hobby: HGTV, TLC…you know.. all the DIY shows. So consequently I like to talk to other homeowners about their houses. My wife and I enjoy evenings on the weekend spent with family or friends. We like to drink wine and have good conversation about current events. We particulary enjoy to hear other people’s views. Sometimes we enjoy playing board games with our guests. My wife and I enjoy travel and other people’s culture so we like to talk about this sort of thing with other people. I can’t really think of anything that is specifically white. You would be just as likely to do these things as well. But if you are currently practicing ‘black’ traditions and they do not match these types of activities, then I guess you could make a change… My wife and I would probably hang out with you and your wife no matter if you were customarily black or white. I really do hope this helped but if you need more dialogue, feel free to email me. oh…I also excercise by going to the gym every morning and walking on.
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Name : Chris Baker, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 26, City : Summerville, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : Graphic Artist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It may seem silly to you to go out of your way in referncing your black instructor by the color of his shorts instead. But I find it much sillier in everyday conversation when I am told a story about some mishap and the story teller mentions to me that the guy they are talking about was black. I make a concerted effort to avoid referring to race at all. Unless of course the race of the individual is terribly important. Here is an example of a type of story and reference I have heard (and don’t like): Well I was at the grocery store and I had put my signal on in the parking lot to clearly show that I was turning into a parking space. Well I was waiting for the car to pull out when this black guy jets in and takes the space from me. I find this particulary disturbing in that the race of the ‘rude’ individual had nothing to do with the story, it seems to me the story teller just wanted me to know what their real opinion of black people was and to reaffirm that I am in agreement with them. Normally when this happens I cannot at all concentrate on the story that the person has told me; usually I am so distracted that I ask…what does being black have to do with the guy stealing your space?
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Name : Chris Baker, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 26, City : Summerville, State : SC, Country : United States, Occupation : Graphic Artist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
