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THE QUESTION: SO70: As a child, I was a frequent victim of “gay bashing” at the hands of other children of the same or a slightly older age. I was not merely accused of being gay; it was accepted by my peers as a fact. It affected me severely, and now, as an adult, I stutter and live a celibate …

THE QUESTION: SO80: I am a high school student doing research on discrimination against homosexuals. I have run across a lot of roadblocks in my town when trying to get information. Can any gay people give me information/personal stories about discrimination they have faced (not being allowed to marry, getting a job, etc.)? Please be as detailed as possible about …

THE QUESTION: SO90: A young man I recently met told me that most gay men were at one point in their lives heterosexual. Is this a realistic point of view, or are most gay men born gay and just spend a portion of their lives not realizing it because of cultural stigma? POSTED OCT. 29, 1998 Lisa S., 26, Hispanic, …

THE QUESTION: SO100: Recently a friend I assumed was heterosexual told me she had strong feelings for another woman and that she didn’t know whether she was homosexual or bisexual. How have other people reacted to finding out about friends who are homosexual or bisexual? POSTED NOV. 29, 1998 Kate H., 34, heterosexual female, Sacramento, CA ANSWER 1: As a …

THE QUESTION: SO110: I’m a 14-year-old gay teenager and would like any of the older gay men out there to please give me some advice about coming out, etc. POSTED DEC. 21, 1998 Gay, 14, <ham111@hotmail.com>, Ontario, Canada ANSWER 1: It is incredibly tough to give advice on this, especially at your age. First, you must be sure that you …

THE QUESTION: SO120: I really enjoy being with other women, but I find that this behavior is sometimes unacceptable to others. To people who are offended by this: What is it, specifically, that offends you about a woman loving another woman, or makes you feel uncomfortable? POSTED JAN. 21, 1999 Female, 24 <aogden@hotmail.com>, San Antonio, TX To respond BACK TO …