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I basically agree with Steve here, there is a thing called oversensitivity. However, context is extremely important. For years the image of blacks portrayed in America was as bumbling, docile, happy-go-lucky buffoons–always eating watermelon or fried chicken and without a care in the world. (amusing how the standard image portrayed of us now is as overly aggressive, wild hostile people). So to put fried chicken on sale in ‘honor’ of black history month could very well have been meant as a slight. Why was fried chicken chosen? Soul food consists of a lot more than fried chicken. Was there nothing else the store could have done to commemorate black history month?? All the contributions that blacks have made to this country (that most people are completely unaware of, because our education system generally doesn’t teach any of it) and the best thing that they could come up with to commemorate black history month is to revive an old stereotype of blacks by putting fried chicken on sale???
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Your unprovoked attack was both unnecessary and misguided. First, her question had nothing to do with blacks per se, but could only be tangentially related, and then only by someone seeking to provoke an argument. If you had read closely, you would come across with the idea that her question was more closely directed at wondering WHY the Japanese seem to be so infatuated with whites, i.e. why do they think whites are superior. Yet, knowing nothing about her, and failing to comprehend her easily discernible motive for the question, you felt a need to slander her. It is YOU who needs to check your blackness – we can and do have diverse interests, and that does not diminish one’s blackness. Recognize.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,1. They age very badly
2. Pale skin
3. Thin lips
4. No butt to speak of
5. Stringy hair
6. Bigger in the chest (women)Regarding Laetita Casta, as mentioned by someone else, she used to be beautiful, but notice three things:
1. She has non-standard Caucasian looks – very full lips, thick body, thick hair
2. Many white women with features such as full lips and round butts are teased or ostracized by other white people (at least when young) for those very features. This indicates that they are not standard features for that group.
3. She’s aging very rapidly.User Detail :
Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,This is what you said in another post. It directly contradicts what you just said here: Yes, of course it’s true Asians have racism toward blacks; my mother and grandmother say, ‘ If you come back home with n****rs, I would force you to go out of the house.’ I cannot understand why people, even my mother, who have never been wronged by blacks, have strong racism against them. It’s because people around us do, so we do.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Historical/pre-historical similarities among people of different ethnic groups tend to converge along latitudinal lines, meaning that people who lived along the equator, whether in Africa, Asia or South America, tended to have certain traits in common. For example, dark skin and broad noses to protect them from the sun and allow them to more efficiently extract oxygen from the less-than-ideal air, respectively. I think that there may be some truth in the original question/hypothesis. I don’t know of any studies that have found a higher concentration of testosterone in people of African descent, but I think it would help explain the differences you mention, which I too, have noticed. The first response mentioned that Africans had to adapt to the harshness of their environment, which is true, but she didn’t take the next stop in the connection, which is to say that part of that adaptation may have been an increased rate and level of testosterone production. Adaptation in this sense doesn’t refer to individual adaptation, like building a shelter; it refers to population adaptation, which, through genetics, happens over (long periods of) time.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Hell no! I love black women! But to answer the question: I have several black friends who don’t date black women, and they’ll give reasons like: black women are harder to deal with, they always have attitudes, all they care about is money, i.e. standard stereotypes, which of course are generally not true. But it seems to me that a lot of black men have bought into the advanced stereotype that black women are undesirable except perhaps as whores, whereas others, particularly white women, are the epitome of femininity and are highly desirable. They internalize these stereotypes, and, without any first-hand knowledge, believe them to be true. It’s really sad.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Most murder defendants are not black. In fact, by sheer numbers, most murder defendants are white. That should not be surprising, considering blacks comprise only about 12 percent of the population. What raises the question of the death penalty being racist is that it is applied disproportionately to black convicts, especially those convicted of murdering a white person. Empirical studies have shown that a black person and a white person with identical criminal records who commit identical crimes are likely to receive different sentences. The white may get a life sentence, while the black gets a death sentence. Whites are almost never sentenced to death for murdering a black, while for a black, conviction of murdering a white is almost a guarantee of a death sentence where possible. Incidentally, in Texas, the defendants convicted of murdering James Byrd (dragging death) were the first whites sentenced to death in Texas for murdering a black since 1853 … when a man murdered another man’s slave.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,According to my girlfriend, who is Indian, the dots are basically cosmetic ornaments and aren’t a religious thing. It’s akin to wearing your Sunday best.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Big up! Keep it real G.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I have to respectfully differ from the respondent who said to raise the child in your own heritage. I agree with him that the most important thing that you (adoptive parents/family) need to give the child is love, support, etc., but a sense of self-identity is also very important, especially for members of minority groups, a fact that for whatever reason is often misunderstood and/or discounted by white people. I think the response that you should try to offer a mixed environment whenever possible is excellent. A well-mixed church or predominantly black church is a good option if you are churchgoers (and they WILL accept you; they’ll be very curious at first, but then will almost certainly be delighted to have you). I don’t think there is a need to explicitly ‘teach’ black culture (I don’t know if it’s possible, anyway), but just keep the kid immersed and in contact with black folks so that he can learn to understand them. And I don’t think that the child should be excluded from learning about and/or celebrating his parents’ heritage; ideally he’ll know about his parents’ culture as well as his own. But realistically, his heritage is a different heritage than his parents’, and if he grows up learning nothing but his parents’ culture, at some point he may feel he was cheated out of his own culture and that it was hidden from him because his parents thought it not worthy of being taught or exposed to. Another option: when the child is old enough, involve him/her in some sort of sport or similar community activity where there will be other black kids – and their families.
Meet some black families and explain your concerns, and I’m sure you will find that many will be willing to lend ideas, time, etc. The most important thing, as the first respondent said, is to make it so that the child is comfortable around black folks. I’ve known several black and mixed-race children who were raised with only white culture, and they were noticeably uncomfortable around black people, basically because they knew that they were black, but didn’t know anything about being black, and had no point of reference to relate to many of the things the black people related to each other about.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,It doesn’t always have to do with ignorance. I am far from what anyone would consider ignorant, but my friends and I often use that word with each other. Our use of the word is as an inclusive term indicating a shared set of experiences, and the word has no poison when used between us because there is no intent to cause harm, anger or distress when we use it – and we have all experienced being called that word when such intent is present. Also, we don’t actually say niggER; the word, as pronounced is more like niggA – which seems a minor distinction, but the hard ER sound at the end linguistically gives a strong impression of hurtful intent. And yes, we have been called that word for a long time by non-whites as a means of harming us, so should we forever let others dictate to us what harms us? What better way to disarm that than by appropriating a word used to degrade us and making it a positive thing within us? Think of a vaccine to a disease.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Actually, the origina premise is correct–blacks are the only ones who were stripped of culture and religion. While Native Americans were, basically destroyed, no effort was made to separate them from their history and culture as a means of controlling and pacifying them. The same is true of Chinese immigrant laborers, who were allowed to live together and, on their own time (they weren’t slaves, after all) to nurture the culture, practices and history of their homeland. African slaves, on the other hand, were separated from their relatives and others who spoke the same language in order that the knowledge of culture, history and language that threatened the slave owners would be destroyed. It was remarkably efficient. Chinese laborers were not disallowed from speaking Chinese, having and keeping their children/maintaining their families, and teaching their posterity the history and culture of their people. That practice has been reserved for one group; the group that was brought here as slaves (not indentured servants, which, though bad, cannot truly compare to American Slavery).
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I realize that this is an old posting, but I just wanted to weigh in with my observations, as a guy. All women do NOT smell the same, and someone did mention that hygiene is a very important factor. (Incidentally, don’t overwash down there as you’ll kill necessary bacteria and probably end up w/ vaginosis). But there is a similarity of scent between women and it smells GREAT. It’s a highly erotic scent (to me, at least) and I truly love to smell it. And eat it.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Your comment comparing Holocaust survivors to black people is misguided and fails on several points–1st is that the general facts of the Holocaust are well known and even taught in school. It would be very difficult to find an adult who doesn’t know of the Holocaust and have at least a general idea of the atrocities committed. 2nd–Most people don’t deny the severity and extent of the Holocaust. You don’t hear Holocaust survivors talking about it because a)it’s painful b) they don’t HAVE to talk about it because people know and naturally empathize with the horror they suffered. 3rd–Following the end of WWII, there were no continuing repercussions for the survivors of the Holocaust, no social order was created which sought, as its primary goal, to systematically deny them the privileges accorded others. War Crimes tribunals were convened to punish (by execution) those responsible. Former Nazis who worked in death camps are not allowed US citizenship. You wonder why black people still talk about slavery 150 yrs after it ended? It has less to do with slavery itself, than with the systems that followed slavery, that were put in place to ensure that former slaves and their descendants would remain at the bottom. If you doubt the intention of the social order that was established, go back and read some of the old laws, most of which, upheld as Constitutional by various state and federal Cts, lasted well into the 1950s. Whether you’re aware of it or not, racism is still quite pervasive, it simply isn’t as open as it once was, nor is it legally sanctioned as it once was (and I don’t mean pre-Civil War, I mean pre-Civil Rights). It is very frustrating that non-blacks, who don’t know the history, who don’t experience what blacks do on a daily basis insist on believing that it is all made up, and that once a change in the law is made, everything is fine. 4th–Holocaust survivors got reparations and an acknowledgent that what was done was wrong. Does that assume that everyone who apologized was a Nazi? No. So why is it that something as simple as an acknowledgement that slavery (and the following institutions) was wrong, and an apology from the government for its role in perpetuating it, prompts ‘I didn’t own slaves, why should I apologize?’ YOU don’t, just recognize what was done and don’t try to diminish the severity of it. 5th–W.W. II lasted from 1939-1945. Slavery in the US. 1621-1865 (244 yrs); followed by Jim Crow, Separate but Equal,etc.
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Thanks Lesley, for your comments–I think that we all know that certain people don’t speak for all who the purport to represent, but it’s so nice to have someone actually stand up and say so explicitly. I truly appreciate your words and thought and just the very existence of people like you. Thanks again
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Name : Gregory H., Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Age : 24, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
