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- As we are all trying to interpret the meaning of your question, I'm going to take it from another possible meaning. How would you approach someone if you're not sure of their sexual orientation? The most important part of which is that you don't want to offend a straight male with anger management problems. Why don't you try the way most of us cowardly males try with women... strike up a conversation, feel out the scenario, and when you feel comfortable enough with the person, broach the subject. I really don't understand the offense most straight men find with being propositioned by a gay man (if it is done with tact.) It should simply be looked on as being found attractive.
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Name : Chris D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Production Management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I find it interesting that you assumed loud and boisterous to be negative terms. I agree with you about people exhibiting a 'love of life' and consider loud, boisterous behavior to be one of the best ways. I can't speak for the writer of the original question, but I didn't see his words as being loaded or negative. But that may be me coming from my Puerto Rican heritage not being able to imagine rowdy celebration as a bad thing.User Detail :
Name : Chris D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Production Management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Speaking only for me personally, virginity brings up questions as to why? Then, why me? And then what is expected afterward. If you have maintained your virginity into college, it is probably a sacred thing to you. Whether it is religious, personal ethic, or simply personal interest (or even some other reason), it generates a values question. To then offer it to someone after you have kept it sacred for so long, brings on questions of my worth to you and what this means about your expectations in our relationship. There is also the consideration of making your first time all that you had hoped for. I would hope that whoever is your first takes that into deep consideration. Sex should be special, but it is extremely special in those cases.User Detail :
Name : Chris D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Production Management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I come from a lower class family. We never had problems facing adversity... it was a constant. I know many friends who were middle and upper class who were befuddled when faced with it, though. I don't know what the socioeconomic status of the clinics you worked at were, but could that have any influence on what you experienced?User Detail :
Name : Chris D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Production Management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have been studying what people find attractive for quite a while (it helps to know what motivates people when you are a designer.) Familiarity is security. If you have not been exposed to many other cultures, relationships across those boundaries are often subconsciously frightening. I personally dated a black woman briefly and wish that it might have continued. We had a lot of fun. Not everyone has the guts or exposure to venture into such relationships.User Detail :
Name : Chris D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Production Management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My personal preference is proportional! Too big or too small are neither flattering (but I'm also a guy who finds my girlfriend sexiest when she is in flannel.) A friend of mine had the preference of small because time and gravity did the least damage to them.User Detail :
Name : Chris D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Production Management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I can only speak for the male relationships. The programming handed down through generations still an archtype of strength and independence. The only changes that have happened to that in the most recent generations is tenderness toward mate and children. This means men need to form safe relationships that don't open the tenderness of their soul. These types of relationships are easy especially when everyone involved agrees that this is the goal. I don't think those lines are as well defined for female relationships.User Detail :
Name : Chris D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Production Management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Many times the response of not noticing color is a way of saying I'm not making assumptions based on your skin color or heritage. I'm very proud of my Puerto Rican heritage, but most people would assume by looks (fair skin, medium brown hair, and green eyes) that I would be connected more with my European heritage. Or my martial arts instructor who considers the most significant part of his heritage to be Chinese even though he is Black. He spent much of his youth with a chinese family and treated like one of their children. So you can't assume heritage by skin color.User Detail :
Name : Chris D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Production Management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have to agree with Lara that I don't buy into the increased virtue of being a virgin. I am especially bothered by the standard that is often played of a man being better if he is sexually experienced while a woman should remain untouched. People date different people to find someone compatible. Why should sex be excluded from this list of important characteristics that we check. I am happier that my girlfriend has experienced other men. It means that she is secure that I am the man she wants on all levels.User Detail :
Name : Chris D., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Atheist, Age : 32, City : Austin, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : Production Management, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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