[Chris]

I can't say that it's so good in Connecticut, either. But I promise that if you're a good-looking woman of any color (or age) driving around me then I'll be scoping you out with appreciation. And I won't be obnoxious about it, either; but I do love to look at pretty women. And I guarantee that if you smile and wave, then I surely will as well.

User Detail :  

Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 51, City : Windsor, State : CT Country : United States, Occupation : Construction Estimator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Chris]

Visit the National Vitiligo Foundation at http://www.nvfi.org/ You're right; it's not contagious.

User Detail :  

Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 51, City : Windsor, State : CT Country : United States, Occupation : Construction Estimator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Chris]

Primarily because they haven't been taught those things. Opening a door for a woman is standard for a guy my age, but opening a car door? Even men my age hardly do that any more. (I know, because I do, and I get a lot of looks in parking lots, like 'Who are YOU trying to impress?') And come on, asking a guy in his 20s to have 'good taste'? These guys are college sophomores. That's the origin of the term 'sophomoric humor'. They need to learn that, too (and they aren't learning much of it from women of their age).

User Detail :  

Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 51, City : Windsor, State : CT Country : United States, Occupation : Construction Estimator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Chris]

Hey, River. Speaking as more of a contemporary with your dad than you (my kids are both out of high school), you need to face the fact that he's never going to 'like' your Goth fashions (in clothing, jewelry, makeup or anything else). Dads don't. Mine didn't like long hair, and I didn't like saggy baggy clothes (on my kids, anyway). (And I also think Goth fashions are weird and stupid-looking, but that's beside the point.) So, he's not going to 'like' it (and I suspect neither is your mom). There's nothing you can tell him to change his mind. But you might be able to DO something to get them to start 'accepting' it, depending on the rest of your attitude and ability to 'go along to get along'. For example, aside from your schoolwork, do you help out around the house? Take out the trash? Help with the yard work? Do you do it without a lot of nagging and bitching (on both sides, yours and theirs)? Do you do things without being asked? You see, parents have peers, too, and they talk to other parents. And a lot of kids in the Goth scene seem to have tuned out anything good and decent (at least in their parents' view), and they certainly don't want that for you. So if they see you adopting some of the attitudes that they know have overtaken some of your peers, or if they just suspect that, then they will NEVER accept you going that route. Of course, the danger is that if you start acting 'normal' like this (being cheerful, helpful, courteous, pleasant, hard-working -- yeah, a Boy Scout), then you might also start to realize how freakish that whole Goth scene is. So that's the down side, I guess. It's a risk you'll have to take.

User Detail :  

Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 51, City : Windsor, State : CT Country : United States, Occupation : Construction Estimator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Chris]

They aren't necessarily lying to you; I have no doubt that you are all those things they say you are. I'm 'guessing' that there's something about your appearance, though. Too 'something'. You would know better than I, and I wouldn't even dare--or care--to guess. (Maybe too old; I know that VERY well; many single guys our age are still looking for younger women.) So if you really are all those things (and you should believe it, I think), and they choose not to be with you, then consider yourself doubly blessed: They're fools. Good luck, Nancy.

User Detail :  

Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 51, City : Windsor, State : CT Country : United States, Occupation : Construction Estimator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Chris]

Here's something you may not have considered ... if you plan to make a lifetime commitment, then around the time you hit my age you'll be very happy with her smaller breasts (if they still are smaller by then; childbirth often enlarges them naturally), because they won't be sagging and wrinkled. But in general I go with Nicole's answer. Tell her she's beautiful (if you mean it) and enjoy each other as you are.

User Detail :  

Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 51, City : Windsor, State : CT Country : United States, Occupation : Construction Estimator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Chris]

Cool. I think Green Day, Five For Fighting, and Goo Goo Dolls (to name a few) are pretty good, too. Have you also tried Beethoven and Mozart (to name a few other long-hairs)?

User Detail :  

Name : Chris, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 51, City : Windsor, State : CT Country : United States, Occupation : Construction Estimator, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Author]

Posts