[Rebecca]

Just wanted to tell you that I too enjoy going with my husband. While I did experiment with women when I was younger, I would definitely say that my preference is being married to a man. However, I still appreciate the beauty in the female form. We have gone to ‘gentlemen’s’ clubs and even ‘full contact’ clubs in Florida. I have found that it is as sexually exciting for him as it is for me to see another women who finds my husband as attractive as I find him, even if it is only in the fantasy that we are paying her for. Regarding the lesbian question, while I am not gay my older sister is. Not only does she frequent the bars with her girlfriend, she has worked as a stripper for more than 8 years. Just thought I would post to let you know you are definitely not alone in this bit of voyueristic foreplay. We often see other couples in the bar who are enjoying the same activities.

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Name : Rebecca, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Agnostic, Age : 29, City : Washington, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Designer, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Rebecca]

Laura, When I was 15 I had sex for the first time. I ended up having an abortion. When I was 16 I got pregnant again. This time a junior in highschool I went through with the pregnancy and had my daughter. By the time I was 19 I had gone through PID, Clamydhia, and a gang rape. By the time I was 21 I had lived in a homeless shelter and had been with more than 35 men. Most of my adolesence was spent trying to find myself through the comfort of someone else’s words and validation of me. It took a long time for me to realize that I had to first learn how to validate myself. We put a great emphasis in our society on men being ‘studs’ and women being ‘whores’ if they are as sexually liberated as their male counterparts. While I will say that I did sleep around for the wrong reasons, the experiences and resulting learning and growing that I developed from them only served in the long run to make me a better women as an adult. I know you are more than anything afraid that if you admit your abortions that a man will possibly shun or look down on you despite your ‘good girl’ status now. However, let me be the first to say that you never lost that status. There will be many who will never understand the decisions you made during that time and yes they will shun and possible codemn you before they learn who you truly are. However, those who take the time and who learn who you truly are, will be able to accept decisions you made. My husband knows every sordid little detail about my life, as do most people who meet me. I learned a long time ago that by sharing my experiences with others such as yourself it was not only cathartic for me but in turn could help others. I actually am pushing to speak in the highschools regarding my experiences if only to teach young people that it is ok to have been ‘down and out’ so long as you don’t become a victim of it in the long run. Laura, honey, hold your head up high and never be ashamed of who you are or where you came from. My daughter is now 12 almost 13, I’m 29. I have a successful small business and an incredible family. It was a long, hard road but I promise if you stick to your convictions and stay proud of the woman you have become, you will be just fine.

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Name : Rebecca, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Agnostic, Age : 29, City : Washington, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Designer, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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