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I enjoy going to strip clubs with my husband. Not only does it turn my husband on, but I really enjoy getting a table dance from a sexy, gorgeous woman. I am wondering if lesbians and bisexual women go to strip clubs. If so, do you go to ‘gentleman’s clubs,’ or are there strip clubs specifically for lesbians that I’m not aware of? Or is the whole idea of stripping and dancing for money offensive to lesbians?
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Name : Annie, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Tucson, State : AZ, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class,Around here in Montreal, there are no specific strip clubs for lesbians. There is one male strip club for women, tons of female strip clubs for men, and tons of male strip clubs for gay men. I personally enjoy going to strip clubs with my girlfriend of 5 years and her straight male friends (because female clubs won’t let women in without male escorts). Some lesbian friends I know are completely turned off by the idea of female strippers, some find it degrading. And then there are some bi and lesbian women I know who enjoy it and some who even fight for more rights for sex workers in general. So I wouldn’t say tnat all lesbians love it or hate it, it depends on each person.
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Name : Kathy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : Asian, Age : 25, City : Montreal, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Administration, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,This, I’d say, is one of those things that varies by person. I have a couple friends who have gone to strip clubs. I’m sure they’d prefer women-only clubs, but availability is limited in the Mid-west. Personally the idea of stripping/dancing for money is just smart. The people who give their money choose to be there, as do the strippers. I think people aren’t given enough credit for their own choices, but that’s just me. Also, I’ve never been to a strip club, but wouldn’t mind going someday. Some people like to look, some don’t. Hope that’s helpful 🙂
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Name : tigrress, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 23, City : kansas city, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College,Around here in Montreal, there are no specific strip clubs for lesbians. There is one male strip club for women, tons of female strip clubs for men, and tons of male strip clubs for gay men. I personally enjoy going to strip clubs with my girlfriend of 5 years and her straight male friends (because female clubs won’t let women in without male escorts). Some lesbian friends I know are completely turned off by the idea of female strippers, some find it degrading. And then there are some bi and lesbian women I know who enjoy it and some who even fight for more rights for sex workers in general. So I wouldn’t say tnat all lesbians love it or hate it, it depends on each person.
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Name : Kathy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : Asian, Age : 25, City : Montreal, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Administration, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My girlfriend and I have gone to strip clubs in the past, and we find it enjoyable. Although it’s a little creepy at times, we have fun. However, I do find myself a little concerned for the dancers….I would rather talk to them and find out who they are than throw dollars at them. They chose the profession, but they should not be responsible for all the crap that comes with it. I wish there were lesbian strip clubs. That would be an ideal environment. But, we have to settle for ‘gentleman’s clubs’. I find the old men creepy and scary. But that’s just me 🙂
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Name : Rebecca, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 26, City : Kansas City, State : KS, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have been to gentleman’s clubs with men before, but never on my own (the clubs were for gentlemen or couples only). I enjoyed it, but found it more fun than arousing. And I’ve known a number of lesbian/bisexual girls who have worked as dancers. I don’t know of any dedicated lesbian strip clubs (at least not in my area), but I do know of a gay bar that has a weekly show. Yes, there are some gay women who are highly offended by the objectification of women for money, but I think it is more a feminist issue than a gay/straight issue.
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Name : Kæreste, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 22, City : Jacksonville, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Construction, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I am not lesbian or bi, but I am close friends with many, and I know that for the most part lesbians are not offended by stripping or dancing for money. Many of my friends do it for a living! The girls I know usually go to one club, where everyone is invited, gay or straight, male or female. A lot of the ‘Gentlemen’s Clubs’ around here are just that, no females other than dancers allowed. But the ones with open doors are often visited. As far as strip clubs specifically for lesbians, there are none around here, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t any in the more populated areas of the US.
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Name : Jessica-G30835, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : Greenville, State : SC, Country : United States, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class,More power to you !! I dated a girl once who enjoyed going to a strip bar occasionally and getting lap / couch dances. Sometimes we would get one dancer to dance on both of us, it was very stimulating. I am sure there are lesbian strip clubs, but I doubt the dancers would be like the ones in gentlemans clubs.
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Name : Ken26420, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 40, City : Peoria, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Sales, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Whether lesbians want to come in the clubs or not may be a moot point. Many strip clubs will not permit single women or groups of women to enter their clubs for a very simple reason: they don’t want male customers paying attention (i.e., spending money) on any women other that the dancers. It would be like allowing a Lexus salesman to hang out in a Mercedes dealership. Couples of course are o.k. – because of people like you and your husband. You and he are spending money on the dancers. Of course, there are lesbian bars and clubs…but the idea of a lesbian strip club would probably only succeed in a very large city such as New York. I know I’m speaking out of gender here – and I’m quite sure there are lesbians who would enjoy a table dance from a sexy lady just as you do – but I think most lesbians have little interest in attending a strip club on such a regular basis to justify opening a club.
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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 47, City : Knoxville, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : attorney, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I’m bisexual (leaning more toward women) and I love going to strip clubs. I’ve only been to the ‘regular’ ones, but I think there are some clubs where the dancers are all lesbian or bi (but both men and women can watch). I think some ‘feminist lesbians’ probably object to strip clubs, but I know a lot of bi/lez girls who like ’em. I also know straight girls (who have no sexual attraction to women) who like strip clubs. Conclusion: strip clubs are fun for everyone!
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Name : Manda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 20, City : Memphis, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think it depends on the woman. More gay women than in the past do visit strip clubs and have a great time. I have been a few times and enjoy them. There are other lesbians (and women in general) who feel strip bars are sexist and demeaning and are offended by the idea of them. I personally don’t go anymore because my girlfriend is one of the latter category.
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Name : Eddie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Methodist, Age : 39, City : Austin, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : IT Tech, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Sometimes lesbians and bisexual women go to strip clubs, sure. But the male-centered attitude can be annoying and distracting. Every once in a while, especially in areas with large gay populations like San Francisco and New York City, a group of lesbian/bi women will put on a strip club night just for women. A lot of dancers/strippers are actually lesbian or bi themselves, and it can be fun for them to put on a show for women they would actually date.
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Name : Anne, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Queer, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Episcopalian, Age : 29, City : Shelburne, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Web designer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think there are strip clubs for lesbians – personally I wouldn’t go to one with men in it. That is disgusting to me. I might go to one for lesbians.
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Name : Dwanny, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 53, City : Springtown, State : TX, Country : United States,I’m a lesbian, and I don’t go to heterosexual strip clubs, but I know that some lesbian bars and parties feature female strippers. I’ve been to a few, but not specifically to see the strippers — for the most part, they don’t do much for me, but there have been exceptions! With regard to whether stripping is offensive to lesbians, I’d say it depends on the particular lesbian, just as stripping is offensive to some straight women but not others.
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Name : Denise25827, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Disability : depression, ADD, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : 12-step, Age : 47, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : lawyer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Pop culture icon Morrisey once said,’People are neither homosexual nor heterosexual. They are merely sexual.’ Or maybe that was Madonna. Regardless, I have found that most of the women who work in strip clubs are younger and still searching for thier sexual identity. I notice you are 38. Possibly the culture in the ’80s was not as free where you grew up as it is in these establishments, but many of these young girls are toying with the issue of sexual orientation. You don’t need a lesbian bar. You need the cajones to ask one to your home, or at least out on a social get together outside her work. But, as Dan Savage once said, treat a young girl like a campground: make sure it’s better off when you leave than when you found it.
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Name : Bruce-J19290, Gender : M, Age : 33, City : Shawnee, State : KS, Country : United States,
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