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- I would stop. There could be a lot of reasons why she does not want you looking at the porn. You should ask her why it bothers her. Address each of those issues seriously and without getting mad. If your relationship goes beyond just great sex, then it pays to attend to your partner's feelings. If it is just about sex and the porn is more important than the sex with her, then moving on might be best. Just don't lie and look at it on the sly.
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Name : Me of Little Faith, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 38, City : Olympic Peninsula, State : WA Country : United States, Occupation : Done working!, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,A LOT of kids coming out of college think that they should be immediately running projects and having major responsibility. The truth is we all had to pay our dues when we graduated and ALL felt like we were not given challenging assignments. My suggestion, after many years shepherding recent grads through the ranks: First and foremost, you must work your butt off and be positive even when you absolutely do not feel positive. Nobody likes a slacker with an attitude. Second, do not complain about lack of good assignments or ANYTHING ELSE to coworkers. If you think you are being underutilized, tell your boss. Tell your boss what you have in mind for yourself assignment wise. Be specific. Don't just go in and whine. If you do these things and still get no results, seek employment elsewhere. During the interview say with conviction that you want responsibility and to prove it you want pay tied to performance. Everyone has an education these days. You set yourself apart by coming thru in the clutch, being tireless and finding something valuable to specialize in. If an MBA is required for promotion, then plan ahead and get it WHILE you continue to work. If it is not required, I would think long and hard before sinking the money there. BTW, everyone is a little shellshocked when they enter into the real world. Simple things young folks sometimes screw up: Don't open your mouth before thinking really hard about what you are going to say and what the possible ramifications will be. Work your rear off, specialize and do not walk around with a giant chip on your shoulder daring someone to knock it off. One last thing... I know this is going to sound rude, but sometimes people are not as good as they imagine themselves being. Get a review under your belt and if it is not glowing, take a good hard loo in the mirror. Not the best way to end but... Good luck!User Detail :
Name : Me of Little Faith, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 38, City : Olympic Peninsula, State : WA Country : United States, Occupation : Done working!, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,OK... A few things: 1) You could be shy. How will men know you exist if you do not put it out there. Men will never get to know that you are all those great things if you do not open the door to having a relationship. 2) It may be that you are too understanding and unconditional and loving. What?? you say! No person, man or woman, want a doormat, a clinger or accepting any ol thing they toss your way. Set high standards ahead of time (before you meet the guy)and stick to them. Think: Don't always be available... if he bails on a date, make him suffer. You have to see your value. 3)Sadly, and I am not trying to be mean and I am not saying it is right, but if men are saying this to you all the time and they are men you have had a relationship with them, then it is a dump line. It could just be an encouraging male friend (judge the man) or it could be that he does not want to say hey... cute - but chubby or not so easy on the eyes. Those are hard things to say (and cruel) sometimes people get nervous when you ask them why no man wants you. My guess is that you are shy and maybe a little bit of a doormat. So get out there, be confident and proud, take no guff and find somone worthy of your unconditional love. We should all be so lucky!User Detail :
Name : Me of Little Faith, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 38, City : Olympic Peninsula, State : WA Country : United States, Occupation : Done working!, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
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