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Men are visual, meaning they are stimulated by the visual. Thus they find porn stimulating. Men also think about sex about every 6 minutes, so it’s an outlet for them. Women are intellectual. We’re stimulated by thoughts — mentally. Pictures don’t do so much for us. Why does the porn bother you? Is it because he looks at it all the time? Is it the type of porn (hard core…deviant…etc) that he looks at? If it’s just the tame Playboy type, I’d let it go (and do read the articles, they’re really good!) If it’s hardcore and makes you uncomfortable, I’d question whether I wanted to remain with this guy.
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Name : Rachel, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Niagara-on-the-Lake, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Homemaker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Itt’s a psychological addiction, especially for guys who didn’t get a lot of sex during their teens. From 14-21 is the sexual peak of men, and most don’t get any. 99 percent of guys masturbate and 1 percent lie about it. Personally, I masteubate twice a day, every day. I have been in sexually active relationships and though it’s a thousand times better, I still masturbated during the course of the relationship. If you begin to look at porn every time you masturbate, you become creatively dependent on it, too.
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Name : Marcus24904, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 18, City : Montreal, Quebec, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I would not stop, I would not look at it in front of her, but I definitely would not stop. If she is that insecure about herself and the strength of the relationship, then that is just the tip of the iceberg. My girlfriend has no problem with it, I am a photographer and collect several types of photographic images, some of which are nudes / erotic. Sometimes we will throw on a porn vid while we are having sex, it just adds a different spice.
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Name : Ken26418, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 40, City : Peoria, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Sales, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Yep, I’d quit right away. Funny you ask because my girlfriend enjoys it more than I do. Maybe it is a libido thing. I don’t find it harmful, but if you do, you may want to figure out what it is that bothers you about it first.
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Name : Steve, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 29, City : Omaha, State : NE, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Not that an extensive and publicly displayed porn collection wouldn’t creep me out, but if it’s just a couple of mags under the bed, is it really such a big issue? If you have a healthy sex life, I’d look into why his looking at porn bugged me. Insecurity can poison even the best relationships.
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Name : Hazel, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Grant Writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,A great sexual relationship ONLY? Then there’s little reason to stop viewing porn. But if there’s a loving relationship, it should be based on mutual respect. Further, many people believe that some fantasies, even involving pictures, are ‘cheating.’ If your relationship is more than sex, he should respect your wishes and cheat no more. One final thought, though – he might not be able to stop. Porn can be addictive.
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Name : Charlie-M, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 34, City : Knoxville, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : Businessman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If ‘I’ am in a great sexual relationship I don’t need porn because I’m getting my needs taken care of. Different people have different levels of sexual need. Just because one person considers the frequency of sex in a relationship satisfactory doesn’t mean the other partner will. Unless the person with the lesser needs is prepared to fill their partner’s needs even when it exceeds their own, I don’t think it’s fair to expect them not to fill their needs on their own.
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Name : John29189, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Huntington, State : WV, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College,If you have a great sexual relationship then there shouldn’t be anything to worry about. Porn is porn, everyone has fantasies, your partner may not like them, and you probably don’t really want to carry them out anyway. Reverse psychology would probably work much better than being told to just ‘stop your dirty thoughts,’ though.
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Name : Tom24089, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 30, City : Arbor, State : NA, Country : Sweden, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,At the beginning of our relationship 5 yrs ago, my (now) fiancee had dozens of Playboys stashed in his bathroom closet. I was so uncomfortable and self-concious, that I pretended I never saw them and refused to approach the subject myself….until, a month later, I lashed out and unintentionally made him feel extrememly guilty. Since then, I’ve come to somewhat understand his taste in visual fantasies (he never shows me, but I’ll find them on the computer every once in a while). And it really confuses me and makes me curious, because his taste is totally different…..it’s like a whole new side of him I would love to know…..I don’t know if he’ll ever share this part of himself with me, he is pretty secretive about it. Did I ruin it by making him feel guilty about the magazines? How can I change this, so we can both enjoy it, with eachother???
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Name : Sharon, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 25, City : Portland, State : OR, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College,I think that if it would bother my partner, I would throw it out. If it’s not something you share together, then I would not have a problem throwing away magazines, videos, deleting files ,etc. However, what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her, so I’d probably grab a quick peek if a friend had a Hustler lying around his house.
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Name : Joe, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Catholic, Age : 33, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Driver, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Stop watching porn? Are you crazy? The porn chicks are way hotter than the b**ches we’re f*cking. I would f*ck a porn chick in front of my girlfriend on the Thanksgiving table and when I was finished I would slap both her parents with my —. Stop watching porn, are you out of your mind?
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Name : Cee Why, Gender : M, Religion : Secular Humanist, Age : 30, City : Hamden, State : CT, Country : United States, Occupation : Realist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It would depend on her reasons. Does she simply not like me looking at other women? If that’s the case I would probably relent to her. But, if she were to object based simply on morality I would explain to her that while I may read a magazine that features pictures of nude women, it also has far more pages of entertaining and informative articles. I have found that many women object to a publication based on principal alone, and never bother to actually see what it’s about.
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Name : Michael C, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 26, City : Tallahassee, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Enforcement, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Unless the porn is getting in the way of a healthy relationship, it should not matter whether a partner wants to look at it. Porn can be a very healthy way for men to be monogomous and yet not feel the need to cheat. If the man is made to feel guilty for looking at porn he will leave, or worse, cheat on you. Porn can be something that both partners can enjoy together. Besides, maybe one reason that the sex is so good is because of moves he learned watching porn!
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Name : B23450, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 25, City : San Diego, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College,I wouldn’t stop. Men instinctively crave sexual variety and porn satisfies. It heightens fantasy during masturbation — which is the point of porn, anyway — and it’s a nice aid when you want to get off without working too hard for it. Abuse of porn (like anything else) can be a problem. But, just as social drinking isn’t the same as alcoholism, porn, in moderation, has a healthy place in the masturbation side of men’s sex lives.
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Name : David-A, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 40, City : Mission Viejo, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Writer, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,If I was with a woman I was attracted to, had a great relationship with, had great sex with, and trusted, you bet I would give up porn for her. Mind you, this is only for a woman I think I am going to marry. If it is too early in the relationship to tell if I want to marry her, then no I would not give it up.
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Name : SoulStormBrew, Gender : M, Age : 26, City : Emporia, State : KS, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower class,
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