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- I'm a virgin and will be until marriage. It's hard for girls to learn to cherish their virginity because they have been taught by society (just watch commercials) that a girl's purpose is to provide men with sexual pleasure. If even adult women believe this, how would girls learn otherwise? Plus I think the number of parents who have time to give their children the attention they need combined with the attitude that children are a 'burden' leaves girls without the attention from their fathers they need. Studies have shown that a girl's relationship with her father will be mirrored in her relationships with men later in life. I know that the love and acceptance I desperately crave from my dad I turned into a desperate craving for attention and acceptance from my male friends. If a girl craves attention and grows up being taught her 'purpose' in life is to be sexy for male enjoyment, she'll seek sexual attention from men. Who is teaching girls they can expect more from men and relationships than sex? It seems sex is being prized as the best part of relationships. It makes me very angry and frustrated that little girls and boys are being taught that they should expect so little from relationships.
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Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,people who grow up in households where music is an important or at least present part of life have been groovin since childhood. It's possible that the average black household listen to more music with a dance beat than the average white household. I know plenty of people who can or cannot dance because of their exposure to music. Leanne 100% Bi-racial!!User Detail :
Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,because they are jerks. If they feel big because they exclude you, or because have some prejudice against white people that's being a jerk. hopefully it's because your new and they dont know ya got skills, but if not, it's up to you wether or not you want to try to befriend them or play somewhere else. Leanne 100% Bi-racial!!!User Detail :
Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,The make up of democrat/republican voting also breaks down by economic class. It's harder to become rich if your black, less likely to get bank loans, studies showed college applicants with 'black' sounding names ( Jamall Jackson) got passed over more frequently, etc. Today you dont have to be racist to support policies or practices that descriminate across racial lines. I personally think that policies historically supported by Rublicans more than democrats, affect black people negatively, tho the republicans may not think of themselves as racist or intentionally want to descriminate against blacks. I think the death penalty has been more heavily supported by Republicans. Black men are 4 times more likely to be given the death penalty (as of 1998) than a white man for an IDENTICAL crime. So supporting the death penalty, with so much unconscious racism in the american consciousness, supports racism. This issue is far too complex to sum up like this but oh well. Leanne 100% Bi-racial!!!User Detail :
Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,i dont think our culture is mature enough in its opinions/thoughts/and ability to discuss race and culture, to be willing to call every one just plain Americans. Also many people dont want to loose their connection to their family history, their culture's strengths and triumphs and the hyphen is a way not to loose sight of an important part of ourselves, a part that gets ignored by the word 'American' The lable American has not expanded to include the diverse population that America is made up of. The 'all american' image does not include many of us. Being 'American' seems to mean assimilating into mainstream white culture which is not what it truly means to be an american and would require many of us to deny parts of who we are. I think as America matures (hopefully we will) we will be able to see ourselves as one united group, as for now i dont believe we have the courage and humility to do that. I too get frustrated by the hyphens and i do what i can to help America be inclusive to ALL its members. I am not sure what you mean when you say 'a lack of interest in being 'American' is causing many of today's issues. Explain? Leanne 100% Bi-racial!!!!User Detail :
Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Sometimes the meaning of the word itself is less important than the way that it is said and the actions taken by the person using the word. I have tried to look up the word 'nigger' (SORRY IF THIS IS OFFENSIVE TO ANYONE)and the only meaning i could find was 'offensive slang' When i asked my dad his thoughts he said that the word instilled fear in people because when that word was used it was likely to be followed up with violence, reminders that black people were thought of an inferior and that they werent able to protect themselves. When that word has been said to me i have feared for my safety, felt ridiculed and de-humanized and hurt that someone was obviously TRYING to say something to hurt me. Just one person's thoughts. This is probably something you could research yourself. I bet if you did a yahoo search of books + offensive racial slurs you could find some info. I am sure there are plenty of books about this. Leanne 100% Bi-racial!!!User Detail :
Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I think it is dangerous to say 'teenagers' feel that this is ok, since it implies that all teenagers do. But i think that those (teenagers and the adults i have seen do the same) who DO feel that it is ok may not have had parents who emphasized respect for others property and picking up after them selves, but who knows, they could be having serious family problems and are acting out, or any number of things. maybe it is a trend or maybe these particular people each have their own reason for their actions. I worked at a sporting goods store and was appalled by the number of adults who did just this and allowed their children to do the same. Leanne 100% Bi-racialUser Detail :
Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,Well in away life is over. At least the life they knew. In a sense they have to re-invent their sense of themselves, as someone who has different needs. Maybe it's similar to loosing a loved one, the life with them you knew is over and you have to create a new life. Our bodies are a loved one and when part of us 'dies' we have to mourn that loss, and try to re-create ourselves within this new reality. I feel like part of me died when i was sexually assaulted and beaten down by racism. I was debilitatingly depressed and it has taken me 2 years to 're-build' if you will, my self. I suppose it sounds overly-dramatic, but part of me was taken away and i wasnt the person i was, that person died. Tho i still feel sad when i think of loosing who i was i worked hard and fought to create the person i am now and i love that person!User Detail :
Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I think the compassionate and respectful thing to do is the let them finish. I would think if someone senses your frustration, they could become nervous about your annoyance and it could make their stuttering worse. Do you really think you'll be late some where or is it more of an anoyance? I dont want this to sound mean but I'd say weigh your lateness against their self-esteem. Unless you would finish someone's thought, no matter their speach patterns, because you're late it would show a lot of character strength to let them finish. This could be an opportunity for you to be very loving and compassionate, TAKE IT!!User Detail :
Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,I am SO SO SO sorry yhat you (and many others)are being used as a target for other's anger and vengence. The sad answer, i believe, is a combination of ignorance/racism/ and apathy. It is easy for many in this country to go through life without having to learn distinctions between people who just get lumped into an 'other' category. For the white mainstream consciousness ( i dont mean white people just any people willing to go along with the majority ignorance on issues of race) it is easier = less time and effort, to lump people into categories and define them by those categories eventhough it is inaccurate and inhumane.(My friend said after 9/11 the african american kids at his college were getting beatten up, which is ridiculous as well) Some Americans even cannot/will not make the distinction between middle eastern members of al quida (i spelled that wrong, i think)and Americans of middle eastern discent. Hate crimes went up after 9/11 But i assume (sorry if i make an ass out of you and me) that you kind of already knew that and my answer wont take the sting out of your unjust treatment so i wont pretend it will. I will just express my heartache at the injustice you have suffered and say that it is WRONG and in no way justified. I am sorry. Leanne 100% Bi-racial!!!User Detail :
Name : Leanne, Gender : F, Race : I'm a mutt!!, Religion : Christian, Age : 22, City : pleasant hill, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : artist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,
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