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- The author of 'Wet Dogs' is a white man. I saw him on a talk show a few days ago and he had a lot of good things to say. The title of his book is an example of the kinds of questions that he would like to get out in the open. On that talk show, some 'experts,' including the author, offered some very good answers to the wet dog question, ranging from biological differences to people simply not being exposed to how other races react to certain environmental situations. I don't think the author's intention was to slight his own people. Instead, just as he is doing with this site, his intention is to get people talking about these stereotypes.
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Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,That's a perfectly good explanation for two people to be together, regardless of race. And I'm sure that happens a lot. But I believe a lot of black men are under the assumption that white women are more submissive than black women. Black women tend to be more independent and assertive - some people would say 'loud.' Whatever.Some men want a woman who will do whatever he wants her to do. And being a professional black woman, I know that is hard to find in a black woman. It seems as if white women are raised a little differently than black women, probably out of necessity.
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Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don't really like dreads on anybody. Just not something that i find attractive, but that's not to say that they're bad. I say do whatever you feel is an appropriate expression of who you are.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Mine is more for tasks and goals. But i am speaking from the standpoint of a highly educated Black person. I think that, in general, Black people tend to be very collectivist in that we emphasize the importance of family and relationships.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think different races smell different. Or, rather, different cultures smell different. And there's a simple explanation for that. If you eat different foods, then you will have a slightly different body chemistry. I have a friend who is Indian, and she has this certain odor about her. And its simply because of the kind of food that she eats. Her breath smells different. Her hair even smells different when it gets wet. Also, I think that there are some physiological differences between races. Just as Blacks tend to have fuller lips than Europeans, again, body chemistries are different as well. the author of Wet Dogs was on the Ananda Lewis Show a couple of days ago and he offered a satisfactory answer. Different body chemistries react different to things like water or even heat. And if its something that you're not used to, then it may be unpleasant for you.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I see lots of variations in Whites skin color. It's just not as easy to discern as it is with Blacks. Darker complected Whites are said to have an olive complection, while paler ones are said to be more sallow.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I'm not sure. It is probably just one of those physiological differences that occur between cultures. That's like asking why do White people generally have straighter hair than Black people. Just a physiological difference.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,hi. I can't remember exactly how this goes, but you'll see Indian women with black and red dots. Although i get them mixed up, I do believe that one color indicates that the woman is married, while the other color indicates that she is not. It's like wearing a wedding ring.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,For the longest time, I've fought the same battle. Although i was raised by 2 black parents, my biological father is biracial and so my parents have always tried to give me a sense of my 'other' side, so I've always been in racially mixed surroundings. I've gone to predominantly White schools and, consequently, I like a lot of things that are considered to be 'white' things. I love rock, I wear AE and Fitch and Gap, I speak very properly. And sadly the people that who have given me the most crap about this has been my own people. They don't seem to realize that how I dress or talk, and what music I listen to doesn't tell you how I think. it just tells you who I've been around. I consider myself to very racially aware, but I hear all of the time that I'm 'not black enough'.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I'm Black and I don't feel like a victim. I think that there is a difference between feeling like you're a victim and being victimized. It's the point of view. I am a highly educated person, but I will admit that I feel very frustrated when I go into a store and I'm being watched. I don't present myself to be the stereotype of a thief. I wear business suits and a conservative hairstyle. My speech is that of an educated person. Yet, it still angers me that for a lot of people, all they see is a Black woman. I believe that Black people are still being victimized in this country, but I don't see myself as a victim. I see myself as a survivor who surges forward in spite of the victimization.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think that there is such a big level of distrust of Whites among Blacks, especially Black men, that we tend to think that Whites have an ulterior motive, even when the offer of assistance is genuine.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Hmmm.... I have an inkling of what this could be due to. I keep going back to the stereotype of black people drinking Kool Aid. But the truth is that, for many poor Black people, Kool Aid is one of the cheapest drinks around, so poor people of all races drink it a lot (they're not the only ones, but probably account for a large percentage of the profits made by that company). As for the sodas you mentioned, going back to the Kool Aid thing. If you're used to drinking fruit drinks, when you want a soda, it seems logical that you would be more into fruit flavored sodas.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Yes, black people seem to be very loud. But I really think that that's just a cultural thing. Just as Italians tend to be very boisterous and animated, so do Black people. We are a very -- passionate people. Even back in slavery days, Black people used to sing in the fields. We enjoy eachother's company and it just manifests itself in a different way than White people's display of enjoyment.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Among lower class blacks, plays are expensive things. Yes, i know that blacks will often spend hundreds of dollars on shoes, but won't spring for a ticket to a play. But really you have to be taught to have an appreciation for art, and visiting museums or going to plays just are on the list of priorities for poorer families. Plus, I think black folks are especially interested in going places where they see other Black people. And unfortunately, there aren't a lot of black theater companies.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I've been thinking about that for years and the conclusion that I have come to is this: I am not saying that it is okay for black people to use either the n*gga or n*gger term. HOWEVER, I think that for black people, its a unification term, strange and warped as it may seem. When black people use the term n*gga, its like saying, 'We're all in this together, we face the same struggles everyday, we're Black in this country and we both encounter everything that comes along with that.' Or, in short, 'I'm a n*gga, and you're a n*gga too.' Back when that term was the most hateful thing you could say, Whites used it to denote or label Black people as these detestful creatures. And so, when a Black person says it to another one, its a matter of shared identity, eventhough that identity is a negative one. So, most Black people will become offended when someone other than a Black or Hispanic person uses that term. When White person uses that term, it couldn't possibly be an acknowledgement of the shared experience of being a demeaned minority in this country. And so I think a lot of Black people view it as taking on its original meaning.User Detail :
Name : Kelly R., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : St. Louis, State : MO Country : United States, Occupation : university instructor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
