[J. I.]

Y? Forum is designed to provide a safe haven where people can feel free to seek information about other groups in a spirit of respectful curiosity. MarronBella’s snide response not only failed to shed any light on the original topic, she appeared to attack the first person for having even posed the question. If MarronBella actually wants a constructive discussion about her perception that white people are nosy or that they’re always looking to criticize black people, then she should raise those issues in separate questions of her own.

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[J. I.]

The perception that most anchors and reporters in electronic media are liberal enjoys its widest acceptance among those on the political right. Even if there is some truth to it, bear in mind that the people who write these journalists’ paychecks tend to be conservative, as do most business owners – no one is likely to accuse Fox News or Rupert Murdoch of being liberal – and those who have the gold ultimately make the rules. The suggestion that liberals expressly undertake media careers to serve ideological agendas is reminiscent of conspiracy theories popular on right-wing talk radio. As someone who has worked in media for more than 40 years, I can say with a fair amount of certainty that most anchors and reporters are motivated by ego, not ideology.

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[J. I.]

As a white male whose partner is a black female, I’ve had an opportunity to gain insight into the way whites are viewed by many blacks. Not all of your black friends may actually want you to understand them — one way black people have survived over the years is by deliberately not letting whites know how they think. But so what? Your friends won’t always know what’s inside your head, either. I know it’s hard when you’re 17 to stop worrying about what other people think of you, especially if it’s people you find really cool, but nobody, no matter who they are or what they are, is going to have respect for you (admiration, not fear) if you give out the message that you don’t think you’re cool enough without their approval. When people are friends, they’re supposed to meet somewhere in the middle.

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[J. I.]

A high-maintenance person makes lots of demands on others in terms of time, money, energy or attention. Someone with a chronic health problem could be high maintenance. So could someone who is simply spoiled. As ‘Anonymous’ suggests, a woman might be unjustly dismissed by a man as high-maintenance just because he’s too self-centered to give of himself to even a normal degree. Do keep in mind that ‘Anonymous’ was unfortunately speaking more to her own disillusionment than to the spirit of your original question.

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[J. I.]

The issue of children should be settled by the time a man and woman consider themselves to be ‘with’ each other. There should also be a conversation about how the two of you would respond in the event of an unintended pregnancy. It’s delusional to insist that your potential partner would be perfect if only he/she wanted kids. Either they do or they don’t – and everyone has a right to want whatever it is they want. What if you were to meet someone who already has children, along with child-care obligations that would almost certainly affect your relationship? The essential thing is to see things as they actually are, not as they would be “if only…”

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[J. I.]

I smoked cigarettes for a total of about 25 years before quitting in 1985. Although it was never actually true, it did seem for a long time as though most people smoked. With very few restrictions, smokers ruled–they were free to light up pretty much wherever they chose. There was absolutely no shame in tossing butts from car windows or stamping them out on sidewalks. We all did it. Now, with so many people having quit, the majority of those still smoking are the highly-addicted ones. My theory is that it takes a lot of denial to remain a smoker in the face of now-known health consequences and anti-smoking social pressure. It follows that someone in denial about smoking would also be stuck in an old consciousness about how they dispose of their cigarette butts. Filling in the rest of the butt-strewn landscape are young smokers positive they’re invincible, plus smokers of any age with an acute don’t-tell-me-what-to-do streak. Whatever its origins, I also deplore that kind of litter.

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[J. I.]

Despite recent gains by women and minorities, the country is by and large still run by heterosexual white males. We don’t experience meaningful persecution because our brethren are usually the ones persecuting others. Neither as straight males nor as Caucasians is our group self-esteem ever really put on the line, so a taunt by someone from a less-dominant group is easy to brush off – unless we fear their anger might turn violent. No matter who is engaging in them, slurs and taunts usually reveal more about the person attacking than about the person being attacked.

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[J. I.]

An atheist is a disbeliever; an agnostic is a nonbeliever. For me as an agnostic, the existence or non-existence of a supreme being is an imponderable, and therefore a non-issue. Since the burden of proof in any debate rests with the affirmative, I consider agnosticism to be the intellectually neutral departure point. Agnostics reject the assertion commonly advanced by the faithful that you have to believe in something. In fact, it could be argued that it takes a certain courage to live with the ambiguity of not knowing. Not that believers are less courageous, but their tolerance for ambiguity might be lower. If I believe anything, it’s that energy spent attempting to be a kind and moral person contributes more than energy spent ruminating about theological fine points.

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[J. I.]

As I recall, blacks in the Jim Crow era who talked back to whites or who behaved as though they deserved the same status or respect as whites, were called “uppity” – by whites. Nowadays, I’m told, the word is used among blacks to criticize other blacks who “act white” or fail to “keep it real.” It would follow, therefore, that a white calling a black “uppity” would be doing so at his peril. Since my perspective is that of a middle-aged white guy, I’d love to have these impressions verified by people in a position to know first-hand.

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[J. I.]

Whether a person’s religious beliefs are arrived at through a conscious leap of faith or through blanket acceptance of what is handed down from one’s family or culture, a high degree of emotional investment is involved. To challenge someone’s beliefs is to find fault with that person’s spiritual process or to make his or her teachers wrong. It’s probably advisable to avoid being drawn into religious debates with people who feel mandated to win others over to their viewpoint. It can be quite stimulating to compare beliefs in a live-and-let-live atmosphere, with people capable of acknowledging the baseline assumptions they are making. Otherwise, as you suggest, it is simply tedious.

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